footscrazy
Bluelight Crew
^^ I think that was a bad move...
While ultimately it is still her decision, having it there, easily accessible, will make her decision not to use that much harder. And while the idea of having 'one more sesh' is good in theory, I think it is very unlikely in practice. Even if she has this one go at it and is able to put it away and forget about it - in the back of her mind will be - well, I was able to use and nothing bad happened! Maybe I can control it now? And in a few months, with that in mind, it will be a little bit easier to get on again. And I believe it could be very hard to reign it in again until it gets out of control and bad shit starts happening again - because she'll be in the honeymoon period of use - it'll all be positives and no negatives yet. I find it hard enough to remember why I've quit when I'm not using - I know I'd find it impossible while getting high.
Also, sometimes when I've been trying to take a break I've thrown around the, 'oh I'd love to get on' - I do it because in a way I want the decision to be taken out of my hands. It's my way of not taking full responsibility. When you're trying to quit (at least for me) there's a constant barrage of should I/shouldn't I, and it drives you crazy at times. Sometimes it's easier to put it out there ('I'd love to get on'), and then when someone brings it to you, it helps you feel like you're not completely responsible for getting on (oh, it's not like I actually called my dealer and scored, it was just here...')
I hope I'm making sense here, just trying to get across the complicated mindstate you can get when quit/trying to quit.
While ultimately it is still her decision, having it there, easily accessible, will make her decision not to use that much harder. And while the idea of having 'one more sesh' is good in theory, I think it is very unlikely in practice. Even if she has this one go at it and is able to put it away and forget about it - in the back of her mind will be - well, I was able to use and nothing bad happened! Maybe I can control it now? And in a few months, with that in mind, it will be a little bit easier to get on again. And I believe it could be very hard to reign it in again until it gets out of control and bad shit starts happening again - because she'll be in the honeymoon period of use - it'll all be positives and no negatives yet. I find it hard enough to remember why I've quit when I'm not using - I know I'd find it impossible while getting high.
Also, sometimes when I've been trying to take a break I've thrown around the, 'oh I'd love to get on' - I do it because in a way I want the decision to be taken out of my hands. It's my way of not taking full responsibility. When you're trying to quit (at least for me) there's a constant barrage of should I/shouldn't I, and it drives you crazy at times. Sometimes it's easier to put it out there ('I'd love to get on'), and then when someone brings it to you, it helps you feel like you're not completely responsible for getting on (oh, it's not like I actually called my dealer and scored, it was just here...')
I hope I'm making sense here, just trying to get across the complicated mindstate you can get when quit/trying to quit.