The devil in me says just do it... joke.
Well after having much discussion and reading around the idea of swinging and threesomes..
I would firstly not meet him alone, for coffee or anything.
Flirtacious behaviour, and "getting to know a person" can easily lead to something more meaning full which could ruin your marriage.
I would ask him out, and say you and your husband are going out does he want to join you.
That way he has no expectations (could be innocent), he doesnt think he is in with a chance if your husband doesnt like him, and your husband can feel secure.
Once you are all there, let your husband broach the topic of taking it further.. then take it from there.
Swinging and threesomes are dangerous territory.
In my opinion its best done with a total strantger, because jealousy and insecurities are cancer to a relationship.. they creep in without you knowing.. and by the time you do.. your on the rocks!
Well after having much discussion and reading around the idea of swinging and threesomes..
I would firstly not meet him alone, for coffee or anything.
Flirtacious behaviour, and "getting to know a person" can easily lead to something more meaning full which could ruin your marriage.
I would ask him out, and say you and your husband are going out does he want to join you.
That way he has no expectations (could be innocent), he doesnt think he is in with a chance if your husband doesnt like him, and your husband can feel secure.
Once you are all there, let your husband broach the topic of taking it further.. then take it from there.
Swinging and threesomes are dangerous territory.
In my opinion its best done with a total strantger, because jealousy and insecurities are cancer to a relationship.. they creep in without you knowing.. and by the time you do.. your on the rocks!