also GrOwThSpUrT makes a very good point.. Nost women LOVE oral sex, and you would be surprised. But The women I have had seem to enjoy it more then men do.. Women just don't express there opinion as much as men about these things. But once you have been with one a good while, she will start to. I learned along time ago that women love men who can do the job oraly
Now I can tell you what your major problem is.. You are trying to day hard. "if you are sitting there thinking to your self the entire time, Don't get off, Don't get off, Don't get off. Guess what's the first thing that's going to happen? You going to get off. Also, While I'm not inplying how old you are or how much experience you have. Keep this in mind, practice makes perfect. but it sounds to me like you need some anxitey medication, you are putting WAY to much pressure on your self.. sex should be fun for you two. But your going to end up going into a panic attack.
Now I my self have found that painkillers are the best way to not get a nut. These things dull the sensation of pain , but when your having sex, that is just another type of felling that they dull.. but even that you will eventually loose if you get to taking to many pain pills but I do not see that being a problem for you. as you do not really seem to want to take them anyway. a vicoden or two may do it for you. Just pop a couple atleast about 40 minutes before you think you will have sex.
But I can relate, when I was about 15-18 I use to have the same problem, I could go about 5 or 10 minutes at the most. I started using the exercise that was listed above and after doing it for awhile I started seeing improvements of up to 45 minutes or so. my high school sweetheart at the time started asking me what was up.. See got very suspicious as to what was going on, because of the drastic changes in just a few months.
Well when I got out of high school I started dating this 29 year old, and here I was 18. And she always kept talking about how when she had sex that she was use to going for hours and hours. A friend of mine told me to do this. Next time he would tell me. when your getting ready.. tell her to just give you a minute (do this after your dick is getting hard) go to the bath room reel quick. Put a little bit of salive on the rim of the head of your dick (as this is where most of the sensories are) then take a little bit of coke and rub it all around the end there. This will give you a slightly numbed feeling simulare to what the pain pills do.. but your not putting tons into your body.. just numbing an area.. Not sure if others have tried this.. but it worked for me, but after awhile I found out.. that you don't need all this shit.. Its in your head.. all of it..