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How to keep happy?

Being less attached - to stuff, ideas, things, events and even people...makes me happier as it's loss that makes me so very sad and suffer.

And not being so defined in what I think happiness is and what makes me happy - often we can take a very narrow view and understanding of what happiness means personally.

Getting a grip on "entitlement"
 
look at the ex mod with her new control panel ;p <3

double post. someone infract the rebel ;)
 
Marmalade said:
look at the ex mod with her new control panel ;p <3

double post. someone infract the rebel ;)
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Haha that's twice I've done that in the last 10 minutes :| I'm all over the shop with this new set up! Gies me mod panel back, I knew how to delete proper then :D
 
Its all about needs and wants

Want less than you "need" and you will never be unhappy, life is that simple

very simple

Stop attaching yourself to things or any idea of what happiness is
 
Mugz said:
Well I attempt to follow two rules to keep stress free and not let things bother me, they are very hard to follow which causes a lot of stress and unhappiness but if I could manage to keep just these two rules all the time then I would be relatively content and on the way to true happiness.

1.Don't make assumptions - You can't read minds, you don't know the other persons state of mind when they did or said something, if there is a problem ask about it first and then maybe your assumption will be proved incorrect and there will be no need for conflict

2.Don't take anything personally- What other people say and do has nothing to do with you, it is to do with how they are feeling and how they want to express themselves to either help or harm themselves, DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY, it is their issue, and however much the words/actions may have dampened or hurt you it was a reaction to their situation not a personal attack, so try and stay happy and calm and not take things personally.

I struggle with both, but I'm trying my best!! :)
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I'm glad you posted these two rules up Mugz,I think I could learn from following them as I am terrible for taking things personally.
Think I'll give following them a go and see how I get on with it.
 
There is no harm in trying, when I do follow them and they work, I feel so much happier about not letting things get to me and the relationship with the other person/people always turns out better too so I would highly recommend you try and follow them.

Can be hard sometimes when emotions are riding high, but sometimes you have to take a step back from negative emotions and think about it logically and try and follow the rules.
 
Mugz said:
Well I attempt to follow two rules to keep stress free and not let things bother me, they are very hard to follow which causes a lot of stress and unhappiness but if I could manage to keep just these two rules all the time then I would be relatively content and on the way to true happiness.

1.Don't make assumptions - You can't read minds, you don't know the other persons state of mind when they did or said something, if there is a problem ask about it first and then maybe your assumption will be proved incorrect and there will be no need for conflict

2.Don't take anything personally- What other people say and do has nothing to do with you, it is to do with how they are feeling and how they want to express themselves to either help or harm themselves, DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY, it is their issue, and however much the words/actions may have dampened or hurt you it was a reaction to their situation not a personal attack, so try and stay happy and calm and not take things personally.

I struggle with both, but I'm trying my best!! :)
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^ see, he is the messiah.

my final words of wisdom of yesterday were :

remember that there is nothing wrong with being happy; even if in your life you are surrounded by sadness. Sad events, sad situations , reasons to be sad.

Happiness is guilt free and money free.

Mugz may be the messiah but i am the mesheah

(and I am the resurrection and the light) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRwR7avc5Oc
 
For the life I live following Mugz rules would be completely impossible and not pan out well. I'm setting a rule of no alcohol, stimulants or benzos for at least a month though. Pretty sure it's mainly the alcohol that's causing the health problems and general hassle from the people I end up hanging round with and how ill it makes me after.
 
Personally, I'd have to say regular exercise is without a doubt the best thing for improving your mood and happiness throughout day to day life. :)
The main difficulty is actually finding the motivation in the start, but once you get going it's brilliant. Like 2 hours or so in the gym, proper exercise.
 
trammies said:
Personally, I'd have to say regular exercise is without a doubt the best thing for improving your mood and happiness throughout day to day life. :)
The main difficulty is actually finding the motivation in the start, but once you get going it's brilliant. Like 2 hours or so in the gym, proper exercise.
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I'm starting to believe the same thing. Exercise really makes me feel good (and look good).
 
Well, I don't really need exercise to look good. ;)

It boosts my confidence an awful lot, and directly after the exercise leaves me in a state of bliss, because of the masses of endorphins. :D

EDIT: It's also great craic.
 
Proper good exercise to get the heart banging n body burning gives me a good buzz after, used to be right into cardio and weight training, body used to drive me onto doing it, very benefitial feeling, all round very good for well-being, havent bothered with it for awihile now though. finding it harder to get the motivation for it. not good as im getting a bit fatter and couldnt give a shit at the moment, which is odd because i used to be almost obsessed about my weight to the point of weighing myself 3 times a day

good quote,

"Don't ever let anyone else's bullshit dictate your happiness. You only get one shot at life, so make it count"
 
Aye, such is the routine for me, 2-3 times per week depending on external factors. Only started into it again two weeks ago, after stopping for months, having had to get surgery.

Bit of cardio for warmup, and always with 5 minutes of cycling (leg is wrecked still from the surgery, so I can only cycle for 5 minutes or so).
Then leg press, which is again, very small weights, haha.

Then on to weight training for ages, then ending with core.
Makes me feel all... Heavy but light, and relaxed. Forgot how much I loved it until I started again. It was just difficult finding the motivation again. Always is difficult finding the motivation in the start, for me, for essentially everything. I'm naturally very lazy, and have a poor attention span, which I've always had, and now a fairly poor memory, which used to be very good when I was younger. :\
 
It's helped me get through a very rough month or so. Focussing on yourself, and how you feel. If you don't think you look good, then you can really work at changing it, and it can really make you feel good. That was my angle, anyway. It's generally good for getting out aggression and making yourself tired, if you have trouble sleeping.

Trammies: Sorry to hear about your surgery. Hope it's nothing too major.
 
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