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how do i know what is cheating??

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sara_wifer

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my hubbies at work a lot 8am-5pm and because we live really really close to the beach i go there a lot either with my girlfriend or alooone.
How do i know if its cheating when a guy talks to me at the beach, is there any limits to make sure i don't go over? Its a clothing option beach :|
 
Call me a prude, but should a married woman even be going to the beach nude without her husband? Let alone talking to other guys?
It's not cheating to flirt naked, but it's inappropriate.
In relationships, when in doubt, ask yourself, 'how would I feel if my so was doing this?' If you'd feel uncomfortable with him chatting up naked ladies at the beach, then you shouldn't be doing it either. If you wouldn't care if the situation was reversed, why not ask your husband where he thinks the line should be drawn?
Cause really, who cares what internet people think? The only person you need to ask this question to is your husband.
 
trooper7 said:
Call me a prude, but should a married woman even be going to the beach nude without her husband? Let alone talking to other guys?
It's not cheating to flirt naked, but it's inappropriate.
In relationships, when in doubt, ask yourself, 'how would I feel if my so was doing this?' If you'd feel uncomfortable with him chatting up nake d ladies at the beach, then you shouldn't be doing it either. If you wouldn't care if the situation was reversed, why not ask your husband where he thinks the line should be drawn?
Cause really, who cares what internet people think? The only person you need to ask this question to is your husband.
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My hubby and me are nudists and we live a few minutes walk from the beach. I think only nudists go to that beach,so nude isn't anything to do with s3x for them, but like i'm not 100% sure because a pervy guy might go to the beach too. I asked my husband if I should go to the beach and he said its 30 or 35+ degrees cel everyday and to go a lot cos its summer and not much to do when hubbies at work. I go with my girlfriend when she has no work.

I can't control if men talk to me, i just wanted to know if i should talk to them or give the silent treatment. I asked my hubby and he said just talk normal to them, but i still feel doubts because they never stop talking to me, so its like constant chatting :(. Umm if my hubby was going there alone i be ok with it because he luvs me :)
 
I say talk to your husband and set clear, defined limits and once thee limits are set, keep our (British descended) tradition "That which is not forbidden is allowed"

Personally, I enjoy talking to people so much [male or female] that it would just be a natural, social, non sexual thing to me. Its just what I do. If you are just talking because well, it is interesting to talk t people, I see no harm being done.
 
alasdairm said:
the only definition of cheating which matters is the one on which you and your husband agree. talk to him.

alasdair
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Personally, I define cheating as physical contact with another person that should only happen between my SO and I. If that line hasn't been crossed, then there is no fault to be had.
 
Keaton said:
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Personally, I define cheating as physical contact with another person that should only happen between my SO and I. If that line hasn't been crossed, then there is no fault to be had.
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I agree, i kind of consider flirting cheating, yes it's not physical but it is kind of like intentions of cheating.
 
alasdairm said:
the only definition of cheating which matters is the one on which you and your husband agree. talk to him.

alasdair
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For sure <3

aveoturbo said:
If you even have to question it then it may be something you shouldn't be doing. Talk to your husband about it and find out how he feels about it. Also, pics? ;) jk
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Yep for sure <3 my camera phone is not very good sorry.

rangrz said:
I say talk to your husband and set clear, defined limits and once thee limits are set, keep our (British descended) tradition "That which is not forbidden is allowed"

Personally, I enjoy talking to people so much [male or female] that it would just be a natural, social, non sexual thing to me. Its just what I do. If you are just talking because well, it is interesting to talk t people, I see no harm being done.
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That sounds cool, thanks =D <3

Keaton said:
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Personally, I define cheating as physical contact with another person that should only happen between my SO and I. If that line hasn't been crossed, then there is no fault to be had.
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Only my girlfriend puts my lotion on so no problem <3

Oats said:
I agree, i kind of consider flirting cheating, yes it's not physical but it is kind of like intentions of cheating.
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Yep that's tricky <3
 
Seems weird that you'd ask this here. If your hubby has said it's cool to talk to them, then it's really upto you whether you decide to or not. Figure out what you're comfortable with, then do that.
 
next time you're in one of these "questionable" situations, try this test:

imagine turning around and seeing your husband walking towards you and the guy you're talking to. if there's anything you'd immediately change (body language, conversation topic, etc.) then you should tone things down a bit.
 
footscrazy said:
Seems weird that you'd ask this here. If your hubby has said it's cool to talk to them, then it's really upto you whether you decide to or not. Figure out what you're comfortable with, then do that.
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He says its ok but not sure if he's jsut saying it because of me liking beaches or if he really is ok with it:(

double ewe said:
next time you're in one of these "questionable" situations, try this test:

imagine turning around and seeing your husband walking towards you and the guy you're talking to. if there's anything you'd immediately change (body language, conversation topic, etc.) then you should tone things down a bit.
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Thanks that's a nice idea!:) Will do!:)

aveoturbo said:
I was only kidding about the pics, but, I think I should mention that there is a nudie thread in the lounge.... Once you get to BL'er status you could, you know, post some pics in there or something....... ;)
Or not.
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Sounds exciting! Posing is fun that is a fact! Probably not safe though unless i cover my face you know lol, but i guess none of my family/friends will be members anyways lol:)
 
If you're a nudist then being naked/clothed shouldn't really matter, right? If my boyfriend got mad at me for talking to other guys, well that would be a relationship-ender. I don't see why anyone would get upset that you're talking to other people.
My definition of cheating is basically kissing or more, physical contact.
 
alasdairm said:
the only definition of cheating which matters is the one on which you and your husband agree. talk to him.

alasdair
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^This^

rangrz said:
I say talk to your husband and set clear, defined limits and once thee limits are set, keep our (British descended) tradition "That which is not forbidden is allowed"

Personally, I enjoy talking to people so much [male or female] that it would just be a natural, social, non sexual thing to me. Its just what I do. If you are just talking because well, it is interesting to talk t people, I see no harm being done.
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^and this^

Talk to your husband, you said how you're both nudists so if you're just at a beach with friends and only talking with them it doesn't sound like it should be a big deal.
 
llama112 said:
If you're a nudist then being naked/clothed shouldn't really matter, right? If my boyfriend got mad at me for talking to other guys, well that would be a relationship-ender. I don't see why anyone would get upset that you're talking to other people.
My definition of cheating is basically kissing or more, physical contact.
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PriestTheyCalledHim said:
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^and this^

Talk to your husband, you said how you're both nudists so if you're just at a beach with friends and only talking with them it doesn't sound like it should be a big deal.
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He says hes happy with me chatting to guys there, I just feel guilty when i do it lol. I only began being a nudist this year and my hubby copied me to like fit in. I mean he only is a nudist when we go to the beach together and in bed lol.
 
hmm. i could understand feeling modest or embarrassed - as many people are who are new to being naked in public - why guilty specifically?

have you spent any time analysing these feelings yourself? what conclusions do you draw?

alasdair
 
alasdairm said:
hmm. i could understand feeling modest or embarrassed - as many people are who are new to being naked in public - why guilty specifically?

have you spent any time analysing these feelings yourself? what conclusions do you draw?

alasdair
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Just really confused from being around nude men its really strange cos i never saw them because my parents did not let me date until just before marriage!
 
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