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my thread was closed due to what i believe was a misunderstading

hrm0418

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I recently posted a request for advice on talking to Mr Dr about adjusting my meds. I specifically said that I was not trying to get meds for anything other than pain relief, but I believe it may have been misread. I'm a little bummed. I have genuine health problems that cause me severe pain and I'm trying to get my Dr too adjust my meds so I can go back to work and get back to as normal a life as possible. I've barely been able to get out of bed since October. So I guess I worded things wrong. If this thread doesn't get closed too, I'd appreciate any advice. I'm not in the habit of asking my drs to up my meds so I was just looking for some advice on the best way of approaching the conversation. I am in so much pain and I just need some relief. Please anyone? Advice would be appreciated
 
Please have a look through The Greenlighter's Guide, and contact an appropriate Moderator.

A direct quote from said guide reads as follows
Why was my post closed or moved? I don't understand what I did wrong.

Do not lose your cool over a simple misunderstanding. Take a deep breath and try to do this:

* The post will state which moderator closed it. Send them a PM to ask why it was closed.
* Be polite. There is no need to be overly angry or belligerent – this will only make things worse.
* Clearly indicate your question or problem. If you just want an explanation, ask for one. If you disagree with their stated reason for their actions, say why you disagree. Don’t leave them guessing.
* Include a link to the thread in question. This makes it easier for them to know what you are talking about, rather than having to dig.
* Be patient. Moderators have lives, too.
* Please remember that it is not uncommon for a poster's polite inquiry or request for clarifcation to result in a thread being re-opened.

I do realize that since you are a greenlighter, you are currently not able to send PMs. Also it was never clearly stated who exactly closed your thread, but no worries.

I have reported this post for you so you can be sure that a BDD Moderator will see it soon :)

Please handle all similar situations in this way in the future. Thank You.
 
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Thanks for the help. I'm not angry, just disappointed because I really believe it was a misunderstanding and I really was hoping some of you kind people here could give me some advice. I shy away from confrontation unless its road rage. Lol. I also tend to not always stand up for myself and get pushed around quite a bit. I have a genuine issue, I need to ask my Dr for help and I was only hoping to find advice that would help me stand my ground with the Dr and get him to really listen to me. Thanks again
 
No thanks is necessary. If I had any advice to give you in your original thread, as I did read it, I would have. Unfortunately I apologize that I do not.

However I will stay here with you as long as you like until this mess gets sorted out :) I honestly do not know how long it will be before a staff member steps in.

So please, feel free to post whatever it is you feel comfortable posting. I'm yours for as long as you need me and any help I can give, I will. <3

Edit - I very much wish you had not gone off-line, as I'm afraid something bad may happen and to my knowledge no one here has any contact information. Plus it's 3:30am where I am and Bl is dying down for the night. Fuck Fuck Fuck :X

hrm0418 if you see this post PLEASE reply. Anything as long as I know you're safe.

Edit 2 - Well, at least it shows you're status as active again.
 
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Thanks for the friend request. I myself need to try and get some sleep. Take care
 
Please don't worry. I'm not thinking anything too bad can happen, I just need to get some sleep. Thanks again dear
 
Ok good you had me worried for a moment. Also don't be afraid to use what I sent you in that PM if you need to FOR ANY REASON. I can't stress that enough.

If all you need is some sleep then by all means please rest well <3 and have sweet dreams. After all this you deserve them my dear.
 
I can't get to it right now, ill have to check it on the real computer later. I'm ok I promise. Going to bed now. Have a good night!
 
You as well <3

EDIT - (to reduce this already long thread) - Mods, If at all possible, I would like a PM from whomever it was that closed hrm0418's original thread. No hard words or anything I'm not upset at all(in fact quite relieved that all is well now), I would just like to ask a question or two.
 
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hrm0418, I know at one time the approach in OD and BDD was to tell folks who need legitimate advice on dealing with meds through their Doctor to start their threads in Healthy Living. Chronic pain and medical uses really have more of an affinity to that forum. Best of luck on getting some relief.
 
delta_9 said:
I do realize that since you are a greenlighter, you are currently not able to send PMs.
Just for clarification, Greenlighters can send PMs to staff. Only PMs to non-staff are disabled until Bluelighter status.
 
I just read the 1st thread...to me it was pretty obvious she wasn't here seeking recreational drugs, and was pretty desperate just for someone to talk to.

The reason for closing was lame, and there wasn't even a closing post from a mod..

That (imo) is a good enough reason for a new member to not even bother coming back..:-(

I'm glad Delta was here to talk to the OP..:)

Just my 0.02
 
I am quite surprised this is still open.

A BDD moderator has logged in since I first reported the original post, so if this thread is something they are unaware I don't understand why.

Actually, I shouldn't say that. 2/3 of the BDD staff hasn't been online since a few days before this thread was opened, however 1 was.

The staff here knows I have great respect for them and the hard, thankless work they do, but I have to ask (again, will ALL respect), are you guys asleep at the wheel or something?

I fully expected to wake up today to not only this thread being closed and this issue resolved, but also I had high hopes for a simple PM from the staff member involved, as I mentioned I only had a few questions I wanted to ask I wasn't at all interested in starting a fight. Sadly, neither has been the case.

I guess this will just end up floating to the back pages then...

Just for clarification, Greenlighters can send PMs to staff. Only PMs to non-staff are disabled until Bluelighter status.
Thank you Enki. I did not know this. However in this case it appears as though an appropriate Mod was unavailable to repsond.

No finger pointing is in order. I'll counting this as a simple snafu as we all make mistakes :) The OP is fine and no party involved was upset or injured in anyway. For that alone I am very thankful
 
I just got back after a few days away and I'm not sure what thread it was at the moment, but I hope everything is resolved w/ it.

A lot of your posts might want to be placed in the Dark Side thread if they are more journal based about problems, or the Doctor/Healthy board if they are more medical based in the non-drug question realm. I know that those boards aren't nearly as active, but it would be better than posting in BDD and having the mods close it, you know? I hope you're doing well and things get better!
 
You know it blows my mind that a thead can be closed for reasons like this, but yet its ok for people to ask what's the best way to shoot up herion. Oh, harm reduction, right? Pff.

Anyways, OP, you have to be honest with your doctor and tell him everything you just told us. That's it. And if you really are in that much pain the doctor will help you. I started off with 10mg oxycontin and worked my way up to 60mg within just 4 weeks by simpily being honest and telling her it wasn't strong enough.
 
People need to know how to safely inject or they can cause themselves serious harm^

That being said the original thread shouldn't have been closed, imo.
 
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