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is homosexuality a choice?

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exclusively? i don't think so. i'm sure there are instances where that path could have been created unnaturally. ultimately, as previously stated: i don't think so.
 
as controversial as is sounds, i think people CAN choose to change their preference, but the tricky part is, there is no real reason to, and as such that makes it practically impossible.
 
Being a bisexual girl with a preference towards female, I've always pondered upon the choice/innate homosexuality debate. I sometimes feel like when people say its a choice they are playing on definitions. I think that we actively make the decision to execute any action in our lives. If I am hungry for instance, I would make the decision to go make myself something to eat and I guess by definition that is a choice. However, although I made the choice to eat, I don't really have a choice. In the same way I would make the choice to enter a relationship with a girl. The love I feel for girls is not a choice it just happens but I have to choose to allow myself to be with a girl. I guess I could force myself to make the choice to be in a relationship with a male and I guess to pretend I'm in love with a male or I could be celibate my whole life...but I can only seem to find myself happy in a relationship with a female. I believe I deserve genuine love and happiness in my life like any other normal human being. I also believe it is unnatural to repress human sexuality and our sexual nature.

I also feel that genetics can play a significant part in homosexuality. I feel that some people are more likely to be gay than others based on their genes, traits, and personality. I don't feel I choose to be gay or like girls. In fact I can't help it as it seems my feelings for girls occur subconsciously and uncontrollably like anyone's feeling would occur. It seems the feelings would be impossible to repress and even if they could be, I feel there is no reason to repress them. No I do not choose to have feelings of love, these feelings just occur.

Hmm if I could sum it up I would say that my attraction to girls is not a choice and my feelings for girls are not forced. My decision to include romantic love and happiness in my life is a choice but if I were to choose to exclude those things from my life, then I wouldn't really call that living. I think that every human being in life just wants to be happy, needs love and to express their sexuality. That people expect for someone to live a life devoid of those needs based on their personal beliefs leaves me incredulous.
 
bighooter said:
I got a bit of a dilemma,

Although im not gay and dont find men attractive I know this gay bloke whos been txtin me (i used to work with him).
He keeps txtin me and saying im fit as fuck and he wants to meet up so he can give me a blow job.

Now I would do just for the hell of it (blow jobs rule) but it would freak me out looking down at a man do it.

I have a few girls in the past say im fit as fcuk aswell, but I just dont know how and why they say it.
ive got issues with my self esteem.

How the fcuk can I get over this
Im not going to turn gay because of it, but I just dont have confidence to chat to girls. even girls who i know im fitter than, fear of rejection is just something that burns my soul.
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It sounds like you're at least bisexual and closeted.

No straight guy has sex with other men or wants to get sucked off by other men unless it's forced/illegal or they are in prison.
 
Droppersneck said:
You are definitely born one way or the other. Male bi sexuality is bull shit imo. I like david bowies music but he is gay as shit.
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How would you know? You're not a bisexual man and I doubt you are even a gay man.

Being bisexual or homosexual is not a choice.

Who in their right mind as a teenager or child, or even young adult when image and status and wanting to be normal are very common and at their peak in people, would actually choose to be a second class citizen that everyone that's not heterosexual pretty much is?

I'm fine with being a gay man now but I know that for myself and most bisexual and gay men coming out was not fun and it's something that straight/hetero people never have to do and do not understand.
 
As far as whether people are born gay? It is not yet known and may never be. It is one of those complex questions that would be unethical to study in a controlled experiment (involving identical twins brought up differently to see if their sexuality could be influenced). It is much like your personality. Are you born with your personality traits or are they the result of environmental factors? As far as we are able to tell, both nature and nurture shape a person. It would not be unreasonable to believe that one's sexual orientation is similarly influenced by such factors.

Got this online .
 
the fact that we even need to debate this is really sad.

why on earth would an estimated 10% of the people on earth choose
to subject themselves the to discrimination, harassment, and misery that
is being gay?
 
I'm not gay, but I have what could be considered as a queer identity, and I absolutely wouldn't choose to have an alternative sexual identity because of all the strife it has caused my life. Its a lot easier to live in the norm than it is to live out side of it. People just can't accept what they don't see everyday day in front of them, as sad as it is.
 
If I hadn't witness debate over this for the number of years I have, I would never have believed anyone thought it was a choice.

I've never believed that, ever since I was a kid.
 
Cloudy said:
I'm not gay, but I have what could be considered as a queer identity, and I absolutely wouldn't choose to have an alternative sexual identity because of all the strife it has caused my life. Its a lot easier to live in the norm than it is to live out side of it. People just can't accept what they don't see everyday day in front of them, as sad as it is.
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That is absolutely not true at all. It changes from person to person.
 
Damien said:
Maybe it's not so willingly. Do you believe heroin addicts make choices that ultimately lead them to a life that inherently has more struggles? Now please know that I am not trying to equate homosexuals with heroin addicts when I say this. I say it to question the notion that nobody would ever make decisions that would make their life harder and/or more confusing.
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Of course people generally do not make choices that will lead to their demise.

As far as homosexuality goes, I just can't imagine anyone waking up one morning and saying, "Hey, I think I wanna be gay despite all of the struggles I will surely face!" People don't usually make choices that involve negative results unless they're self destructive, and I wouldn't put homosexual people in this category by a long shot. I believe that most--if not all--are truly born with the desire to be with the same sex. Once again, many of them state that they felt different, even in elementary school [before] there was an iota of sexuality present; before they even knew what sex was. Homosexuality is a lot deeper than someone waking up and making a choice to do something. It's a lot deeper than choosing to do a drug, and I do believe that such a huge decision is generally one that involves a person born with that tendency versus someone deciding what to be at random.
 
†∆†;9021618 said:
the fact that we even need to debate this is really sad.

why on earth would an estimated 10% of the people on earth choose
to subject themselves the to discrimination, harassment, and misery that
is being gay?
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This.
 
I wonder how much early childhood sexual activity has to do with it?

When I was maybe 9-years-old, I think someone "abused" me but I enjoyed it alot, so much so, I realized sex with a woman would never equal the pleasure I received from a man.

I had other reasons for wanting to change sex too.

I'd say it's (sex-change) part choice, part effects of the environment/experience.

One of my friends was sodomized as an adult (he enjoyed it, a tranny sodomized him) and that changed him . . . he became a male slut. He's kind of over it now. Before that, he liked to cross-dress and sodomize others.

I don't see what the problem is with admitting that U made a choice based on experience.
 
Istanbeko said:
That is absolutely not true at all. It changes from person to person.
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Of course what I'm saying is a generalization (if you are talking about the majority of people in any populous you will generalize and leave out the minority, sorry if that offends you). I don't see how it isn't true. I've been the attack of people for many of my against the norm views an life styles. I'm an agnostic, and because of it being a minority, I was ridiculed. Now why would that be? Because it isn't what people run into everyday. Most of these people haven't come in contact with an agnostic before and actual have a conversation. Essentially they didn't accept my belief (not that they need to convert, just have an understanding of my beliefs and see it as just another alternative view) because it isn't common place in their lives. Now if you run into someone who is religious, and so happens to have interactions with atheist and agnostic people (or even have spent time understanding what atheism or agnosticism is), the reaction could be much much different because it isn't something unknown.

In terms of queer identities, yeah, everyone knows about gays, but most people who are prejudice do not interact with gay (obviously) and continue to perpetuate the ignorance surrounding this against the norm life style.

Of course not everyone is the same and there are intelligent people out there who can read through the bullshit even if it isn't in front of them. But come on... Ignorance is one of the things that creates prejudiced right? So wouldn't the fact that some other sort of way of life or belief isn't projected infront of them essentially being ignorant (being ignorant isn't necessary bad, but it can create prejudices).
 
homo`s adopting kids is where i draw the line. they can do what they like as far as it doesnt encroach upon others boundaries, but adoption is just plain sick.
 
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