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how to keep a guy interested without having sex?

give him betablockers, Im sure theres plenty of drugs to take that has side effects as decreased sexdrive. ssri´s for example..
 
drugging him? Yeah great idea.

Just be honest and say you'd like to get to know him better before giving yourself up that easily - you'll soon find out if he's sincere.

Just do things you both enjoy, as I'm sure you have a whole bunch in common?
 
n3wt said:
I can't tell if this is serious or not, and I think that's what I like about it.

Would a guy owe his lady a fingerbang a day for remaining monogamous?
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Yes, if that's what she wants.

Though everyday would probably be too frequent for the girl, or the boy.

But if your romantic partner wants to get off, either they will do it with you, or someone else, unless they are creepy weirdos who dont believe in orgasms before marriage, that's what it boils down to, reality.
 
footscrazy said:
It makes me really sad to hear you want this guy to be your boyfriend, Ceramic_Cat, after all the mean things he's done to you. Please think about the kind of relationship you deserve, this guy is not good enough for you <3
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as someone who has spoken to this girl myself and knows exactly what you are talking about(the mean shit he did), i too am very confused and upset that the op is so desperate she wants this loser to be her boyfriend..
 
Sex should be an enhancement to the relationship... it's supposed to bond you guys.
If you really meant something to him, he wouldn't rush you into it. Nor should you feel pressured to spread your legs.

Think carefully. Remember, your vagina isn't like Internet Explorer - there is no Clear History button!
 
my advice honey would be to dress up in sexy clothes like short skirts, lacey bras and knickers plunging neck lines to show off your womanly curves. most males would be happy with that, also a lot of males don't want sex right away. they like to get to know a lady first, and don't like to be to pushy. i would never ask a lady for sex, i would wait till she was ready for it, and if she wanted me to have sex with her. then i would gladly oblige her, as i see it if you treat a lady with respect. then after a time comes she will come trust you enough to experiment sexually with her, so my motto is be patient. and your time will come, is that any good to you honey.
 
It's like asking advice of how to keep a girl interested without giving her love. Men need sex (girls too, but they usually don't want to admit it when there's a problem) ;)
 
Ceramic_Cat said:
so I'm pretty pathetic in the way I'm almost 20 and completely clueless when it comes to guys. I'm also emotionally/psychologically weak and a pushover. long story short I'm hanging out with a guy, and when i start getting involved with guys my crazy girl problems come out. idk how to act right. so far i feel I've been good with this. but he's pretty immature. i like him a lot and he likes me but other then stating that we haven't gone further. we do have a past, not a good one at that, so i told him I'm not just gonna give myself up to him right away and for the time being. so i guess i just generally need advice on how to keep him around/interested without having sex with him. i know having sex with him won't keep him around either. I'm just completely clueless on what to do because i want him to be my boyfriend. i'd appreciate any advice anyone would be willing to give me <3
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I'm hardly an authority on such matters but I'll chime in with my 2c nonetheless.

I think many guys view girls who put out too soon as non-relationship material. Girls who are eager to put out lose that allure about them, and they tend to come off as "clingy." They'll put out in a hope that the guy will take further interest in her. This, however, isn't reality. They just come off as, like I said, clingy, and also (sometimes) cheap.

Moroever, guys enjoy a challenge. They don't want to bed a girl so soon after establishing a relationship with her. That's just the general vibe I get from others and it's how I feel, too.

It's far more pleasing and respectful when in a relationship the girl waits to have sex, within reason of course (e.g. not waiting about 6 months before giving it up). It's stupid, I know; girls want sex just as guys do. But alas stereotypical gender-roles have forbidden this and laid down the rules pertaining to behaviours befitting each sex.

You want him to be interested? Well, do you what you enjoy doing. If he has similar characteristics, a similar personality, he'll be interested, too. If he doesn't, then he'll become bored. But that's good, because then you know that he wasn't the right person for you. Further, I think not having sex too soon also weeds out the guys who are solely feigning interest in an attempt to get some "easy tail." Unfortunately, there are guys who just want sex, and will fake romantic interest purely to get some booty. But if you wait, most of these types will lose interest quickly once they realise that you aren't "that type of girl."

As I said, this is just my 2 cents. I'm not exactly a lady-killer type myself. What I'm writing about is only produced from what I've heard from other guys directly, hearsay, and from what Ivé read.

Good luck.

-- James
 
Wait...is this the same guy in the other thread? This guy isn't into you Ceramic_Cat, and you're hurting yourself by pushing him into paying attention to you. Why don't you leave him alone, find time for yourself and the right guy will come along. You can't force this stuff.
 
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