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  • BDD Moderators: Keif’ Richards

is it wrong to keep your drugs secret from a lover?

Not just wrong, impossible. They WILL find out eventually, so better if you tell them. My girlfriend used to mind but now that I've forced most of the drug propaganda out of her head, she couldn't care less what I take and when (:
 
being woke up at 3 am by a girl u love holding a baggie of 30 used needles all hysterical cause she searched your apartment while u were sleeping sucks major ass... anyone else been there?

Yes, been there, quite a few times in fact. And the last time I literally got smacked awake right in the face while I was nodded out asleep and the poor girl went into a raging girlie punch-fest all over my body. Then she showed me the 2 "backup grams" of smack I had duct taped to the underneath of a table in the basement and then flushed them right before my eyes.

So much for "backup". She continued the next day and found my maintenance stash too and I ended up having to go in for a rinse and spin after that one.
 
Hmmm - if you can't share your favorite recreational activities with your partner I'd say maybe you are with the wrong partner. I couldn't imagine hiding recreational drug use from my partner. Heck, I couldn't imagine not doing them with my partner. Haha! Don't you think you would enjoy your rolls/trips whathaveyou much more if you didn't have the guilt/paranoia of getting caught nagging at you? Think of how much more fun it would be if you could share those experiences with your partner!

I miss those days with my husband. =(
 
Hit-it-and-quit-it? No.

Anything resembling a relationship? Yes, you absolutely owe it to him/her. If you're injecting drugs and fucking your s/o without them knowing, it's as bad as cheating IMO. You're opening them up for all sorts of risks without them having the chance to decide whether you're worth it.
 
Haha, is it morally right? NO! But everyone does it, and most will eventually get fucked for it

Yeah, thats why people lie. They want to get laid and so they keep people around even though they are not a good match.....if you have to lie then you are not an ideal match, or else your priorties are messed up.
 
Yeah, thats why people lie. They want to get laid and so they keep people around even though they are not a good match.....if you have to lie then you are not an ideal match, or else your priorties are messed up.

I think in most cases its priorities bein jacked. These people who want us to not be doing drugs want whats best for us, no? That being the case they are good for us and we are idiots. :|
 
If they don't do it I hide it. If I am going to use knowing they are against it then it has to be my little secret. Hense my name! Lol. People are pretty set in their ideas about drugs when you older. I don't want to be judged based on personal options about something that does not make me who I am. If you get out of control and your being destructive then you can reconsider. But if it's not hurting anyone and it would cause problems when there isn't any, then I would hide it. People are judgemental. If Im ok with it then I'm not going to get lectured or made to feel guilty. I don't want to get asked about or be told to make a choice. Especially if you have kids. It can just cause too much harm if your private info gets out. I'd rather protect them and myself.
 
I tell my partner when ever I have taken it... usually AFTER I have taken it..

Usually don't talk for a few days after it. She gets real pissed off.

She is anti-drug to the max.. where as I like to try most things once.

I don't know how I can get her to be more understanding.. any ideas?
 
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