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My boyfriend wants to cum on my face

People do weird things during sex.

It isn't really good to psychoanalize the whole thing.

Either you are into something or you are not. There are little things you might not be into to please your partner and that is ok. But don't do anything you are really no into.

It is biology and psychology combined. It is best not to question it to much unless a certain act is detrimental either emotionally or physically. If it makes one person feel bad about themselves or is physically uncomfortable then it is a bit of an unfair request.

For example anal sex is not necesarily unfair to request but if a someone does not enjoy it then it should not be happening. I enjoy giving anal to a woman who enjoys it. If she doesn't I don't want to do it. So if I was to insist for it knowing my partner did not want it, that would be unfair.

I personally won't do anything I don't want to in the bedroom. I think it is kind of silly that you are talking about things like choking and cumming of a face as taboo and super kinky stuff. Having your oxygen limited during an orgasm is pretty fun in my book.

Personally I like to cum on a woman's face sometimes. If she isn't into it, it takes all the fun out of it though. The reason is purely sexual and definitly not about degradation or anything like that to me but to someone else who knows?

I know some people view anal as dominating and sadistic and they get off on that. For me its just like a different way to make love to a woman and if you do it right you are nailing her g spot the whole time but then again if she is not into it, well then I really would not ever even bring it up.

I wouldn't neccesarily leave a woman because she was not into one sex act. Vanilla sex is just fine with the right partner.

I suppose I would not be in a relationship with someone I was not really into that much to begin and there are so many different ways to be attracted to someone I am not even going to get into that. I sill say this though and that is if you do not change positions and have sex the same way everytime things will get a bit robotic and stale.

There are hundreds if not thousands of ways to have sex and well missionary is not the only one. I would get really bored very fast with just missionary but I doubt I would be involved with a woman who was boring sexually.

So where I jizz on a woman is not a big deal. I get off on my partner getting off and that at least for me is a good approach to sex.
 
Seeing in that you two seem "close", I would just tell him straight up that it turns you off. If he cares than he'll stop asking. When I was younger and a porn freak I thought it was super hot, but found out that it's best left to the pro's. In practice its very anticlimactic, for me. It's like oh, wow, ok now wash your face. I've had ex's who dug it but I would only do it if they weren't wearing makeup.

I'm the kind of guy who will take sex far into the abyss, but only enjoy it if the other women is digging it as much as me.

I would say I would rather feel uncomfortable in bed than make another women feel uncomfortable, but than again I'm awesome and marriage material, lol.
 
samnslumberland, cumming onto people is something many guys like (I'm including homosexuals). Its a matter of sexual experience. Can you imagine doing sex only one way, for your entire life? There is a reason that kinky people generally have very long relationships (refer to the post with a 10+ yr relationship above). And yes, it sounds like the hotter you are getting, the more he wants to have sex with you. NORMAL.

I've done a lot of things *WITH* my wife. I am more experienced than her (okay, was)... She's open to things, and some took a while. When we first started dating/etc. She would get out of bed, covering her body, because of her small tits. She's 102lbs with almost an A-cup. After 2 days of that, I made her quit. I love her bobbies. Yet before me, the few guys she's been with didn't think of her as sexy or worse, rejected her for her small breasts.

It took about 3 months for her to GET IT, that I wanted her like she is. She wanted a boob job (C-Cup) but I would never buy them and it would be a turn off. The woman I dated before her had a nice set of D's - but I still didn't like how they felt and looked. Now, she's cool with flashing her tits like mardi gras parties, and even gone nude. She gets compliments.

Since we first meet, cumming on her face is something SHE likes... but won't swallow, because she doesn't like the taste. The "degrading factor" doesn't apply. When two consenting adults share in sex acts, its out of respect. I would do any kinky thing with my wife, as long as we both enjoyed it.
Things she's done since we meet:
Nudity. Public nudity. Water sports, in both directions. (Peeing on a person) She said she would NEVER DO THIS, but she after the first time - she loves it. She'll pee on other people. There are a lot of guys who like being pissed on or drink it from a woman.

On our first date, I've been honest with her and never cheated. I told her I am not a one-woman guy. Most people are not and women cheat almost as much as men. She had "trust" issues at first, but I introduced her to many of my past lovers as I am friends with them. She has befriended them. But having sex with other women is something I do a few times a year, as I am very happy with my wife. Before her, I used to be with 3~5 different women a month. She was already into girls before we meet, but I have NEVER pressured her to have threesomes - but told her I would rather share her with other women than just have sex with another woman. Really, I do. If I'm having sex with another woman, I am wishing my wife was there. Remember earlier about my wife not swallowing? I have other women for that :)

After threesomes or foursomes, we are extra horny for each other and will fuck like rabbits for days.

By the way, cum on the face doesn't mean its a gateway sex act to orgies.

Trust and communication is key. I would never leave my wife for another woman. I love her inside and outside the bedroom.
 
Speaking for myself here, I don't jump straight into the kinkiest stuff I want to do with a new girlfriend right away. With your boyfriend, it could easily be that he is just now entering the period of the relationship where he is comfortable to start thinking outside the box. (pun intended ;) )
 
just go for it. I find that cumming on a woman s face is a bit of a turn on for me. my girl loves cum and she never had a problem with it and I can honestly say ive only done it once maybe twice cause although its a turn on for me and i think it is for her too. I still prefer cumming inside her. every time I say im gonna cum on her face when the time cums im like nah maybe next time this is just feeling too good to pull out lol so yeah I dont think you have to worry about it being a regular thing if it will make him happy just do it. The poster above me is correct it takes a while to get to that comfort level with your partner. he prolly doesnt want to wait too long too tell you what he likes or you might be like wtf why now after all this time. he could have been afraid of scaring you off ive been there and done that
 
I didn't read the rest of this thread, so apologies if anything I say is already irrelevent.

First of all, your boyfriend sounds like he may be a lot more kinky than he's letting on, and because he loves you so much and feel so close to you, he feels safe sharing those kinks. A lot of kinky people feel awkward that their kinks may be seen as disgusting by people who are less kinky than themselves. He might be super kinky and this is just him testing the water.

My ex gf really liked to make me cum, and give me blowjobs. I don't remember who asked who first, but I started cumming on her face, on her tits, on her ass, wherever I wanted. When giving me a blowjob and I said I'm getting close, she would often ask me where I want to cum. She even got really into it and would eat as much of the cum as she could or rub it in her tits before cleaning up.

I feel weird about sharing this, because like I said, us kinky folks sometimes aren't sure how to draw the line with sexy for us but just plain weird to vanilla folk. When we had been together years and I felt incredibly close to her, I asked her if she would piss on me or atleast piss for me to watch. Well she peed on me, then got really excited and wanted me to pee on her. The next time I asked if she wanted to try that again she said she had no interest in peeing on me but she would be excited for me to pee on her. I think once she even asked me to out of the blue.

So maybe that will give you a little perspective. Most really kinky people don't share it right off the bat and sometimes feel scared to. No one wants to lose a relationship over a kink that they enjoy. It sounds like your man really loves you and feels close to you. He trusts you enough to open up some of his deepest taboo desires to you and ask if you want to try them out with him.

Oh yeah, side note. When I would cum on her face/huge tits/whatever, it was always a bonus bj, usually like in the morning. No fucking way am I pulling out of that sweet pussy for any cum action.

edit: Just read clitnhawks post above. Perfectly stated.

Also if he's in it to degrade you as a human being, then there should be other warning signs in his non sexual behavior. On the other hand, he may just have a kink for degradation. I don't think sexual degradation between consenting adults is wrong in any way, but of course it may not be something you are willing to try. And of course beyond just trying it, if you really just don't like something, he should understand and quit asking for it.
 
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One day, when my wife and I were fighting, she joined me in the shower out of nowhere? And began to give me the s******** b****** she had ever given before. She licked and sucked until she caused me to c** all over her face and she kept jerking my dick as I came causing me to squirt everywhere with no caution or care as to where it landed. That was the most amazing sexual memory I've ever had with my wife. Don't be afraid to share that with your boyfriend.
 
It seems like he is becoming more confident with you and expressing his desires. Maybe you have some desires/interests that you sexually want to try? you could reach a compromise possibly. If not explain to him that you are uncomfortable with his demands and you should reach a mutual agreement if that fails... he is a sexual deviant ;)
 
Jsnbasanti said:
One day, when my wife and I were fighting, she joined me in the shower out of nowhere? And began to give me the s******** b****** she had ever given before. She licked and sucked until she caused me to c** all over her face and she kept jerking my dick as I came causing me to squirt everywhere with no caution or care as to where it landed. That was the most amazing sexual memory I've ever had with my wife. Don't be afraid to share that with your boyfriend.
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Haha, your wife is awesome for initiating it during/after (I'm assuming it ended before your shower was over) your fight. You're lucky. Funny, when my boyfriend finally did cum on my face (really it got everywhere, not just my face) for the first time, it was when we were having sex just after a really heated argument. Kind of similar to your scenario, but I'm not the one who decided that he was going to cum ON me, it was unexpected. I ended up opening my mouth to catch some of it and going along with it which made him happy, so I'm definitely down to let him do it more often from here on out. I guess I've learned that I was making mountains out of ant hills.
 
Good on you for overcoming your barrier hunni. I bet you feel much more relieved now that you've indulged in your boyfriends wish.

I believe that you have to compromise where sex/sexual acts are concerned to a certain extent. It brings you closer together and you get to explore each other's little fantasies.

You've made your boyfriend happy and I bet that means a lot to him.

I, personally am always trying new and exciting things with my partner. We have a crazy and rampant sex life.

It's good to keep your sex life alive and keep that fire burning for one another, boring and standardised sex is not what you want out it. Enjoy yourself to the max, share your fantasies with each other, act upon them. You only live one so enjoy the ride sweet.

Good luck and I hope you enjoy your many more facials ;-) x
 
You should both learn to enjoy playing in eachothers bodily fluids and ejaculate. It can be very intimate and loving. No need for any degrading feelings. If you feel nervous about him cumming all over your face start of with your tummy and breasts. Ask him to rub it all over you and into your skin. Kissing deeply and passionately all the while. Even tenderly. Rub it into his skin too. Make it an erotic, sensual, passionate, and loving exchange. Beg him for it and explain to him how much you enjoy him showering you with his love. That shit will get hot and turn both of you on. After a month of that you'll be begging him to cum all over your face and have him kiss you lovingly afterwards and use his hands to rub it all over and into both of your facial skin. Lick it together.

Ciao!
 
I remember the ONE time I came on my girlfriend's face. Basically she didn't want me to do it, but I convinced her it would be fun and did it anyway. I felt horrible about it because I could tell she hated it as I was finishing, and I remember telling her we would never do that again.

I know some people are into it and that's cool, but that experience kind of showed me how truly degrading of an act that can be, especially if a girl really doesn't want it to happen. I can't give a facial to someone that I truly have feelings for. Well, unless she asked of course, but even then I am pretty sure that experience changed my whole outlook on facials.
 
Each to their own. The lass I'm currently seeing on and off really likes to get hair pulled hard and leaving hand prints on her bum but she doesn't do cum in the face or oral very much either, where as I fucking really get off on it and love using my finger and tongue. Fucking WOOF... Everyones pecadilioes are different aren't they.

I have also found that the majority of women I have slept with in my and their mid 20s until early 30's(present time) actually prefer being dominated in bed... Obviously you have to be tactful when aiming to make them cum, but ye, generally I have found that women like getting a bit of rough loving.
 
samnslumberland said:
As of late, my boyfriend has been telling me that he wants to cum on my face while we're having sex and has been more sexually aggressive overall. I'm slightly uncomfortable with this because a) I'd rather he didn't, to be completely honest, and b) we've been sleeping together for over six months (we were FWB before being exclusive) and he's never expressed a desire to do anything of this sort. He always says, "I want to cum inside of you" or something along those lines. He's also been pushing for anal more so than usual, which is something that we're easing into slowly as I'm new to it.

I've gone through some pretty drastic weight loss recently and although I had an attractive figure before, it has definitely improved and even I can acknowledge that. Because of this I've been more comfortable in bed, particularly with completely removing all of my clothes while on top and in the daylight. I'm wondering if this is why he's become more aggressive and explicit in the bedroom? Is it a result of an increased attraction to me? Or, should I worry that there are other things going on and we're experiencing some sort of emotional disconnect? I'll admit that we've both been stressed lately and haven't been perfectly getting along all the time.

I plan on asking him about it myself, but I'd also like to get some opinions from other men and women who may have some insight or experience with this. I've read/been told from other men that when they're in a loving, committed relationship with a girl whom they truly care about, they don't have a desire to do things such as cum on their girlfriend's faces out of respect for them; that it's reserved for porn. Thoughts? Am I reading too far into this?

Edit: I should also mention that his sex drive has seemed to increase along the same time that he has begun being more aggressive, and he's been able to last longer. He is not taking any medication, does not indulge in any drugs other than cannabis, and drinks beer almost daily but not enough to get drunk.
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you gotta do what you are comfortable with. you don't owe anyone a fucking thing. I didn't read the whole thread, just your post so this may have already been said. if you don't like the idea, tell him. if he persists, move on. selfish fuck imo.
 
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