nuttynutskin
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Recovering
sad.
My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.
sad.
My oldest cat died while I was on vacation with my family. It was a hard choice to leave. My husband stayed behind so that I could spend time with my elderly mom and I knew my cat might not make it until I got back, and she didn't. It was so hard to come home to her absence last night. My remaining cat is a former feral and has never been incredibly bonded with us humans. She is sitting by me right now but she will never be a cat you can cuddle with or that will allow you to hold her at all. I appreciate who she is but now that she is my only cat I feel a real loss of affection because both of my older cats have passed on.
i feel loved.
I got to help another alcoholic the other day by getting him into detox.
It felt amazing, I got the opportunity to help others today, and for that I am responsible.
sorry to hear about your loss herbavore.
I don't like to put this out there but I have to, I grew up with a lot of pets, and because of my addiction I was never there for them when they passed away, I wasn't around for their last breath. After all the absolute love that they gave me. I couldn't even be there for my pets when they fucking died. I was miles away in other states chasing another one. It's hard for me to go back home because my family has a little pet cemetery in the back yard and when I go smoke it tears me up even looking that direction. That's something that I'm having to look at now days. I also have to look at it like this, no matter who loves me, leaves me or dies I will stay sober just for today.
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I'm heartsick for your loss, Herby. One day I'll share the story of losing my dear Dalmatian suddenly. An "angel kitty" showed up that weekend after I'd sworn I'd never have another cat. The comfort of her has sustained us. I'd had a Siamese for 11 years followed by a Himalayan for 16 years.
I empathize with those of you who have aging parents. I don't claim to be an expert, but I've lived through my dad's death and my mom is 90, but can't die. Please feel free to talk to me, if you need someone to listen. I am an excellent "sounding board". Lord knows I need a friend to share my conflicting feelings with. I am the youngest of 6 @ 55 years old. My siblings ghosted my mom and me. My oldest brother who should be here won't even discuss the situation. He tells me that no one wants to hear my shit. How is our mom MY shit?
I will say this...Say whatever you need to say to your parents before they're gone. If you can't say it, write it. Find a way to make some kind of peace, even if it is to accept that "peace will not come". I've had to wear riot gear to visit my mom for over 11 years. She's now flat of her back, despondent. I fed her pureed Thanksgiving dinner last week.
I'd almost rather she were cussing and threatening to knock my GD head off.![]()
Recovering