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I Think My Family Has Cut Me Out Of Their Will.

thujone said:
you really should ask to find out for sure rather than stewing in this uncertainty

if this is being used as a threat for leverage (i.e. do what we say or you're out of the will) then it really depends on your relationship with them otherwise. women ime will say really, really cruel/shitty things and not really mean them. men might really cut you off if they're threatening it.
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go fuck yourself middle finger GIF
 
What is ones share? 91 look at ya go

go fuck yourself middle finger GIF


I am sure he meant people can.....oh no he did qualify at the end haha.... I tell you huwwhatt when my ma makes a threat (To others, im alright) it is absolutely bone chilling as I know it will come true.

Nicest little ol lady but she means what she says and if it is mean.... I try and warn my friends (well I did before we moved) "However gangster, tough, crazy, w/e you think I am --- I am telling you if you cross that woman it is a whole other level that I cannot really control or walk you back from! Few of them learned the hard way
 
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Rectify said:
What Should I Do? Just Politely Ignore It? I'd Like To Say I Don't Resent Them For It, But I Do.
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You should make sure you can get yourself together and ask them.
Hey, if you're around my age and on here, I bet you have been through a lot of shit.

How do you know? Can the relationship be repared? Is there anyway to get back in their good graces, so to speak? How much money are we talking?

Are we talking about enough money, assets, property, ect.. to retire off, of?

I would say you should try to repair your relationship with them. Get clean, get yourself together.
Would that work? Because it seems that we might be talking about a significant amount of money.

I would ask them. Are they conservative, liberal, centrist( pragmaticish) Far left, very old fashioned, what?

I think at your age which is around my age: If it is a significant amount, then you should do whatever it takes.

The world has become so greedy, so expensive and as you described your life: I would do whatever it takes to get back to a place where you will inherit some money.

I am assuming that this is a significant amount and if it is, it could make your life a lot easier.

It seems that you need to reconnect with them if it is a serious amount; and I know that sounds greedy. However, if it is enough: it could really help out, with what sounds like a bleak future, become at least, secure and better.

Your parent(s), I assume are alive and obviously old. Do you have siblings?
Have you done anything to really piss them off?

How was your family when you growing up? From your description of your life; it seems that a decent inheritance could be the lifeline you need; especially in an uncertain economy.

I don't know enough about your situation, but please feel free to send me a DM.

If we are talking a million+ or millions of dollars, then this is seriously bad for you. Even an inheritance in the 6 figures could mean, the difference between poverty and security.

People on here can say whatever. But if you posted on here about it; it must be at least enough to cause concern.

I would seriously, try to get do whatever you can to fix this; if that is possible. Can you do anything that might reverse this?

Are they cold, nice, sympathetic or what? Why do you think that you are cut out of the will? It doesn't seem like you have much to fall back on; if that is the case, you really need to fix this.

Is that possible? If so, then do whatever you have too. Getting old and being in the the situation you described is, a huge cause for concern.

Find out what is the case. Swallow, your pride and repair your relationship with them, if it is possible.

Like I said please feel free, to Dm me.
 
Dang, I hope u weren't counting on in for future planning. I would flip out if my folks pulled that especially since they've been telling me for years I was getting it and need it.
 
thujone said:
you really should ask to find out for sure rather than stewing in this uncertainty
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for sure. we humans are experts in worrying about things that may not necessarily be happening. just ask and find out.

but even if they have, i tend to echo notsmokeymcpot42088 - while you may have been expecting the (or an) inheritance, it's their money and they can do with it as they wish.

i hope it works out for you.

alasdair
 
Rectify said:
What Should I Do? Just Politely Ignore It? I'd Like To Say I Don't Resent Them For It, But I Do.
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I was in the same boat almost exactly a year ago. My sister gave me some money to even things out and it only made things worse with the rest of my family. Some were even saying I stole it from her. She wrote me a check. Lol
Anyhow I wish I would have kept my head down and grinded away on my own income but it is what it is.
Sorry but it is what it is and the will can be changed. Show them hard work and love then I bet your name will be on the next letter.
Good Luck!
 
alasdairm said:
but even if they have, i tend to echo notsmokeymcpot42088 - while you may have been expecting the (or an) inheritance, it's their money and they can do with it as they wish.
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i expect to receive some inheritance but i used to dwell on it, especially when i was feeling most desperate.

then i had the realization that expectations just create misery.

expectations mean always worrying about what others might do, always being at the mercy of fate.

because of that realization, i took more active steps to gain agency over my own life and it has been very freeing. i could still use an inheritance but now it's just a nice-to-have because i'm not having any of my hopes tied up in the possibilities of it. busier just living life now.
 
alasdairm said:
for sure. we humans are experts in worrying about things that may not necessarily be happening. just ask and find out.

but even if they have, i tend to echo notsmokeymcpot42088 - while you may have been expecting the (or an) inheritance, it's their money and they can do with it as they wish.

i hope it works out for you.

alasdair
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My Sentiments Exactly.
 
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We’re all debt slaves in Corporations masquerading as countries. Baby Boomers have destroyed Western Civilization. I guess I shouldn’t be terribly judgmental as generation after generation is brainwashed to believe that they are ‘free’…but the Boomers are truly the end of any semblance of the so called American Dream. Their progeny will live or die based on inheritance or be forced into soul crushing jobs that aren’t worth working when inflation and interest rates have made even a simple life unaffordable.
 
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