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is homosexuality a choice?

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yeh this "choice" garbage is pointless. it's like fate vs. free will. we will never crack this metaphysical code.
 
Okay the gay faggot has come n is here to clear everything up i wasnt about to read eveyones shit to see if there was another gay person in this thread i just looked at the last few posts and im here to put my input into all of this and i hope people see it and quote it beacuse its ligit from a gay male

When i was about 8 years old i was crazy about the spice girls and the hanson brothers. I played with girly toys like girly things.. how this can be explained how the fuck would i know. I know fersure i was a perverted little child. when i was in preschhool i fingered a girl and got introuble for it thats pretty fucked up.. that might be a reason why im gay who knows. what ever it is i thinik its subconciously ::CHOSEN:: if you are younger like me. i still dont belive that one can phisyicaly choose and say id like to be gay, or bi, or st8. Belive me if i could be st8 i would but i cant say o todday im going to be attracted to vagina. put this into perspective could you suck a guys dick and get off by that.... if not can you choose to get off by that?? i mean of corse you can suck a girls pussy n get off on that beause your atrracted to that and its in your genetic and all of that bullshit... but one day you cant just be like i feel like i wanna suck dick todayy and maybe that will get me off.. you understand where im trying to get off its the same for asking a st8 guy how they could be gay or if its a choice.. and if the people belive that it is a choice than it is deffinity made subconcioucsly when you are a young young kid.

there are many rumors about sexual oriantaion i herd one the other day that if your first sexual encounter is with the same sex it means your going to be gay or lesbian. that might be true to a certin extent but figure this.. if your born when you gay... n your first encounter is with a boy... how does that make sense its just like saying your st8 and you kiss a girl your going to be st8... thats tottaly far fetched.. if your gay your gay end of story it is not 100% proven why or how it happens so why dont we all shut the fuck up and stop puting our oppions in.. beacuse this is seirously not going to go anywhere
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I'm going to go on ... do you think that gay people like men or woman?
You know those gay guys that dress like girls talk like girls act like girls basicly are girls.. what i dont understand is how can a guy be attracted to that if they are gay, foreal i could understand it turning a st8 guy gay but a gay guy wants what girls want MEN! not a wanna be girl that is trapped inside a guys body they want thier testosterone

Like me for instance i know who i am and i wouldnt change it for the world i know that if i wasnt gay i would have a tottaly different personality and it wouldnt be the same. I know that if i was a st8 man i would have 20000 girls all over me beacuse im that attractive not trying to be cocky but when ever i go into a new inviroment and make friends the girls always say i wish you werent gay beacuse when i first saw you i wanted you this n that w.e... n then it fades once they know im gay n cannot have me.. but it really doesnt matter gay is gay okay st8 is st8 im going to continue writeing to cover every peice of info anyone is trying to get to the bottom to.. ill talk more in the next post i thinik this one is long enuf
 
I really cannot belive how ignorant people are about this topic.. gay men cannot decide its a fucking statement for me..
Then I'm sure theres some gay men that started out as attention whore teenagers that just wanted to piss off their parents and shock their friends... but they ended up prefering their own sex.
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Okay im sorry that is just bullshit and a shitty opinoion.. dont you think people that are young teenagers are immature and ignorant.. dont you think that if they made shit up for shock value that they would get picked on ... if it was ture of false just saying that comming out to people is a hhugee move.. i know that when i was young i dint tell people i was gay.. i kno that i dint do it for shock value. I know that i began to become attracted to guys when i was 10 i hooked up with most of my friends and managed to get my penis into my friends assholes.
Think about this strait guys, your penis has a mind of its own right? It has gotten aroused for some weird things hasn't it? Some things you'd never admit to it being aroused by, but the truth is, its your penis, and it gets aroused by it. Hell, I'll admit it, I've been aroused by bumpy roads, my cat on my lap, a cute girl burping...
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this is true to a certin extent.. sometimes we get aroused by weird things.. but to say that our penis makes us gay or st8 beacuse it has a mind of its own is fucking false.. that just means your horny little penis is willing to get off on anything with two legs for that matter.
back when i was younger i remember that i would feel bad after i jacked off looking at men right after i came i would look at tits or pussy i guess i was ashamed of looking at guys back then beacuse i dint know what it was like to be gay or w.e you wanna call it. so back to my topic peopple just so happen to become gay beacuse they want attention... you cannot get wrapped up in something you made up for attention and actually become that. it may be true with other lies but about sexual oreantation i dont think is possible.

Finally I bet theirs even gay men, that aren't even gay. They're just pretending to be gay because their so anxious around women... or they dislike the way woman look or act...and these men aren't aroused by men at all but they'd rather live with a man than a woman...
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okay this is soo ture but oppisite kinda.. men say they are gay or bi to get attention from girls beacuse they are to axious to be the man they are so they bs n say they are gay beacuse they want woman so baddly but dont know how to talk to them...

i have had churshs on girls and guys but that was still when i wasnt sure about what gay ment. i remember this hot guy lived around me and i was so jelous of him n his friends beacuse he was fuckign hott and had boys that he would always be with n of corse he was older and i was the younger kid n he was the role model.. now if you wanna call that a choice being atrracted to a guy that lived right near me that i was friends with.. i mean w.e theres so much i can talk about and justifiy but im not going to keep rambling and explaning my life unless someone is really interested. i thikn i covered it all

your welcome..
 
this thread even existing is a bit offensive isn't it
it's too controversial even for bluelight

you might as well literally say several thousand german men chose to go to slave/death camps, right? or get persecuted in various other ways. how you can say its a choice in the light of these facts? i dont understand

unless you mean you choose your being. as if before you're born you "select an avatar" like in WoW lol

ok ill disprove it logically.
if someone is neutral enough in their sexuality to choose in the first place (to be gay) then they cant be straight because then they would lust after women. it's an impossible logic. sexuality is a fucking powerful force not a little checkmark on an ID
 
I got a bit of a dilemma,

Although im not gay and dont find men attractive I know this gay bloke whos been txtin me (i used to work with him).
He keeps txtin me and saying im fit as fuck and he wants to meet up so he can give me a blow job.

Now I would do just for the hell of it (blow jobs rule) but it would freak me out looking down at a man do it.

I have a few girls in the past say im fit as fcuk aswell, but I just dont know how and why they say it.
ive got issues with my self esteem.

How the fcuk can I get over this
Im not going to turn gay because of it, but I just dont have confidence to chat to girls. even girls who i know im fitter than, fear of rejection is just something that burns my soul.
 
Well if it is of any consolation, it is usually we who coach the ladies in the art of fellatio. (That said, many gay men certainly err, suck, at it). ;)

I think your biggest problem is actually the fear of you turning gay since your claim to lack said fear seems to be a big issue in the decision, if you catch my drift.

The worst case scenario is that you'll discover that you're bisexual, which would double your options. How bad can that be?

ps. Why don't you post a shirtless pic? I'd love to give feedback :).
 
Well if it is of any consolation, it is usually we who coach the ladies in the art of fellatio.
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Often with good results. ;)

I think your biggest problem is actually the fear of you turning gay since your claim to lack said fear seems to be a big issue in the decision, if you catch my drift.
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Yup. It's a bit late in the game for your sexual orientation to just change.

The worst case scenario is that you'll discover that you're bisexual, which would double your options. How bad can that be?
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Indeed. You can even choose if you want to be "out" without bearing intense frustration and shame if you choose the closet.

ebola
 
So, we are now at 10 pages and counting. Has a single person here said that they made a conscious choice to be gay yet?


@ bighooter - I did something similar when I was young, around 15 or so. Unless you're really into the idea, you may very well feel pretty dirty and disappointed afterwards like I did, and it had nothing to do with worrying about being gay, it had to do with having sex with someone who I was 100% not attracted to, and only a little bit to do with the fact that it was a man.
 
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I made choice to follow a gay lifestyle, not to be gay.

I came out at 27, having been in a six year relationship with woman. We had good sex but in the last 2 years it diminished to nothing, I just wasn't interested in chasing anymore. So I guess I just got bored of pretending to be straight, though only with hindsight I see this. Of course it was like a bomb going off for my family, friends, etc.

I then went on to have three major relationships and Im now entering my fifth year in a relationship with my third bf, seems to be getting better all the time :)

No one makes a choice to be marginalised in society but sometimes you just have to live your life how you want and fuck the consequences. Im sure all of us on here, have something in our lives that we just do, regardless of the rules that society places on us.

doobidan
 
This has always been an extremely controversial subject for me...i feel like i do decide to be homosexual at times...ive always had a hard time when it comes to sexual oreintation...i look at myself as myself and everyone else as something different...i am not specific to one gender...i just look for people by who they are...but when i do happen to fall for a guy (currently am) i feel like i have to make the choice to be homosexual...i dunno, mayb its just me
 
No one makes a choice to be marginalised in society but sometimes you just have to live your life how you want and fuck the consequences. Im sure all of us on here, have something in our lives that we just do, regardless of the rules that society places on us.
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Indeed.
 
Oy, again? lol

I'm bi, and I didn't choose to be that way. I don't know anyone that has chosen their sexuality. I always love to ask straight people who say that shit when they decided to be straight, or if they could decide to enjoy fucking someone of the same sex. :D
 
Why would anyone willingly choose a life that would inherently involve more struggles? It doesn't make sense to me. It's not that there's anything wrong with homosexuality and I personally embrace it wholly, but there's no denying that a gay person experiences even more trials and tribulations than your average person. Why anyone would take this sort of thing on as a result of a momentary feeling, I do not know. It doesn't make sense to me when people say that others can choose their sexuality. It's inherent, and most people realize this by a very young age. A lot of my gay friends can recall feeling quite different at a young age, before sex was even close to being in the picture.

I mean, I'm sure there are a few people out there who choose to be gay because they want a particular lifestyle that might be harder to obtain otherwise but I would have to say that no, people don't choose their sexuality. I think we are born with it, and I think it's a beautiful thing that should be embraced. That's another thread entirely though :P
 
Why would anyone willingly choose a life that would inherently involve more struggles?
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Maybe it's not so willingly. Do you believe heroin addicts make choices that ultimately lead them to a life that inherently has more struggles? Now please know that I am not trying to equate homosexuals with heroin addicts when I say this. I say it to question the notion that nobody would ever make decisions that would make their life harder and/or more confusing.
 
^No one chooses to become an addict. So it's a pretty apt analogy. If you could do heroin all day and never get addicted, people would make that choice. If you could fuck someone of the opposite gender and love it, people would make that choice. As it stands, neither is an option for heroin addicts or homosexuals.
 
Hell no. Did any of you see the story on CNN about the 6 year old boy dressed as Daphne from scooby doo for Halloween?

No seriously it's not a choice. As a man I never was given the choice to either chase girls or boys for the rest of my life. My brother who is a gay man never was given the choice.

Anyone who says it is a choice, tell that to Matthew Sheppards family.
 
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