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how to talk to my gf about anal sex

rickolasnice said:
"Have you tried anal sex"?

A: "No"

B: "Yes"

A1: "Would you be up for it?"

B1: "What did you think of it?"

If no / didn't like it.. leave it at that.

If yes / liked it.. go for it.
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I agree with this approach.

If she says no, tell her that you are really interested in it and would like her to think about it. If she ever decides that it might be a good idea then she needs to tell you about it. And that's it. The end of conversation.

No one wants to be continually bothered about something they don't want to do. After a while it starts having the opposite effect of the one you want and will guarantee that she never wants to have anal sex with you.

Maybe tell her that it doesn't always hurt women and if done right it can be pleasurable. If she says she is not interested then that's it. Nothing you can do other than rape her ass.

Maybe its too early in the relationship and later on she will be up for it.

It's better if she asks you herself.
 
Ohhh this thread again...

abracadabra girl said:
Never "miss"! That hurts so bad she will never ever let you get near it again.

Play with her ass without trying to go any farther. Lick it when you're down there, or rub your finger around without putting it in. She may seem uncomfortable so reassure her you are not going to try to go any farther (AND DON'T LIE). She can learn to enjoy it if she's not constantly afraid of being hurt.
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^ this.

Try going down on her, and when she's dripping wet, and getting close to orgasm to the point where she is just lying back with a concentrated look on her face, use her juices to slip your ring finger up her ass...she'll love it.

Go from there...

Look up the "anal convincing" thread here in SLR, dude. :)
 
Z Y G G Y said:
Nothing you can do other than rape her ass.
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That's not even funny. I hope that any guy who's considering that gets raped in the ass himself to find out what it feels like. This includes "missing."

Consensual anal sex does not cause any pain. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong.
 
As I said in other threads, "I don't understand why some guys want anal sex."

Conclusions I reached are:

1. If she gets tired, U can roll her over.

2. It's tighter/deeper.

If she asks, "why do U wanna do it?" and U answer, "it just seeems really intimate to me," I would say, "U'r crazy."

U'r gonna hafta come up with a better reason than, "it just seeems really intimate to me."

My transsexual friends like it, they have prostate orgasm from it.
 
it doesnt hurt that bad, i think theres alot of exageration . just casually "accidentally " RAM it in . lolol...
 
^I think everyone knows that anal sex hurts unless done right and that is not an easy task. Which means it hurts most of the time. Even in anal sex movies you can see how a lot of these girls are in pain and it seems to be part of the appeal. So yea its know but guys seem to not care as long as women accept.

That's what is so odd about the whole thing. Men know it hurts women and they still want to do it.

I just assume everyone understands that ramming something up your ass hurts. Especially guys because most wouldn't let anyone touch their ass.

I guess I am wrong.

Who thinks it feels good to have something showed up your ass with force?

abracadabra girl said:
That's not even funny. I hope that any guy who's considering that gets raped in the ass himself to find out what it feels like. This includes "missing."

Consensual anal sex does not cause any pain. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong.
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lol, I'm a girl

Yes, rape is a very bad thing. Nothing to joke about.

I hope my little joke didn't turn anyone onto rape. I would be devastated.

Just because I said it doesn't make rape ok. I take it back.
 
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theseedlesssmoker said:
hey ive been dating this girl for 5 almost 6 months and we love each other like nothing else. i have hinted around and joked about anal sex and she kinda freezes up at the mention of it. i am trying to figure out a way to talk to her about trying it without making her think that im not satisfied with our sex the way it is or anything. it just seeems really intimate to me and i know it hurts if its not done right but i want her to understand that i will do everything possible to make her comfortable.....i dont know... any ideas?
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just be a fucking man and do it

you think their gonna be ok with this? no, you gotta sneak it in, and on top of all this....... the pussy is better always, unless your girls having an issue....

im a one hitter quitter, tried it once, kind of was uncomfortable for me (the ass is really tight) even with lube i felt like it was gripping me a tad too hard.. maybe you could nail her in the ass a few times, stretch it out, would be better in that case most lilkely
 
Also, I call bs on the part where you say you want to do it cuz its very intimate. Why don't you ask her what feels intimate? And then you can find something that is intimate for the both of you.

You want to do it cuz you have seen it in pornos and you think its hot and you have been jerking off to it. And now jerking off to it is not enough and you want to try the real thing.

She doesn't seem interested. These things only work then both parties are into it. Not when she does it cuz you think its intimate.

Do you even know what intimacy is?
 
if you take things slow and don't try and ram it in she might come to enjoy and get much pleasure from what was once painful. They sell numbing gels at adult bookstores which may be worth a try but remember they will numb your dick and thats no good.
 
Jblazingphoenix100 said:
^ Shut up dude...Try that on yourself then see how much it "doesn't hurt that bad".
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i cant try that on myself cause i dont have a dick , but i was speaking from experience, and have had guys do it to me, and its not as bad as most chicks make it seem .
 
Oh...

Well, this surely wasn't sober though?

THat's pretty unusual.

Zyggy - ahhhhhhhhhhahaha you ripped into him.

I'm sure you can convince her to do it if she ain't willing.

DOn't talk to her about it again, for quite a while, and just take my advice of slippin a finger in there, slowly, when you're going down on her/fucking fer doggystyle...trust me - most girls LOVE this.
 
Jblazingphoenix100 said:
Oh...

Well, this surely wasn't sober though?

THat's pretty unusual.
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Seriously unusual. I LOVE anal sex but one time my guy put a toy all the way in before I was ready and it hurt worse than just about anything in my life. It makes me sick to think a guy would do that to anyone on purpose.
 
my ex-girl said she would never do anal, MAYBE when she was married one day. i believed her. a year later we tried anal.

i just played around her asshole a lot during sex and and when licking her pussy. it started with "ok, but dont put your finger in" but eventually i earned the priviledge to carefully insert a finger. soon that became a normal thing to do. spontanous rimming during 69 broke another boundry. i always commented how she is so clean and how great she smells/tastes. after she was comfortable with all the ass play i started brining up anal sex again and she agreed to try it almost immediatly. in the end we both figured out we prefer regular sex but she always wanted a finger in ass for extra stimulation.

so my tip is: if you want anal, dont tell her. instead try to include her asshole in your normal sexual activities. this will bridge the gap to anal sex.
 
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GoddessLSD-XTC said:
As I said in other threads, "I don't understand why some guys want anal sex."

Conclusions I reached are:

1. If she gets tired, U can roll her over.

2. It's tighter/deeper.

If she asks, "why do U wanna do it?" and U answer, "it just seeems really intimate to me," I would say, "U'r crazy."

U'r gonna hafta come up with a better reason than, "it just seeems really intimate to me."

My transsexual friends like it, they have prostate orgasms from it.
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I love it and I have amazing and profound all body orgasms from it. :)
 
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