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MY girlfriend caught ME masturbating!

I've been there. I seem to be a magnet for those types. Many females are unbelievably insecure and shockingly bitchy about their bfs having a masty. Oh I have been there and I feel for you. It sounds like your gf wants to OWN you sexually. Either get rid of her or get better at hiding it.
 
She doesn't masturbate? Then how does she know what she likes in bed? How can she possibly direct you in pleasuring her so that she gets the most out of your intimate experiences? If she doesn't know what she likes or how she likes to be touched then intimacy may be an issue for you down the line.

Also, all men masturbate. Men are visual creatures and they look at porn to facilitate arousal during masturbation, whereas women's fantasies tend to be more mental. Masturbation is a natural, healthy thing. If your girlfriend has hang-ups about this, well, you may need to try to have a serious talk with her about this sort of thing.

It would probably be a good idea to make sure that you have total privacy before your next masturbation session :)
 
sandman_i_am said:
She doesn't masturbate? Then how does she know what she likes in bed? How can she possibly direct you in pleasuring her so that she gets the most out of your intimate experiences? If she doesn't know what she likes or how she likes to be touched then intimacy may be an issue for you down the line.

Also, all men masturbate. Men are visual creatures and they look at porn to facilitate arousal during masturbation, whereas women's fantasies tend to be more mental. Masturbation is a natural, healthy thing. If your girlfriend has hang-ups about this, well, you may need to try to have a serious talk with her about this sort of thing.

It would probably be a good idea to make sure that you have total privacy before your next masturbation session :)
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Females want to have it both ways. You can't win.
 
Never apologize when you're not wrong. Tell her if she can't deal with you jerkin it, she can hit the road.
 
If she caught you jerking off she should have given you a blow job.

There is definitely nothing wrong with you. If you feel that she is not the one then she probably isn't. I really do not ever have doubts about my partner, like ever and I did have doubts with other people.

Here is the thing, you are getting a glimpse into how she is and how she is going to be probably for the rest of your time together. If you don't accept how she is now then once you guys get married things will probably not change. She will probably be a prude. And once u get married, you can't complain about her and try to change her because you knew these things about her and still chose to be with her. Know what I mean?

Unless you can work it out with her. If you are ok with things being this way for the rest of your life then there is no problem. I mean, if you love her a lot and are willing to live with her not liking masturbating, then it can be worked out. She doesn't like it, you don't do it in the house and things are ok. I dunno if you are willing to live like this. But if she is a great girl and is awesome in all other aspects than this then it can be worked out. It's not that easy to find someone who is perfect, who meets ALL our expectations. This is a pretty small thing, I think. Since your sex life is good and everything else is. Everyone has something wrong with them.

You really have to give this some thought. If you don't think she's the one, then give her a favor and leave her so you both can find someone else. But if you want to stay with her, then masturbation is not the most important thing in the world.
 
My ex was very much like this - didn't wank; thought i was a deviate for watching porn, masturbating and wanting sex more than once a week.

That's why she's my ex!
 
hydroazuanacaine said:
OP, your girlfriend finds masturbation to be strange and disgusting? I have a hard time believing that she is otherwise a great catch.
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exactly. you could always try and compromise, educate, blahblahblah, but unless you're REALLY committed to this girl i'd say life's too short.
 
I was with my ex for 3 1/2 years.......It was exactly that kind of incident that she wouldn't shut up about and blamed all future problems on....

It was crazy IMO but you can't tell her that.........Like somehow that equates to infidelity lol....

I have never cheated on anyone, as caring a person as you will find, and always make sure she cums first.......yet my luck is terrible with women....

I have damn near given up at this point......at 26.........Hell if there were a decent girl I probably wouldn't be able to tell anyway :)...

I can know everything about a guy I meet within 5 mins......but females are another story entirely....
 
^yes, that she did.

Z Y G G Y said:
If she caught you jerking off she should have given you a blow job.
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<3<3 this would be ideal.

bunt said:
Maybe she was disgusted by your shameful reaction and flimsy cover-up....
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I think this has something to do with it. I didn't mention that she had found porn in the browser history and she brought it up on a couple of occations. She almost viewed as cheating in some convoluted way.. so I knew she would have a negative reponse and quickly closed the browser and tried to cover it up as best as I could; yeah not sexy. But I'm positive if I would have just continued and tried to get her involved it would have turned out worse.

double ewe said:
exactly. you could always try and compromise, educate, blahblahblah, but unless you're REALLY committed to this girl i'd say life's too short.
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yeah, I've tried explaining things from my POV but it sort of falls on deaf ears. She thinks logically and is pretty open on other subjects which makes it even more difficult for me to accept.

djep said:
My ex was very much like this - didn't wank; thought i was a deviate for watching porn, masturbating and wanting sex more than once a week.

That's why she's my ex!
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yes, this I can relate to.

MynameisnotDeja said:
She probably does, secretly, and has some sort of guilt/shame complex about it. Was she raised strictly religious?
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No. She really doesn't. and she was raised strick but not religious. She's asian.
 
^ actually I didn't find it very relavent myself which is why I casually mentioned it when quicky responding about specific backround info in that last post. If I found it all important I would have mentioned it in the op
 
Please. As if she doesn't masturbate herself.

I've never understood what the big deal is with this. It's incredibly immature for someone to get angry with their partner for masturbating. Just because someone masturbates does NOT mean they don't feel like being intimate with their significant other so I'm not sure where all of this negativity comes from. You shouldn't have to be ashamed or worried over something like this.

Ask yourself why she's so bothered by this. Is she really insecure or what? Does your right (or left) hand really make her feel inadequate or what? Does she come from a strict family? I say this because I seriously cannot think of any other reason why a person would get upset over something this silly (unless they're genuinely grossed out in which case they're being utterly ridiculous because EVERYONE masturbates).

I have absolutely no problem with my s.o. masturbating. Good for him. If he can do something that alleviates boredom and makes him feel good then by all means, he should do it as much as he wants. I don't mind him looking at porn either (so long as it's not on my computer). That's another thing I've never understood: girls who get upset with their boyfriends for watching porn. Big. Damn. Deal. They're guys. They're visual. Just because they're into porn doesn't mean you're inadequate or getting cheated on. Watching porn does not = cheating. Women need to quit feeling so damn insecure about this whole issue and quit being so controlling with their partners already! 8)
 
schwiftee said:
^yes, that she did.
yeah, I've tried explaining things from my POV but it sort of falls on deaf ears. She thinks logically and is pretty open on other subjects which makes it even more difficult for me to accept.
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You call her getting upset over you doing something perfectly normal and natural logical? C'mon now ;) Not to knock on your girlfriend but her view of this thing isn't logical, IMO. I guess everyone's different though. I just seriously can't imagine getting pissed at someone for masturbating. The idea of it makes me wanna laugh out loud.
 
You shoulda been like " wanna help? " =D
And if shes still pissed off " should ive fucked you in your sleep then? "
 
Ask her if she'd prefer you wake her up next time she's sleeping and you want sex IMO. Haha I bet you went soft real quick when she booked you ;).
 
You need to talk about this.

Why would you be with someone who isn't as sexually liberated as you are tbh?

Although it doesn't sound like you are MUCH more than her - you felt like it was something you needed to hide.

If she can't accept you need to touch yourself, then I can't see how this is going to work - she doesn't sound confident in her skin if she can't touch HERSELF!

I would ask her however - is it the masturbation that freaks her out, or the fact you're masturbating to porn?

Go, talk to her.
 
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