Trigger543
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Edit: question in post #9, feel free to skip the OP.
I'm starting out in bullet points b/c if I write paragraphs this will turn into a 5 page essay in a matter of minutes. And please, if anyone wants to give advice but doesn't want to read through this mess let me know and I'll simplify it as best I can.
-this girl works for me
-I never used to hang out with employees but I never get to see my friends so I said screw it
-just for an idea, she's 20 and I'm 24, so it's not like she's a child and I'm an old man
-we hooked up once (the second time I hung out with her and my other employees)
-no sex but if I had pushed for it, definitely would have happened
-didn't hook up after that, she said she didn't know if she was comfortable hooking up with her boss but then she came over and suggested we should be FWB
-that never really happened either, but I haven't been very pushy because I don't want to make things uncomfortable at work or put her in a tough situation (handled this situation differently than I normally would b/c she works for me.. didn't know how hard I should push before it's too much, ya know?)
-since then, working with her almost every day... I can't stop thinking about her and I have no idea why...
-She will openly admit she's afraid of commitment (and not just with me, I know of a couple previous men she's had brief relationships with and she cuts them off as soon as she gets feelings) and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone
-I know she was started to have feelings for me too for several reasons, but partially b/c one night when she was drunk and mad at me she kept saying "I already care too much"
-people who see us together say she likes me but she's a friendly, bubbly person, so IDK if it's just me or not.
so anyway if you read all of that, here are the questions... Do you think I have a thing for her b/c we hooked up but didn't have sex? Do you think it's possible she's really just afraid of commitment or is that an excuse so I don't feel bad? I'd be willing to bet she doesn't know how I feel. Based on the above information do you think it's possible she just doesn't like me? I mean I've had random hookups before but she was ALL OVER ME that night like no other girl I've ever been with. Some of the things that came out of her mouth... and you'd think it would be awkward but it never has been.
I thought I was over her, I convinced myself I just had a crush on her but this feels different. I'm 24 years old. I've had crushes before. Maybe it's just been a while but I don't remember EVER being like this. I would try to explain how I feel but every time I type something I realize it doesn't really explain it properly and I delete it... I need to do something about this.
if anyone actually read all of that (I'm all over the place right now, sorry) I really appreciate it and would love some advice. I honestly believe she likes me and the only reason we haven't made anything out of it is because she doesn't want to have a problem @ work because of it and maybe because she doesn't want to be in a relationship. But then she'll tell me about a guy she's talking to and she'll say she likes him but not enough to be in a relationship... and then she'll tell me she thinks she doesn't want to be in a relationship because she hasn't met anyone she likes enough. It seems like she's young and doesn't know what she wants...? Not that I can talk.
PLEASE HELP!!!
I'm starting out in bullet points b/c if I write paragraphs this will turn into a 5 page essay in a matter of minutes. And please, if anyone wants to give advice but doesn't want to read through this mess let me know and I'll simplify it as best I can.
-this girl works for me
-I never used to hang out with employees but I never get to see my friends so I said screw it
-just for an idea, she's 20 and I'm 24, so it's not like she's a child and I'm an old man
-we hooked up once (the second time I hung out with her and my other employees)
-no sex but if I had pushed for it, definitely would have happened
-didn't hook up after that, she said she didn't know if she was comfortable hooking up with her boss but then she came over and suggested we should be FWB
-that never really happened either, but I haven't been very pushy because I don't want to make things uncomfortable at work or put her in a tough situation (handled this situation differently than I normally would b/c she works for me.. didn't know how hard I should push before it's too much, ya know?)
-since then, working with her almost every day... I can't stop thinking about her and I have no idea why...
-She will openly admit she's afraid of commitment (and not just with me, I know of a couple previous men she's had brief relationships with and she cuts them off as soon as she gets feelings) and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone
-I know she was started to have feelings for me too for several reasons, but partially b/c one night when she was drunk and mad at me she kept saying "I already care too much"
-people who see us together say she likes me but she's a friendly, bubbly person, so IDK if it's just me or not.
so anyway if you read all of that, here are the questions... Do you think I have a thing for her b/c we hooked up but didn't have sex? Do you think it's possible she's really just afraid of commitment or is that an excuse so I don't feel bad? I'd be willing to bet she doesn't know how I feel. Based on the above information do you think it's possible she just doesn't like me? I mean I've had random hookups before but she was ALL OVER ME that night like no other girl I've ever been with. Some of the things that came out of her mouth... and you'd think it would be awkward but it never has been.
I thought I was over her, I convinced myself I just had a crush on her but this feels different. I'm 24 years old. I've had crushes before. Maybe it's just been a while but I don't remember EVER being like this. I would try to explain how I feel but every time I type something I realize it doesn't really explain it properly and I delete it... I need to do something about this.
if anyone actually read all of that (I'm all over the place right now, sorry) I really appreciate it and would love some advice. I honestly believe she likes me and the only reason we haven't made anything out of it is because she doesn't want to have a problem @ work because of it and maybe because she doesn't want to be in a relationship. But then she'll tell me about a guy she's talking to and she'll say she likes him but not enough to be in a relationship... and then she'll tell me she thinks she doesn't want to be in a relationship because she hasn't met anyone she likes enough. It seems like she's young and doesn't know what she wants...? Not that I can talk.
PLEASE HELP!!!
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