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I want a child...what about you?

Yes, I am desperate to become a father, but would not do so out of wedlock under any circumstances. i want to wife my woman but circumstances prohibit that and it breaks my heart. i also don't want to leave my offspring without a father or my wife without a partner, and given i dont anticipate a long or healthy life i suppose it would be reckless to mate now
 
No way, Jose. I have always known I didn't want kids. When I expressed this view as a teenager, adults would smile tolerantly and say, "Oh, you'll change your mind when the time comes."
Nuh-uh. I like playing with other people's kids - for about five minutes. And then I'm done.
But I'm glad there are other folks who want to be parents. Someone should.
 
I want another baby. I'm so clucky right now :\ My eldest turns 5 tomorrow and OH GOD THAT SWEET BABY SMELL, I MISS IT.

:|

It'll be a few years yet though, unfortunately.
 
samadhi_smiles said:
So, I want a baby. A child...to teach and love and nurture.

I'm not in any sort of steady relationship, am 5 years off of being done with my PHD...am not even dating a girl now! But, yet, a present desire and urge is to have a child...

I imagine myself outside in the grass playing with him (for some reason a boy is what I imagine). Laughing, tickling, playing...

Walking around with him on my shoulders, he is pointing out a bird in the tree branches now...giggling...he calls at it to come over and play... <3

I actually imagine myself adopting at some point (granted my future partner is in agreement with that). There are just too many babies that need mothers and fathers to create more. We're all connected! It would be ours just like a genetically linked baby would be mine! We are all connected on a genetic level and an even deeper fundamental level (connected with love).

It makes me brim over with euphoria to think about it. I can't really grasp how amazingly profound the experience of teaching a human being from such an early age would be...a blessing to be able to care for another like that.

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I have four - you can hire one from us to see how it goes S_S, if you reckon it's a goer we'll consider a long term lease. :)
 
aww... well you should hook up with a single mum, because there's a lot of good ones out there, and not enough men with the patience for a child that isn't their own.

If you're a young person (sounds like you are if you're a student), just try contacting a young parenting group. If you explain that you're a guy who doesn't have a child, but are interested in adoption... but would first like some hands on experience... I can assure you, a lot of women in the group will be happy to have you come along.

I mean, after all, what they talk about in these groups is how there's not enough men like you ;).
 
you see, this is what's so awesome about nephews & nieces. you can have loads of fun with them (and they love you for showing them attention) but you don't have to clothe, feed, or clean up after them and you can hand them back after a while. it's the best of both worlds.

you got any, s_s? or any friends with kids?

i'm in no hurry to have kids, but that may well change if (IF 8)) i ever meet the right woman.
 
i am the least maternal person i know, however at the moment my body is yearning for a little one....grr!! but it will be a while before it can be a serious thought. i just want to feel a little person growing inside of me, then see what they become- it truly is magical if you think about it. Lucky for me is that my partner seems quite paternal, he dotes on his cousin's baby when we see them and goes googoo over babies when we are out and about so i can see myself re-producing with him.
 
Somtimes I see a cute baby or hold a baby or watch a movie in this case that makes me want a baby, and my bf and I joke about it but its the last think that I want rationally. I love my bf and everything and a baby would be so cute and wonderful and I've seen it in my head, but things follow a natural order, finish collge, get married, spend a few years alone, then baby.
 
yeah i have, but i see children as a process- feed, change, keep happy, sleep- so it doesn't faze me looking after them. the more off putting thought for me is having to give birth. the thing is i don't think i would mind if i never had a child, but i would mind if i never felt a baby growing in me, so perhaps being a surrogate is the thing for me.


and no felix i will not babysit you over night.....=D
 
samadhi_smiles said:

I actually imagine myself adopting at some point (granted my future partner is in agreement with that). There are just too many babies that need mothers and fathers to create more. We're all connected! It would be ours just like a genetically linked baby would be mine! We are all connected on a genetic level and an even deeper fundamental level (connected with love).
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I really appreciate your view on this, both in lieu of my circumstance as the child you describe and the more general world population crisis. If I were to have a child, I would like to adopt. One in five people in the world are starving and one world trade center (quantity) of people die every hour due to starvation & malnutrition. So to think that I might aid even one of those people, would be a blessing.
On the other hand, if I were to find the right man, I may be unable to resist trying for a baby. Or maybe it would happen naturally. But given my current age, just out of adolescence, this doesn't factor into my plans in the foreseeable future.
 
giving birth would be the most amazing thing. when and/if I have a child there is no way I'd take anything for the pain. Ideally I would love to give birth at home in a pool of water with my blood surrounding me and my partner catching the baby with me. Ohh how empowering!!! MrrawwwwwAhhh!! ;p
 
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^ I have learned a lot about water births and I think they are very interesting. I wanted to consider one until I found out most of the time you wont get pain meds. I DEF need pain meds lol.

I really liked your original post s_s. It echoes a lot of how I feel as well. As my husband and I talk more about baby stuff and think about when to begin the process it really feels more real. I cannot wait until I have a child to devote my time to.
 
My wife's going to be giving birth at home (very 8o ) shortly and we now have a birthing pool all set up in a room bedecked with drapes and subtle lighting with candles, incense and sound-system all ready to go :D
 
^ I suspect that's going to be a rather lucky and well-balanced nipper, Mr Fishy :). I hope and trust that all goes well for you and yours.

I'd always thought I was a bit odd on this one - I get deeply broody whenever the subject comes up - but maybe I'm not such a freak. I'm a fella, but have wanted kids for as long as I can remember. I don't see it happening anytime soon (I'm in my early 30s) but one day I'm sure a happy event will happen. I'm sure I'm not in the best state of existence to seriously consider such things right now, but is there ever a right time for kids? I doubt it. Sometime.
 
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