I'm not sure if I'll ever have a child or kids.
I like kids/children in theory. But not so much in reality. I can't afford a dog, let alone a kid. I'd be a single parent. Or I'd be in and out of relationships and dating lots of people at once and probably not ever in a stable relationship with anyone.
If I did have a child/kid I would not be happy if they were smoking at 13. I would have preferred that they waited until they were at least 15 or even older.
I'd be more concerned if they were drinking at 12-13 since I started to then and that was way too young.
I'd be more worried that they would be like me and not give a damn what their parents said about not smoking herb or drinking and using other drugs and just didn't give a fuck at all about what I said and continued to do it even if they were told not to, reprimanded, or had things they liked taken away.
I knew kids growing up who had parents who once used drugs and when they caught their kids using drugs they were not happy and did things like drug test them or other stuff and my friends did things like ran away and lived on the streets and got into even more illegal activity and dangerous things just so they could use all the drugs they wanted and say a big fuck you to their parent(s). I wouldn't want my hypothetical child/kids doing that. I never ran away but I can see just why some kids/teenagers do when they're younger.
I know these people as adults now and some of them do still smoke herb or drink but they don't use any hard drugs or their D(s).O.C. that they were highly addicted to and had major issues with. Some of them have kids and they worry about their kids being addicts like they were as teenagers/adults or doing what they did and running away and getting horribly addicted to all sorts of drugs, doing highly illegal/dangerous things, winding up almost dead, or in jail/prison for a bit.
I started smoking pot at 15 and that was the right time for me. I didn't do it often then just once or a few times a month and I didn't really start smoking that often until I was in late HS.
I started smoking cigarettes/cigars and sometimes pipes at 14 and I'd be more concerned if my child/kids did that as teenagers.
If they were smoking pot I'd want them to be honest with me and tell me how often they were doing it. I wouldn't want them smoking everyday and revolving their entire life around nothing but smoking herb and getting stoned from the moment they wake up until they go to bed. I'd want them to get excellent grades in school, get an education and either go onto a university/college or trade/career.
I'd tell them the rules I had growing up with herb. My mom was not happy at all with me smoking herb but by the time I was a late teenager and almost an adult she knew I wasn't going to quit since it was something I mainly did socially with friends and for fun on the weekend.
I was told to never carry anything on me/in a car, never to drive while high or after smoking, and how if I got caught by the 5-0 or some other authority figure it would be my ass that would be in trouble and I wouldn't be getting bailed out by her or she wouldn't be taking the "blame" for my own actions.
I'd also shown her that I as a responsible person and I was in the top percentile of my HS class with high grades, I held down jobs in the summer, and I was going onto college.
I would not drug test my kids unless they were doing drugs like coke/crack, h/dope, oxy/opiates, meth, or very harmful drugs. Or if I suspected they were doing these drugs, they were popular or in the area or other factors. I'd also keep up on what drugs were new, around, and their effects and other things about them. I'd also tell them never to inhale stuff like solvents/duster/etc. and educate them about drugs. If I were taking opiates or painkillers because of a medicinal reason like if I had to for recovering from surgery or something, I'd keep that stuff locked away and I wouldn't keep that stuff out in the open and I'd keep track of how many pills were in there.
I'd also want to know who their friends were and know their friends' parent(s)/guardians. I wouldn't be fooled if their friends looked like your average clean cut kid next door who never got into trouble and got excellent grades in school, and who swore up and down that they'd never had a sip of beer or any booze at all when questioned by their friends' parents about such things. I was like that and I know that type very well.
