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How do you get your anger out?

I don't really get out my anger which is kind of a big problem. I push it back and it just keeps building up more and more. :\
 
If I'm not driving, I close my eyes and cover them with my hands and breathe as deep as possible, keep trying to re-affirm it's not personal, or maybe just a test.

Is it really a question about how to handle it though? To some people the wind blowing is impersonal and wouldn't bother them, others take the object or situation personally.

If I bump and hurt myself on something and am also in a bad mood, I'm likely to smash it in retaliation. It happens in a split second. Maybe I'll go jogging or catch a movie later... but not before it's too late.
 
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I go inside my car , take a drive, and scream my lungs off inside where nobody can hear me. (this is rare though...usually for extreme cases.) Than I'm okay again. I rarely throw stuff or destroy things .....I'm always thinking of the aftermath and the damage and the worse consequences of a few seconds of unbridled anger... ;)

I'm also very transparent, and so my true feelings always show (unless I need to hide it, or supress it for some reason..which I do only for the necessary time). Anyway it takes a lot to rile me up really. I'm very straightforward so little annoyances are easily forgotten after I've been listened to and given time to express myself.
 
If the cause of my anger can be resolved, then I resolve it.

Otherwise, I take a deep breath, and focus on other matters.
 
Whenever I get really angry (for whatever reason), I simply supress it. In fact, I'm so good at hiding my emotions, no one around me can even notice. It probaby sounds unhealthy, but honestly I'm pretty self-conscious about showing anger. Most times, I'll unsually try to correct the problem or sometimes complain - but if it's an issues beyond my control, all I can do it let it go.
 
I tire of people whose regular modes include pushing off their negativity onto others.

I'd rather not know a person who turns to anger on the regular. Anger is the antithesis of empathy.

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My anger is usually something that wells up inside me. Beware my wrath if you cross me or continue to insult me with your poor attempts at humor/"truth telling."

I will find your buttons and push them until you hurt from the inside out.


I've learned from the best! motherfuckers.


If you don't like this game, then do not force me to step up. Because my threshold for pain is more than most people in my life can imagine.
 
i punch a door that about breaks my hand everytime. it feels great right then, but the next few days usually arent too good for my hands. luckily i dont get that angry all that often.
 
A set of anger solvant solutions:

=Throw punches on a big cushion out in the air, pretty much like boxers do

=Kick a huge cushion

=Use some obsenities while doing the above, but when no-one is around to hear

=Pace yourself up and down-some verbality adds to the expression

=Get a knife and start chopping carrots on a chopping board fast-then seat down and eat them/don't chop any fingers off

=If you can go out, go on the beach nearby, walk on the sand and kick the sand as much as you can/ or jump in the water with your cloths on, that usually brings you back to normal and you can laugh about yourself too

=Get on the bicycle or run

=Write freely all you feel as fast as you can, use angry words on paper, then throw it away when all subsides

=Paint, or draw

=Have a cold shower, it takes it all away, either yellling s...s...s...this is darn freezing, or simply the cold water, shocks the anger away

=When all is cool, reflect as to why you were so angry

=Finally, find something about it all, that one can laugh!

Well I don't really do any of these, but these are strategies for people who need them, they work!

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I work my anger out, by looking at the issue that has angered me, and doing a rational emotive aproach, leave it for a while and it works out fine! If it is towards someone I will deiscuss it or confront it and done with it!
If it doesn't work, just kick the cat!!!

LOL!
 
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If I'm by myself I usually tense up and look for the nearest thing to punch or throw. But I generally stop myself when I feel this way, and take a few seconds to shift my perspective.

Most of the time there isn't a worthwhile reason to be that angry, so I find that I relax after that.
 
when i rage i argue and im very passionate while doing so. if all verbal attempts fail i rage on paper.

if im raging over an object, such as trying to figure out how to put something together, ill argue with it before fumbling it around in my hands making little rage noises.
 
I try not to act out of anger, or let it control me. Most of the things I do when I get pissed off are things I do with my time anyways.

When there is something specific I'm trying to work out, or a certain anger/confusion causing event in my life, I'll go to one of the disgustingly large local golf courses in the middle of the night and meditate. It's like having a mini forest to yourself. Fuck the tiny 'public parks'.
 
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I find hanging at the mess helps...there is someone there who understands what I am saying...I'm usually just mad at the world and how much it sucks...and it is the place to go blow off.

or tossing my kit on, and running though some basic hand held bayo hits on a tree.
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
The older I get the less angry I am. I am easier to get along with and I don't sweat the small stuff. I am never violent.

I talk about my feelings and pot does a great job of keeping me level. I don't get high if I haven't gone over what is upsetting me. I self medicate with conversation first.
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I still deal with anger the same healthy way and I wrote this before I went to therapy.
 
a_orange_juice said:
I workout.
Nothing better than taking out your anger through lifting heavy shit. :D
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true that.

i also like to yell FUCK really, really loud, or something along the lines of AHGHHHHHHHHHH

but that's just frustration based anger...

true anger i become extremely silent, and every muscle in my body becomes tense and it even creeps myself out :| at that point i need an antipsychotic though, not many can bring me to that level of anger
 
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