Loss of sensation takes forever to cum

[CraneTrain]

An accident when I was a teen left me with diminished sensation in from the waist down. This post is specifically about my penis. And the fact that it takes me hours to cum. Can be a blessing and a curse. A lot of women love it but after a few hours we’re both ready for me to finish. Sometimes I just can’t. But I’m wondering if there is any kind of medication, topical lube or ANYTHING that will help me feel more from sex and ultimately help me finish within the first hour at least.

 

[lexxbell]

they do make sensitizing lubes, usually have like a warming or cooling effect. i think they’re made to increase blood flow to your junk. i deal with this a lot too, i’m on daily pregabalin for nerve pain and oxcarbazepine (which is also usually for nerve pain/seizures but i take it as a mood stabilizer.) and while my pregabalin helps my nerve pain, when your nerves are less sensitive to pain usually that’s not the only thing they’re less sensitive to. between that and the hormonal meds i’m on, i’m not nearly as sensitive as i used to be

i’ve used some of the sensitizing lubes i mentioned and they usually help a bit but not a crazy amount. certain supplements like zinc, ALCAR, L-Citrulline, and B vitamins can help with nerve health and blood flow too. in terms of toys- cock rings and vibrations can help. restricts blood flow and the fast, frequent sensations of vibrations can be sensitizing in the moment

 

[placebonaut]

I suffer from anorgasmia, only 2 things have ever helped, the best by far is 2C-B, MDMA also works but causes delayed ejaculation so you will need to wait until the come down for the right balance of enhanced sensitivity and ability to cum.

please do your research on both of these drugs before considering if they are right for you and safe for you to take, also read about harm reduction before taking either, they are not without risk.

2C-B amplifies your sense of touch significantly, you can take enough of it that your feel like you're entire body is hyper sensitive to the extent that a mild gentle breeze has you feeling like you're buzzing with electricity, thankfully the intensity scales with dose (at least in my experience)

 

[M!$TER-ED]

Not being able to achieve an organism is frustrating. It's like putting in the work and not getting paid.

 

[placebonaut]

Not being able to achieve an organism is frustrating. It's like putting in the work and not getting paid.

you have no idea, 40+ fucking years, the frustration is incredible

 

[M!$TER-ED]

you have no idea

Yeah I do

 

[chippermonk]

I can relate to having a slow as hell orgasm and how upsetting it can be. At the same time, for me ( ymmv) my trigger can get surprisingly fast if I'm in a situation where the mental stimuli is high for me. In other words kinks, for me ones relating to a sense of danger or " am I sure I ought to be doing this?". I'm not saying it can work for you @CraneTrain, but I think an awful lot of pleasure, stimulation, release happens in the brain, so consider what really turns you on and seek it out.
Also, I think the pressure of expectations, of feeling one "ought to come", "what is wrong with me?", that you are you being judged by your partner, can really fuck up the whole process.

 

[placebonaut]

you have no idea, 40+ fucking years, the frustration is incredible

I feel for you brother!

I can relate to having a slow as hell orgasm and how upsetting it can be. At the same time, for me ( ymmv) my trigger can get surprisingly fast if I'm in a situation where the mental stimuli is high for me. In other words kinks, for me ones relating to a sense of danger or " am I sure I ought to be doing this?". I'm not saying it can work for you @CraneTrain, but I think an awful lot of pleasure, stimulation, release happens in the brain, so consider what really turns you on and seek it out.
Also, I think the pressure of expectations, of feeling one "ought to come", "what is wrong with me?", that you are you being judged by your partner, can really fuck up the whole process.

Cumming isn't an issue for me, only get delays when I'm using something.

it's just not satisfying in any way, no intensity, the world definitely dose not move, it's not even a trunk driving past the house.

I have more rewarding shits.

Kinks, I've tried a lot, pretty much game for anything because you never know what might actually work, it's certainly better, and I'm kinky by nature I think anyway.

agree on the mental side, starting to be aware of what your partner wants/expects can just be a kiss of death to sexy time.

I have mental baggage as well, but never thought it played a factor, but honestly it might do, maybe that's why the MDMA helped, then the 2C-B sensitivity made the super wow moment, it's been 2 months since I last did mdma and I didn't roll on on (think because I was taking NAC), taking 2C-B hasn't worked as well, maybe I need a bit of mental soul searching with the MDMA 1st to help reset my brain a bit, ket doesn't seem to work as well as MDMA for this specifically though I prefer it generally for sorting my head out.

 

[CraneTrain]

Thanks for the tips and “good” to know I’m not alone. I’ll look into the 2c-b, never heard of that no clue what it is at all but will find out soon!

 

[placebonaut]

Thanks for the tips and “good” to know I’m not alone. I’ll look into the 2c-b, never heard of that no clue what it is at all but will find out soon!

2c-b is a "mild" psychedelic, i say mild because the headspace and visuals are pretty tame compared to other psycs, it has empathogenic qualities too putting it between mdma and srooms maybe. i tried pills 1st but it's harder to control the dosage with that as I prefer to titrate up to the lowest dose required personally, i'm currently using HCl but it's harder to get hold of

 

[Tims]

An accident when I was a teen left me with diminished sensation in from the waist down. This post is specifically about my penis. And the fact that it takes me hours to cum. Can be a blessing and a curse. A lot of women love it but after a few hours we’re both ready for me to finish. Sometimes I just can’t. But I’m wondering if there is any kind of medication, topical lube or ANYTHING that will help me feel more from sex and ultimately help me finish within the first hour at least.

I hear you, and felt like I’d lost sensation, and for me that was worse than delayed ejaculation,and I was advised it was due to excessive use of various narcs, and during the times I’ve clean and living healthier it got much better, but then I’d return to using narcs and so back to square one, crazy right

Oh and just to add that smoking weed always helped me, personally.

 

[BK38]

I hear you, and felt like I’d lost sensation, and for me that was worse than delayed ejaculation,and I was advised it was due to excessive use of various narcs, and during the times I’ve clean and living healthier it got much better, but then I’d return to using narcs and so back to square one, crazy right

Oh and just to add that smoking weed always helped me, personally.

I can relate

 

[placebonaut]

I was advised it was due to excessive use of various narcs

I'm aware of lots of drugs that give you the horn and create delayed ejaculation/no erection, coke, mephedrone, GHB/GBL, MDMA and amphetamine spring to mind.

but what drugs cause loss of sensation specifically?

 

[BK38]

I'm aware of lots of drugs that give you the horn and create delayed ejaculation/no erection, coke, mephedrone, GHB/GBL, MDMA and amphetamine spring to mind.

but what drugs cause loss of sensation specifically?

Benzos, alcohol, pregabalin and other gabapentanoid drugs as will opiates/opiods. Sex on tramadol is great if you pre-ejaculate and need to last longer, but I'm on the other side of that spectrum - so no Tramadol for moi. That and masturbating too much or having sex too much in concert with pornography will make sex for fun or procreation more difficult. A low dose of 2CB intrigues me as well as thinking about past sexual encounters (good and bad). I have been keeping my pornography use too a minimum as I think it impedes my ownunderstanding of my sexual nature itself.

No judgement though eh?

 

[chippermonk]

It's easy to take sexual response for granted as an easy natural no brainer thing, until you lose it . Them it's like , hey wait a second, what the hell do I do now?
I'm not saying I've lost it altogether but it isn't nearly as easy now. Part of it is age, or maybe kratom, no doubt. But also I think I have somehow corrupted my psychological response somehow. I'm not sure how to rewire my brain
The 2cb idea sounds interesting but I have no idea how to get any. This isn't a sourcing request but is that something people get strictly darknet, or in other countries? I've never personally heard of anyone doing it except here on BL but I'm pretty out of any loop. I can get mushrooms legally here, maybe I'll try a small dose for sex sometime

 

[Jung and Stoopid]

@CraneTrain if you don't mind me asking, what happened to you? I assume some sort of spinal, CNS, or maybe brain injury? I've always had a morbid curiosity of what men feel down there if they are paralyzed from the waist down.

Anyways, for me the drugs that make it easier to orgasm listed from best to worst:

Best:
- meth, coke, cathinones and all potent dopaminergic stimulants in general (but too much can cause erection issues)
- MDMA
- 2CB
- Cannabis (with low tolerance)

Second best:
- Amphetamines, ritalin, and other less potent dopaminergic stimulants
- GHB (w/ low tolerance, heavy use does the opposite)
- LSD, mushrooms, and other psychedelics (but sexual stuff can also be weird especially if you are new to psychedelics)
- Cannabis (with high tolerance)

Other tips:
- Dopamine increases libido dramatically, but doesn't have as much of a role in orgasm itself.
- Serotonin levels play a major role in orgasm ability. If your levels are too high this will cause an inability to orgasm, this is why its such a common side effect of SSRI antidepressants. If your levels are too low it will cause hyperograsm. I have been in this state from withdrawal of certain drugs. My weiner became so sensitive I could just think of a boobie and barely even touch my dick and I would cum. It was actually kinda crazy. MDMA seems to escape this rule for some reason.