• S E X
    L O V E +
    R E L A T I O N S H I P S


    ❤️ Welcome Guest! ❤️


    Posting Guidelines Bluelight Rules
  • SLR Moderators: Senior Staff

My boyfriend wants to cum on my face

tell him that you get to do something sexually that you've always wanted to do.

All of this should be part of an open and honest discussion of each of your wants and desires. It may be a little degrading but it is private, and it's not dangerous, so it's something that's not unreasonable to consider. Anal on the other hand is totally your decision, and if you're not comfortable with it tell him so. I did it with my ex-gf a few times and neither of us found it that great so we didn't continue.

The absolute MOST important part is an open dialog between partners.

If he can't listen to you and hear your concerns, there are deeper issues.
 
I would say personally is would most likely be because he has seen it in porn and now feels comfortable enough to ask you as your now a couple (happens all the time most men don't wanna scare a fwb off by asking to give facials and pearl necklaces), congrats on the weight loss and you should always be proud of your body
 
It's only demeaning if you let it be. Really it's just a bit of cum on your face, no different to having a guy pull out and blow on your chest.
The men who have asked me to do it just find it visually stimulating or have just always had it on their fuckit list - there was nothing sinister involved and I didn't feel any less because of it. If anything they were extremely appreciative I let them do it.
 
If you don't feel comfortable about it, don't. Simple as that. If you're unsure, do a bit of research, figure it out. If you want, say you'll try it once and see how it goes.
 
When doing oral, I always finish him off in my mouth. If I'm in the process of switching birth controls or forget to take it, I will finish him off in my mouth after PIV. I don't mind having his cum on my face or anywhere else on/in my body, I have a shower and his bodily fluids don't gross me out anyway. He's never cum ON me though, it's never come up until just recently when he started saying that he wants to do it on my face.

It sounds like that he wants to add more acts. He's came in your mouth before. Don't worry about it.
 
Just curious here, does this suggest there is something wrong with him if he is interested in participating in an orgy?

Also, is youre advice for this young lady srsly, "just do it" ?

@samnslumberland id say communication; ask him to express to you why he wants to do certain things, and tell him how it makes you feel (honestly), and then ask him to describe it to you in a way that turns you on perhaps. theres nothing wrong with telling your boyfriend the idea of it turns you off.

My point is if she is scared of a little cum on her face that perhaps "orgies" may be a lot more intense for her. So be happy he's asking for that, and not group sex. Yes, my advice was to "just do it." Why? Because something so small shouldn't be made a huge deal.
 
I had a partner who wanted to do this to me. I found it degrading as well. But that may be because he all of a sudden wanted to do it when we were t getting along, and he'd also previously talked about stuff like that being what he'd do to a pickup not a partner
 
I had a partner who wanted to do this to me. I found it degrading as well. But that may be because he all of a sudden wanted to do it when we were t getting along, and he'd also previously talked about stuff like that being what he'd do to a pickup not a partner

THIS is what concerns me. I'm not worried about taking a load to the face, I'm worried about how it will impact our relationship outside of the bedroom. He just all of a sudden has the desire to do it and we've been a bit rockier than normal lately.
 
I can understand that, you need to counter offer with something you want to do to him. Sounds like he is a bit of a dom, why not oagree to it as long as agrees to a little sub action, maybe some spanking and or some clamps on him
 
This, without a doubt, means he is getting more comfortable with you and yes, is gaining attraction, fueled by you looking better and better. Sounds like you have a fun relationship. :)
 
Hi i really feel i need to say please please don't believe this statement .

" when they're in a loving, committed relationship with a girl whom they truly care about, they don't have a desire to do things such as cum on their girlfriend's faces out of respect for them; that it's reserved for porn".

Not true at all


. My long term partner and i ( 12 year relationship ) are very much in love and i respect her immensely . we are quite broad minded and do a lot of this sort of shit including the facial you mentioned . the difference may be , she really likes that sort of thing and she will often be the instigator of new things. i don't think it is fare to say a facial is a "demeaning or degrading "act, IF you are up 4 it and feel in control of things. it can be quite sensual!,( i would where glasses though i am told it really stings in the eyes ) if you choose to go 4 it try not to think of it as degrading , try to enjoy !! its good clean fun (well cleenish) and you aren't doing any harm .
As another contributor already stated " he will probably only ask once or twice and then forget about it. you never know you might like it and be asking him to do it in the future.
His increase sex drive and "aggressive sex" I would say is almost certainly because you are looking hot!!! if you feel like you are looking more hot it probably shows and terns him on . If he gets too aggressive i would tell him straight away though. My partner likes me to be a bit aggressive but i think that you do need to be a be careful and have some rules with that sort of thing .I would never expect my partner to do something she didn't enjoy or was uncomfortable with , but i would be disappointed if she didn't at least want to try something new, generally speaking she enjoys doing anything that really turns me on, and I enjoy anything that really turns her on.
for us it is all about doing something new that feels naughty. we are both always finding new stuff that turns us on, from little naughty things like a facial, too more complicated things like involving other people in our sex life. feeling naughty keeps a sexual relationship alive in our experience. Pushing the boundaries a little bit like this we have always found brings us closer and make a relationship stronger.
As a result after over 10 years in our relationship and we both feel like our sex life is the best it has ever been, and we are now in our 40s.!!!
If however he ever forces you ether physically or philologically to do anything you don't want to do. i would end your relationship. that is genuin disrespect .
sorry for any bad spelling i am dyslexic .
 
Last edited:
Just let him cum on your face.

As a guy trust me, we enjoy it.

He probably thinks you are pretty if he is trying to come on your face or at least ime with where I cum.
 
My girlfriend loves it when I cum on her face, I do it for her mainly as I much prefer to cum inside her as uts a better sensation. Nice to record it and watch back later tho ;)
 
Its not really an act of affection...more like "Take this bitch" Titty fucking, doggy style with pull out and come on ass can all be fun in the right setting but really just a lighter version of the face.
Me and the boys on golf trips would talk about chicks at work we would bone and my bud coined the phrase "in her or on her" meaning if she was hot and a bitch or not that attractive then on her and if she was cool in her. I would have a little chat with yer BF and determine his motives, likely they are dark.
 
I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I wouldn't feel comfortable with it. Nor I would with anal though. >.< He recently started lightly *trying* to choke me? IDK MAKES ME FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I just like plain ole vanilla sex--maybe I'm just boring like that. ;o
 
Its not really an act of affection...more like "Take this bitch" Titty fucking, doggy style with pull out and come on ass can all be fun in the right setting but really just a lighter version of the face.
Me and the boys on golf trips would talk about chicks at work we would bone and my bud coined the phrase "in her or on her" meaning if she was hot and a bitch or not that attractive then on her and if she was cool in her. I would have a little chat with yer BF and determine his motives, likely they are dark.

You're projecting. I don't want to think that all men are quite this loathsome and ugly, but, it's true, he may have some less-than-savory motives behind wanting to squirt on your face. It could be as simple as "he saw it in porn" and it turns him on - he may not have thought it through beyond that, but there is generally some psychological link between these types of desires and the will to dominate. Playing around with a master/slave dynamic and other light BDSM type games can be quite fun, especially if there is a tradeoff. If everybody attempts to be mindful of the source of their desires, things like physical restraint, choking, humiliation, etc. can bring some 'spice' to the bedroom. Of course, you may be better off not digging in too deep.

There have probably been a number of women who set out to discover 'why' their boyfriend wanted to cum on their face or take a piss on them and wound up not liking the answer. You might find that he has an unconscious desire to control you and make you his little bitch. If that's the case, you might have been better off just letting him do it (or not) and not asking questions.

I personally have enjoyed cumming all over my sex partner's face or tit's, pissing all over her, playfully roughing her up a little bit, choking her, etc. but generally all at her request. Of course, I have also enjoyed being pissed on, beaten, choked, humiliated, etc., and i feel like as long as it was in the mutual pursuit of pleasure, it was all in good fun (and I quite enjoyed a lot of it). I feel like I am pretty self-aware, and in tune with my partner's desires, so it doesn't feel like there's much of a risk I'm attempting to carry out some repressed sinister desire. I don't think everybody can say that.

The point is that there is that there is no universal answer to the question "why does my boyfriend want to come in my face". What you probably need to ask yourself is "do I really want to know the answer?". Probably not. See if you can figure out a way to make it good for you as well. "It turns me on when he (or she) is turned on" usually works for me. Otherwise, get an umbrella or keep letting him fill you with his seed (it's the Christian thing to do anyway :o).
 
Last edited:
There have probably been a number of women who set out to discover 'why' their boyfriend wanted to cum on their face or take a piss on them and wound up not liking the answer. You might find that he has an unconscious desire to control you and make you his little bitch. If that's the case, you might have been better off just letting him do it (or not) and not asking questions.

He's definitely controlling in a lot of ways, but he's not entirely rude about it. Sometimes he'll put his hand over my mouth or lightly choke me if we're being rough and he thinks I'm too loud (basically if roommates are home).

UPDATE: So, I asked him about it and he says that it's simply something he said when caught up in the moment a few times. He then asked me if I had the desire to try it (uhh), in which I responded that I'm open to trying new things that please him. I'm not sure if he could detect any hesitation on my part, or if this is something that he's not entirely committed to himself, but he suggested that we wait until we're both drunk to do it (should we decide to at all).
 
Top