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My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.
 
Οppressed. Was used in having my space but now my grandparents came to my home, and they plan to stay long.
 
sad.

My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.

I'm really sorry. *HUGS*
 
sad.

My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.

So sorry to hear that Herby. My dog is getting old, he is with us since my son was 2 or 3 years old. He doesn't know life without him. I can feel that soon we'll have to deal with it. And, speaking about family - my father is very ill. I never expected that he lived that much, and I was 'sort' of okay with this. But now that he's so proud to have made it so far, I'm fearful that he goes away. I wanted to say so many things to him but he's a very silent man when it comes to feelings and sorrows.
 
Can I come in from the cold cruel world for a minute? 8)

I'm heartsick for your loss, Herby. One day I'll share the story of losing my dear Dalmatian suddenly. An "angel kitty" showed up that weekend after I'd sworn I'd never have another cat. The comfort of her has sustained us. I'd had a Siamese for 11 years followed by a Himalayan for 16 years.

Erickmen, I understand your dread as your dog ages too. I often wonder why our dogs can't live as long as horses?! We've buried 2 Dalmatians in 9 years and our current Dal is 9+ years old.

I empathize with those of you who have aging parents. I don't claim to be an expert, but I've lived through my dad's death and my mom is 90, but can't die. Please feel free to talk to me, if you need someone to listen. I am an excellent "sounding board". Lord knows I need a friend to share my conflicting feelings with. I am the youngest of 6 @ 55 years old. My siblings ghosted my mom and me. My oldest brother who should be here won't even discuss the situation. He tells me that no one wants to hear my shit. How is our mom MY shit?

I will say this...Say whatever you need to say to your parents before they're gone. If you can't say it, write it. Find a way to make some kind of peace, even if it is to accept that "peace will not come". I've had to wear riot gear to visit my mom for over 11 years. She's now flat of her back, despondent. I fed her pureed Thanksgiving dinner last week.

I'd almost rather she were cussing and threatening to knock my GD head off. :\
 
i feel loved.

I got to help another alcoholic the other day by getting him into detox.

It felt amazing, I got the opportunity to help others today, and for that I am responsible.

sorry to hear about your loss herbavore <3.

I don't like to put this out there but I have to, I grew up with a lot of pets, and because of my addiction I was never there for them when they passed away, I wasn't around for their last breath. After all the absolute love that they gave me. I couldn't even be there for my pets when they fucking died. I was miles away in other states chasing another one. It's hard for me to go back home because my family has a little pet cemetery in the back yard and when I go smoke it tears me up even looking that direction. That's something that I'm having to look at now days. I also have to look at it like this, no matter who loves me, leaves me or dies I will stay sober just for today.
<3
 
I'm feeling for you guys big time dealing with the loss of pets and older parents. I am not in that position yet of having a parent I have to take care of and I haven't lost my older dog yet. Now I'm fearing all of these things and need to be in the present moment.

Today has sucked. Feeling stagnant. That's a constant struggle.
 
I'm sorry you are going through a tough time Young_ile.
Everything changes, and I believe we tend to adapt to the worst situations.
Nevertheless, I do hope you feel or go through some brief good moments - even if you are not happy. <3

Me, Anxious
 
i feel loved.

I got to help another alcoholic the other day by getting him into detox.

It felt amazing, I got the opportunity to help others today, and for that I am responsible.

sorry to hear about your loss herbavore <3.

I don't like to put this out there but I have to, I grew up with a lot of pets, and because of my addiction I was never there for them when they passed away, I wasn't around for their last breath. After all the absolute love that they gave me. I couldn't even be there for my pets when they fucking died. I was miles away in other states chasing another one. It's hard for me to go back home because my family has a little pet cemetery in the back yard and when I go smoke it tears me up even looking that direction. That's something that I'm having to look at now days. I also have to look at it like this, no matter who loves me, leaves me or dies I will stay sober just for today.
<3

Awesome =D<3

Sorry to hear about your cat Herbavore - I rem losing my own - grief is so inexplicable. <3

I'm in a strange state of being permanently, disappointed with myself and my life - least im busy and challenged atm so its manageable and Im a stubborn-ass person, so at least I have one personal quality to be grateful for.
 
Anger. Motivational anger though so it's a positive. I see how my family takes advantage of me with bills because I'm not always mentally strong due to depression, etc. Enough. Time to shape up and get out of here.
Leave them to pay their own crap.
 
CTC, anger can be a good way to express yourself, especially if you are depressed. React 'awake'. With time you'll get your own ways to get in tune with them.
Have been there.
 
I'm heartsick for your loss, Herby. One day I'll share the story of losing my dear Dalmatian suddenly. An "angel kitty" showed up that weekend after I'd sworn I'd never have another cat. The comfort of her has sustained us. I'd had a Siamese for 11 years followed by a Himalayan for 16 years.

I empathize with those of you who have aging parents. I don't claim to be an expert, but I've lived through my dad's death and my mom is 90, but can't die. Please feel free to talk to me, if you need someone to listen. I am an excellent "sounding board". Lord knows I need a friend to share my conflicting feelings with. I am the youngest of 6 @ 55 years old. My siblings ghosted my mom and me. My oldest brother who should be here won't even discuss the situation. He tells me that no one wants to hear my shit. How is our mom MY shit?

I will say this...Say whatever you need to say to your parents before they're gone. If you can't say it, write it. Find a way to make some kind of peace, even if it is to accept that "peace will not come". I've had to wear riot gear to visit my mom for over 11 years. She's now flat of her back, despondent. I fed her pureed Thanksgiving dinner last week.

I'd almost rather she were cussing and threatening to knock my GD head off. :\

Spot on.
 
^ Great to feel GOOD. I'm in that gray area most of that times or even happy, at moments.

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