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MY girlfriend caught ME masturbating!

She is not for you, who the fuck wants a fucking prude anyway?? another prude, that's what, so they can have prude sex together and keep their rude comments to themselves. cheers
 
Just curious, how do you know for sure she doesn't? How can you know what happens when you're not home?

I'm just wondering because in my experience a lot of times people who act very over-the-top against something are doing it themselves. Not in every case obviously it depends on the sort of thing... but I've seen the same thing in cheaters. A lot of going-on about how cheating is disgusting and horrible and they'd leave anyone who cheated on them in a second-when they were cheating themselves. Sometimes people can project their guilty complex pretty hard on another.

Just a thought, not that it really changes your situation whether she masturbates or not. It sort of sucks for her that she was raised to connect such shame to a normal, healthy thing.
 
MynameisnotDeja said:
because in my experience a lot of times people who act very over-the-top against something are doing it themselves. Not in every case obviously it depends on the sort of thing... but I've seen the same thing in cheaters.
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SHIIIIIT - you're totally right!! "THou protesteth too much.."

THat is a possibility.##

THat and the other which is a terribly conservative background or whatever.

Did you talk to her, OP?
 
This is just so odd to me, I love knowing my man masturbates, it turns me on... he's pretty much the same and if we're apart for a few days we tell each other when we do it and what we were thinking about... sometimes we give each other specific instructions or forbid each other from coming for a day, it's hot. For a moment I was going to suggest that this is one way the OP's girlfriend could be more involved in his fantasy life, but it's probably not going to work. Her reaction might be related to the porn, but even so - I know girls who have "forbidden" their partners from looking at porn but I don't think they believe it actually works... Seems like she doesn't want him to have fantasies or sexual desires which are independent of her, which is insecure and kinda controlling.

Anyway, I suggest the OP gives her a lot (and I mean, A LOT) of reassurance if he wants to take this forward, it might be the only way he can start talking to her about this in a calm and mature way. Essentially he needs to know why she's so upset and make sure she doesn't doesn't think that just because his sexuality is independent of her, she is somehow not "good enough" or doesn't meet his needs in bed/turn him on enough. Many girls can jump to these conclusions and a simple explanation might resolve at least some of her issues.
 
No, there is nothing wrong with jacking off though if it promotes better sex with her, that is great! It may just be that she's got ideas that it's like cheating on her. You may never change her mind. Perhaps prior to starting relationships, this should be one of the most important topics covered. I love to jack off but my wife doesn't agree. It's certainly healthier if both feel comfortable with it. One thing should be covered for both of your relationship health and that is a discussion. Perhaps you can come to terms with it.
 
MynameisnotDeja said:
That was really mean of her to put you down for it like that. What a bitch. I would agree with your assessment that she likely is not the one.
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yeah. there's a lot to be said for talking out differences, but if she's not only disgusted by masturbation, but mocking you for it, she's likely not mature or open-minded enough for that type of conversation to be productive.

edit: lol didn't realize this was two years old and i'd already responded.
 
jaxstaff9 said:
I love your reply lola, and I'm sure we all wish we could have a mate like you!
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^ Hehe yep, didn't realise this thread has somehow been resurrected and thought it was a new one, was about to write something along the lines of what I already wrote in 2011 and... yep.

Anyway, maybe lots of men think they wish they had a mate like me, but I've been single for a while now, it's as though I'm TOO laid back and controlling bitches like the OP's gf (or maybe ex by now) get to keep their men by manipulating them and trying to control their behaviour and making them feel guilty about their sexuality. Ah well... one day a guy will come who'll fully appreciate the fact that not only would I be totally happy for him to jack off to porn in the other room if I need my beauty sleep and he's horny, but would also be cool with him sneaking into the bedroom while I'm half asleep and getting/using me to finish the job ;)
 
I'm going to take a stab in the dark and guess you're both in your early 20's? This is typical, you're in your sexual prime, and she is 10 years before hers, only chicks under 30 have a problem with it
 
Chicks always make a big deal out of the first time they catch you, by the 20th time they could care less. The first time my current gf caught me I had porn going on the big screen, pants around my ankles, and I was nodded out, she walked in and I NO chance to conceal what I doing! Now she doesn't care.
 
Even if she is grossed out by masturbating, I make up the reason she was upset had more to do with you hiding it than the fact that you were punchin the munchkin.

You might consider if you're both connecting on emotional, physical and intellectual levels too. If you're not, I imagine she'd be upset you're getting your needs met elsewhere, but unable to make the effort to connect with her.

It's normal to masturbate . It's dishonest if you're hiding it or omitting the truth. This includes masturbating elsewhere. As long as you're not doing it compulsively or have other intimacy issues in your relationship you should be straight up and tell her it's something you need as a man. You should also make a request, not a demand, to have more sexual intimacy and ask if she feels like her needs are being met sexually or otherwise.
 
Why don't you get horny over the women who want to fuck you instead of the women who are only allowing all types of shit to be done to them that's painful and traumatising because they want/need the money from it? That's not hot. When people are into it, and horny and non coerced or exploited is when it's hot. Porn is hate speech against women. Amy woman with respect for herself and her fellow women would dump a guy who uses porn, the insecure or naieve put up with it. If you want to stay with this woman, well... you have an imagination, use it to masturbate. Otherwise you gonna lose her.
 
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Libby said:
Why don't you get horny over the women who want to fuck you instead of the women who are only allowing all types of shit to be done to them that's painful and traumatising because they want/need the money from it? That's not hot. When people are into it, and horny and non coerced or exploited is when it's hot. Porn is hate speech against women. Amy woman with respect for herself and her fellow women would dump a guy who uses porn, the insecure or naieve put up with it. If you want to stay with this woman, well... you have an imagination, use it to masturbate. Otherwise you gonna lose her.
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What if he uses his imagination to think about women getting gang banged?
 
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