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My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

yeeteth said:
But why tease me like in bed about then be like now never speak about again or I'll be upset I don't ask anymore she keeps bringing it up an my response is "it's whatever u wanna do I want u to enjoy it to" but I'm the bad guy I don't understand
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I'm sorry man, you're gonna have to be clearer in your comms - I don't understand what you're saying
 
i think it's funny the original posters username is "Two_in_the_pink"... my friend that used to talk about girl's buttholes not having hair would never shut up about "Two in the pink, one in the stink."

you guys should leave girls buttholes alone. nobody needs to be shoving stuff up their butt. if girls didn't do it, i wouldn't like watching, then i would have no guilty pleasure.
 
I haven't read all of this but why do you have to get in the ass anyway?

I mean pussy was designed for dicks and as long as that's available I'm a-ok. No need to get in the ass.

I've never done it and don't plan to. It seems kinda gay to me.

I won't even watch porn that has anal and i never allow ass play if a woman wants to poke my ass. Just not my thing. It makes me super uncomfortable so I could see where your girl is coming from.
 
foodcrisis said:
i think anal sex is mostly something that girls get paid to do in movies. watching these moving surprisingly still turns me on, really no more than regular sex, but they still work and if the girl is pretty, i definitely watch. it looks to me like it's something that girls train for, some are better than others and this can make it attractive. really though, i don't think anal gives the same chemical release as stimulatiing the clit. i'm not a girl, so i really don't know. it seems like nature made dick and vagina for loving and anal sex was just some creepy person in evolutions idea. idk. i remember once my girlfriend and i were sleeping together naked and we ended up having sleep sex, like i woke up banging her. that natural act never would've occurred with anal.
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Some girls actually like it and request it. Its far scientific, but in my personal experience I've noticed a correlation to how pretty a girl is and their interest in anal sex, in that the prettier the girl, the higher the likelihood they may have an interest in it.

This may be for a variety of reasons. Perhaps unusually pretty/feminine girls are just into kinkier things due the degree of attention they've gotten over their lives. But more likely it has to do with the associated higher degrees of sexual dimorphism.

In my unscientific study of this (ie, through my personal experiences), i have noticed that the only women who have ever expressed sincere interest in anal sex (and have proposed it themselves) had significant longer ring fingers than index fingers on the right hand. Interestingly enough, this ratio serves as a marker of ones prenatal exposure to estrogen:







In any event the only women that have ever asked for it had the finger ratio pattern shown in image B above. And all were rather extreme examples of finger pattern B. That said, not all women with pattern B have proposed it, but those with that pattern have been the only ones interested enough to request it.

Personally I don't have any special interest in anal sex. I'm a rather girthy guy, so it can be quite a struggle to get it in there and requires pre-dilation with butt plugs and so forth for it to even work. I mean its fine if she is into it and she is interested in that sort of thing. But otherwise its not worth it. It can be done without those things but it has to be a very slow process initially.

I have noticed however that almost without exception, when done correctly, all women get very wet during anal sex. It might be due to psychological factors but I think that part of it is that the act of anal sex likely expresses fluid from the bartholin glands since anal sex would put direct pressure on the anterior of the bartholin gland, causing increased wetness.

Next time you want to convince a girl to have anal sex maybe say, "but, baby, with anal sex, I will able to apply pressure to the anterior of the bartholin gland, resulting in increased wetness"...maybe all that gland talk will get her going 🤣
 
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TheUltimateFixx said:
I'm not bloody surprised. What you want is something warm and wet.

You do know that liking anal play or not has nothing to do with specific sexual attraction -?
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Yeah, I know that but seeing as I am not into dicks and that I would suppose the primary ways men have sex with men is with their dick in their ass and I don’t enjoy things up my ass then I am not bi.

I don’t find men sexually attractive. Sure, I can tell if a guy is good looking, just like a girl can tell if a girl is pretty, but that doesn’t make me attracted to them. I was just curious and what stimulating the prostrate was all about and for me it was absolutely nothing.

I have zero issue with other men enjoying this. Absolutely zero issue. It’s just not for me. I mean shit comes out there why the hell would I want to put my dick or tongue there. Just doesn’t appeal to me. And then they want a kiss after kicking your asshole. Ewww…lol But we are all different and I don’t see these people as nasty for liking it or anything. I personally just don’t like it for me. I have found gay people to be some of the coolest kindest people I’ve met for the most part. I just don’t like that kind of sex for me.
 
simstim said:
Isn't anal usually kind of rapey?
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Honestly, I really just don’t understand the appeal unless it’s two gay guys because that’s the only way they can have sex or someone has a power fetish which yeah is kinda but not quite to the extent rapey. But wth do I know.
 
Juicewrldfan said:
Honestly, I really just don’t understand the appeal unless it’s two gay guys because that’s the only way they can have sex or someone has a power fetish which yeah is kinda but not quite to the extent rapey. But wth do I know.
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I concur.

I imagine anal would feel like being constipated and trying to shit and that is a painful horrible experience to put someone you supposedly care about through.
 
I never really got why women enjoy anal :/ (absolutely zero judgement of any women who do, of course). Men often really enjoy it because they have a prostate (which has a lot more nerve endings than even the head of the penis), but women don't have that, so I don't see where the pleasure would come from.
 
Juicewrldfan said:
Honestly, I really just don’t understand the appeal unless it’s two gay guys because that’s the only way they can have sex or someone has a power fetish which yeah is kinda but not quite to the extent rapey. But wth do I know.
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That's NOT the only way gay guys can have sex. And straight guys also have a prostate and so could (and many do) also enjoy it (but not with men, obviously)
 
Juicewrldfan said:
Yeah, I know that but seeing as I am not into dicks and that I would suppose the primary ways men have sex with men is with their dick in their ass and I don’t enjoy things up my ass then I am not bi.

I don’t find men sexually attractive. Sure, I can tell if a guy is good looking, just like a girl can tell if a girl is pretty, but that doesn’t make me attracted to them.
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Well yeah that's what I'm saying. You're only gay or bi if you are sexually attracted to other men but the type of attraction doesn't dictate what you do in the bedroom. It's not obligatory to have anal if you're into other men. Believe it or not there's some gay guys who don't like things up their arse. On the other hand there's straight guys who love getting fingered or pegged by their girlfriends, that doesn't mean they wanna get it on with a bloke. It's purely to do with how your body physically responds.
Juicewrldfan said:
I was just curious and what stimulating the prostrate was all about and for me it was absolutely nothing.
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That varies too. It's very individual. Some men can't actually reach it depending on anatomy, others can but it doesn't do much for them, for yet others it's intensely pleasurable. For me it works like an instant ejaculation button, but I don't really want anything larger than a finger or a small toy. For the record I'm bi and don't enjoy anal sex that much on the receiving end.
 
simstim said:
I've never done it and don't plan to. It seems kinda gay to me.
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Why some straight guys are into it is two reasons.

One, the transgressive aspect. Going in 'the other hole' has this idea about it of being x-tra naughty and that alone means some blokes find it hot. For another, the asshole is much more of a tight fit. So if you're not very well endowed or you're used to very rough masturbation, you get more friction and so more intense stimulation.
 
TheUltimateFixx said:
Why some straight guys are into it is two reasons.

One, the transgressive aspect. Going in 'the other hole' has this idea about it of being x-tra naughty and that alone means some blokes find it hot. For another, the asshole is much more of a tight fit. So if you're not very well endowed or you're used to very rough masturbation, you get more friction and so more intense stimulation.
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I guess the main reason I am not into it is I did it once accidentally in the dark, drunk, and crammed into the back seat of a saturn when I was a teenager. I couldn't see and slipped into the first hole I found.

Woops! She screamed!

Apparently it was really painful and remained sore for a few days after.

I had pretty much zero interest in anal before but really not interested after that experience.
 
simstim said:
Woops! She screamed!

Apparently it was really painful and remained sore for a few days after.
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Poor girl hahaha, she would.

There's not much by way of lubrication up there and even if you're into it, you gotta warm up and know how to let your muscles relax. I can't think of anything more painful sex-wise than somebody cramming his unlubed dick into my arse when I'm unprepared. Makes me wince just to think.
 
negrogesic said:
Some girls actually like it and request it. Its far scientific, but in my personal experience I've noticed a correlation to how pretty a girl is and their interest in anal sex, in that the prettier the girl, the higher the likelihood they may have an interest in it.

This may be for a variety of reasons. Perhaps unusually pretty/feminine girls are just into kinkier things due the degree of attention they've gotten over their lives. But more likely it has to due with the associated higher degrees of sexual dimorphism.

In my unscientific study of this through my personal experiences, i have noticed that the only women who have ever expressed sincere interest in anal sex (and have proposed it themselves) had significant longer ring fingers than index fingers on the right hand. This ratio serves as a marker of ones prenatal exposure to estrogen:







In any event the only women that have ever asked for it had the finger ratio pattern shown in image B above. And all were rather extreme examples of finger pattern B. That said, not all women with pattern B have proposed it, but those with that pattern have been the only ones interested enough to request it.

Personally I don't have any special interest in anal sex. I'm a rather girthy guy, so it can be quite a struggle to get it in there and requires pre-dilation with butt plugs and so forth for it to even work. I mean its fine if she is into it and she is interested in that sort of thing. But otherwise its not worth it. It can be done without those things but it has to be a very slow process initially.

I have noticed however that almost without exception, when done correctly, all women get very wet during anal sex. It might be due to psychological factors but I think that part of it is that the act of anal sex likely expresses fluid from the bartholin glands since anal sex would put direct pressure on the anterior of the bartholin gland, causing increased wetness.

Next time you want to convince a girl to have anal sex maybe say, "but, baby, with anal sex, I will able to apply pressure to the anterior of the bartholin gland, resulting in increased wetness"...maybe all that gland talk will get her going 🤣
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^^ lol Patrick Bateman meets Franz Joseph Gall in da house 😉
I can definitely get into arse play, especially giving. Lots of women are either into it or want to try it at least once.
As already stated, I think it's just a bit kinky. A twitching, clean little bumhole is quite appealing... to me anyway.
There's also something quite hot about a woman wanting to use her tongue there... like "oh, wow, you dirty sexy bitch".
I'd never pressure anyone into doing that, would always wait for them to suggest, as even requesting it might give them a complex about whether there was something wrong with either their vagina, or my head...
Anal isn't the be all/end all though, it's really not a "help me!" situation if they don't want it!
Never really had my prostate stimulated though, I'm a bit curious now. I've had women's fingers/tongues/dildos there and never done that "instant orgasm" that people described. Think I need to find myself a nurse/doctor...
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
I never really got why women enjoy anal :/ (absolutely zero judgement of any women who do, of course). Men often really enjoy it because they have a prostate (which has a lot more nerve endings than even the head of the penis), but women don't have that, so I don't see where the pleasure would come from.
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i'm pretty sure i've correctly massaged my prostate before and it's basically just about as enjoyable as getting a back rub or whatever, there isn't the chemical release in the brain like rubbing the penis and ejaculating, from my experience anyways. i think it felt good, but it's not really worth doing. like a couple times i jerked off while massaging my prostate and i may've liked it, but it's really not enjoyable to just rub the prostate alone. i'd assume too that if it were really special rubbing the prostate would give a boner, which for me it didn't. if a person really likes massaged muscles though, maybe trying out the prostate gland might be worth it. also i've never gotten anything from shoving stuff that's penis sized up the butt, doesn't really hurt, but there's nothing that really goes on when it gets deep, maybe i needed to go further and start moving around my organs or something, not something i'm desiring to explore from what i felt though..

also you got to read negrogesic's post about the bartholin gland on women. i googled and can't find much about anal, it sounds like it's in the vagina from what i read. but negrogesic still kind of sounds like he or she is telling the truth
 
foodcrisis said:
also you got to read negrogesic's post about the bartholin gland on women. i googled and can't find much about anal, it sounds like it's in the vagina from what i read. but negrogesic still kind of sounds like he or she is telling the truth
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The outlet of the bartholin glands are near the opening of the vagina, but the glands themselves sit further back, so anal sex will apply pressure to the bartholin glands from behind (posterior or anterior, depending on your perspective), which will express secretions from the glands:



When in doubt, show her this diagram, most women love being shown diagrams of their internal organs!
 
foodcrisis said:
i'm pretty sure i've correctly massaged my prostate before and it's basically just about as enjoyable as getting a back rub or whatever, there isn't the chemical release in the brain like rubbing the penis and ejaculating, from my experience anyways. i think it felt good, but it's not really worth doing. like a couple times i jerked off while massaging my prostate and i may've liked it, but it's really not enjoyable to just rub the prostate alone. i'd assume too that if it were really special rubbing the prostate would give a boner, which for me it didn't. if a person really likes massaged muscles though, maybe trying out the prostate gland might be worth it. also i've never gotten anything from shoving stuff that's penis sized up the butt, doesn't really hurt, but there's nothing that really goes on when it gets deep, maybe i needed to go further and start moving around my organs or something, not something i'm desiring to explore from what i felt though..

also you got to read negrogesic's post about the bartholin gland on women. i googled and can't find much about anal, it sounds like it's in the vagina from what i read. but negrogesic still kind of sounds like he or she is telling the truth
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That definitely means you've done it wrong. Different people also need it stimulated in different ways.
Personally, I've also tried and not had any success in getting pleasure from the prostate/
 
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