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How do you know if you have a Superiority complex?

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Turly curious, because most have an inferiority complex - my step-dad has the worst inferiority problems - which drives mum up the wall - all if us actually.

But I think I have the reverse. It's not that I think I am God or think I am above anyone - I am very humble and I do know and acknowledge when I am wrong, and I dont think the world owes me a living and I do everything for other people

But I walk around everywhere like I own it. I am here now and you are lucky I am even looking at you! (Why would they be lucky for that???) - I have something to say and you are going to be happy you listenend (WHY?? its not like I ever talk sense)

Or is that just too much confidence?
 
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I am here now and you are lucky I am even looking at you!
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Pomplemous said:

I am very humble and I do know and acknowledge when I am wrong, and I dont think the world owes me a living and I do everything for other people
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I feel lucky when I get the privalege of being around someone like that.
 
But I think it can be to a persons detriment - how can it not? People look at me weird because I have the attitude of - well i am not better than you, but I am better than anything you can throw at me.

I cross the road and refuse to go faster if a car is coming - I think - ach, you can wait for me, Jimmy! (everyone is called Jimmy) - and saunter on across

Its the weirdest feeling because I do feel as though I was royalty or something - I mean I am nice to everyone always - you have gathered an ounce of who I am from other posts, but in my head I 'grace' people with my presence and all I want to do is make people smile, but I think far too much of myself whilst also knowing my faults - but yeah, it cant be normal

or is having a superiority complex closer to having a God complex?
 
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I am a little like this myself. Just a little. :)

I am pretty sure of myself, and tend to immediately assume people like me/are attracted to me etc. in social situations. It really surprises me a great deal if I find out someone doesn't. I also tend to think (in my head) I'm more intelligent than some people... not all, but my boyfriend for one.

I think I'm talented, and when people compliment me I have no trouble taking that compliment. I often have to check myself when I get a compliment to make sure I respond in the "appropriately humble" manner. I do not take advantage of people but I don't suck up to them either. With friends or lovers, I'll wait for them to come to me, and am perfectly happy to take it or leave it if they don't.

Geez that all sounds fucked doesn't it! I should add that I also have days when I'm nothing like this ;). I have doubts and fat days like anyone, but generally, I'm pretty comfortable in my skin.

Oh well. You know what I think, I think it just comes from having a secure sense of yourself. A lot of it is from life experience too.... I've been knocked around a fair bit and instead of letting that damage me, I've let it make me stronger. I guess I realise now that everybody is weak in some way, therefore there is no-one who is intrinsically "Better" than me. And that gives me the confidence to live my life with my head held high.

I don't think it's a fault unless it manifests in outright arrogance... which it doesn't.
 
It's called narcissism :) And it isn't harmful unless you fall into the extreme spectrum of the disorder, where it negatively effects your relations with others and interferes with your ability to carry out day to day activities.

Just watch Fight Club and you'll gradually lose that superiority complex :)
 
Not to offend, but people that do that shit deserve a beating. If you take your sweet time crossing the road when there's a CAR coming at you, with the right of way, and you've clearly mis-timed your walk, speed the fuck up. Otherwise you're pretty much saying, "fuck you, I can take a car, bring the pain!" If you're a little old lady, then fine. But if you're able-bodied, it's extremely rude and if someone throws something out of their car at you, you deserve it!

But I'm sure you're still a nice person :)

Oh, this ranks right up there with people who form conversation circles or pairs in the middle of busy pedestrian intersections like they're the only people on earth, or people that talk WAY too loud on cellphones, again like they're the only people on earth. Airing all of their personal business and whatever else the fuck they want to talk about because anyone who could possibly overhear is too insignificant to care about. We live in a society, you should respect public resources and not be a mindless rude asshole to everyone around you. IT IS TIME TO GET OVER YOURSELF...

Again, this is not necessarily you, but when people do that shit crossing the street I can get pretty heated...depending on how egregious it is. Also I attended a college full of the overprivileged and underhumbled and now live amongst yuppies so you can imagine my saturation level with this stuff.
 
^ Yeah, I must admit that crossing the road slowly thing gets my goat too.

I don't do that.

I also hate it when people block the aisles of supermarkets having a little chat, park their cars over two car spaces, or stop right in front of you to change directions without looking. I am unfailingly polite in public situations like that. I guess it's only in other ways I'm a narcissist.
 
Actually most people tend to think of themselves as above average, so better than most people in a variety of ways. Even when you talk about things like self-esteem, those people that are low self-esteem usually really only have about average self-esteem (not really low). We like to think good things about ourselves.

I did this study with my class because they didn't really believe me, and had them rate themselves on things like attractiveness, scholastic skills, social skills, etc and sure enough the class average was anywhere from 7-9 on a 10 point scale (5 being average), and hardly anyone rated themselves as below average on anything.
 
Yeah..it sounds like you're way up yourself, and you say that you are humble and nice and shit just to make yourself feel better and to give others a false sence of worth. I have a mate who does this, and believe me it doesn't take long before your mates discover what a wanker you really are and will start to treat you as such. You can never have a truly deep and meaningfull relationship with the world at large if you carry on thinking these selfish and immature thoughts.
 
^ izzat so? Strawberry_lovemuffin, I recognise some of those thoughts and frankly there is not one dagnam bad thing about it - For the record - I would never bring a car to a halt to let me cross - wise up! and I would never stand in the middle of the street making conversation - as I get angry at them too.

John Candy - shame you cant be even humble OR nice - but if it makes you feel better to talk like that then whatever. However in saying that, my foot's beginning fancy a deep and meaningful relationship with your arse.

So if the way I think is selfish and immature - so to stop thinking like this, then I should think myself to be lower than everyone else - I should bow and scrape maybe? I understand why you should get so heated - because I can imagine the mind set of the kind of character you are thinking I am - but you are wrong, in actual fact you dont know who or what I am and your daft words are like bullets that missed by miles!
 
I can imagine the mind set of the kind of character you are thinking I am - but you are wrong, in actual fact you dont know who or what I am and your daft words are like bullets that missed by miles!
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If so, why are you posting? In your first post, you admitted that you thought your narcissism was a problem. Now, people are agreeing with you and you are denying them? Come on....

For example, only a narcissist would say something like, "your daft words are like bullets that missed by miles!"What you need to do is stop thinking of yourself as this heroic character in some vastly important cosmic story. The truth is that you are not a unique snowflake
 
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