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He deleted me off of facebook

Just a future note: If you message him asking him what's up, to the point where he knows that you're getting cut and upset about it. It will only make it all the more awkward the next time you talk to him, if you decide to add each other/be friends again.

It's happened to me before, where I was like what the fuck! They must have felt bad and added me again, then it was too awkward for any friendship anyway. Best off in future to accept that they are up themselves douche-bags and shrug these childish things off. =)
 
saboteur said:
It's happened to me before, where I was like what the fuck! They must have felt bad and added me again, then it was too awkward for any friendship anyway. Best off in future to accept that they are up themselves douche-bags and shrug these childish things off. =)
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unless you did something to pissed them of, then you say sorry and apoligies.

but if u really thing u did nothing u should let it go... Why would you want to be friends with someone who doesn't want to be ur friend..
remember theres a reason they delated you..

For example I was very mad at someone few days ago, I went home and delated them, 2 days later they apoliged and etc.. So I forgived them, and Im going to add them back.
 
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One of my ex-things recently deleted me on Facebook and I had no idea why since we hadn't hung out in a couple months. I ended up getting a mutual friend to talk about it with him, and my ex said that I told someone that the time I spent with him was the lowest point of my life. I don't recall saying that to anyone except perhaps one person who doesn't talk to him nor like him... Long story short, guys are just shitty, and deleting someone on Facebook is probably the lowest burn ever. Don't even bother thinking about him, it's not worth your time. Chances are he's just a little bitter or sad that you guys aren't hanging out anymore.
 
life is complicated enough..

Man I don't ever use facebook and it still affects my life negatively.. saying that I don't think this is really about facebook.. its about 2 people that use facebook to communicate. Why don't they talk on the phone? I can't say but if someone doesn't seem to be thinking about you they probably aren't.. don't be mad and don't react badly or assume anything.. most likely they aren't losing sleep over it.. you said you got his email or whatever.. hit him up.. who cares if he thinks you are clingy.. really what is there to lose.. im not sure about your relationship but it seems odd that you would hesitate to email him.. if someone.deleted me I would have emailed them immediately.and asked if it was a mistake and if not wtf.. but I don't facebook or email.. funny my phone knows facebook is a word?? It predicts it..
 
j0nblaze said:
Man I don't ever use facebook and it still affects my life negatively.. saying that I don't think this is really about facebook.. its about 2 people that use facebook to communicate. Why don't they talk on the phone? I can't say but if someone doesn't seem to be thinking about you they probably aren't.. don't be mad and don't react badly or assume anything.. most likely they aren't losing sleep over it.. you said you got his email or whatever.. hit him up.. who cares if he thinks you are clingy.. really what is there to lose.. im not sure about your relationship but it seems odd that you would hesitate to email him.. if someone.deleted me I would have emailed them immediately.and asked if it was a mistake and if not wtf.. but I don't facebook or email.. funny my phone knows facebook is a word?? It predicts it..
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I did message him back right away but got nothing. The message basically was asking why and if this was goodbye. Didn't get something so I just figured why send another. I mean I could but who knows... We weren't dating and actually I just got into a relationship the other day ago with a guy who I had feelings for but we didn't get together. So this guy right here is like whatever his loss... I mean we were good friends but I guess not good enough. I would have called him but after the message thing I kind of felt like I shouldn't.
 
sorry if you had to repeat..

If you had mentioned this before.. the more you explain the situation the clearer it should become. I agree it sounds like he's missing out and your getting off easy. Anyone who can't let a friend down easy probably would impress you as much in a relationship.. I mean if you are disappointed with the investment/return already then this had the potential to be much worse. But ill say again I don't what is going on. He may have a good excuse so don't jump to conclusions.. but he sounds flakey to me... I wouldn't even do that to you chronic. If I ever used that facebook crap..
 
j0nblaze said:
If you had mentioned this before.. the more you explain the situation the clearer it should become. I agree it sounds like he's missing out and your getting off easy. Anyone who can't let a friend down easy probably would impress you as much in a relationship.. I mean if you are disappointed with the investment/return already then this had the potential to be much worse. But ill say again I don't what is going on. He may have a good excuse so don't jump to conclusions.. but he sounds flakey to me... I wouldn't even do that to you chronic. If I ever used that facebook crap..
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I did mention earlier that I messaged him but never got anything back. And I'm pretty much over it right now. I mean friends come and go, I guess and I'm just going to have to move on. At least there are considerate people out there like you. I mean this is only facebook but still there was more to it.
 
agreeing

Just to reiterate I never thought this was facebook issue, you could have simply avoided saying the F word and we could have had this done in 1 page. What was obvious to some or maybe most got it some didn't. But everyone was on your side and hopefully you had enough support along the way to make it worth the minor inconvenience of people focusing on non issues.
 
chr0niclove said:
I mean friends come and go
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Exactly :)

You gotta stay with the moment, otherwise you'll drown yourself in the past.

I had an ex that went completely batshit insane at me while she was on the comedown of an acid trip.. for reasons i'll never know.. soon after that event, she quickly deleted me from facebook and all forms of contact and in time ended up deleting her entire account. I still wonder what triggered that outburst.. since she never gave an explanation, but oh well.. life goes on :D
 
We had the same experience.. I was clueless as to why he did that.. But I didn't get any explanation. It sucks!
 
....aaaaaand this is exactly why I don't use facebook. Get a life that doesn't exist on stalking people on the intarnets. Because essentially that is what facebook is, at least for a lot of the people I know. A way to check out your boyfriends ex-girlfriends to see if they're prettier than you, or how fat that person from high school got, or who's a drug addict, or who's a fuck up...spend a little time focusing on your own life and do yourself a favour and delete the FB. It'll be good for ya. I wonder what everyone would do if they deleted their facebook for a week - go batshit crazy???

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i understand that your point wasn't about FB. I know you were friends w/him before fb or outside of fb but still, to put so much account into what's going on some social media site is just kind of odd for me I guess. Not personally attacking you, just ranting about FB in general. So sick of it.
 
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shahab6 said:
unless you did something to pissed them of, then you say sorry and apoligies.

But if u really thing u did nothing u should let it go... Why would you want to be friends with someone who doesn't want to be ur friend..
Remember theres a reason they delated you..

For example i was very mad at someone few days ago, i went home and delated them, 2 days later they apoliged and etc.. So i forgived them, and im going to add them back.
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omfggg it's lyke totally facebook official we r frendz agaynnnnnn yayyyyzors!!!!
 
littlepenguin said:
....aaaaaand this is exactly why I don't use facebook. Get a life that doesn't exist on stalking people on the intarnets. Because essentially that is what facebook is, at least for a lot of the people I know. A way to check out your boyfriends ex-girlfriends to see if they're prettier than you, or how fat that person from high school got, or who's a drug addict, or who's a fuck up...spend a little time focusing on your own life and do yourself a favour and delete the FB. It'll be good for ya. I wonder what everyone would do if they deleted their facebook for a week - go batshit crazy???

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i understand that your point wasn't about FB. I know you were friends w/him before fb or outside of fb but still, to put so much account into what's going on some social media site is just kind of odd for me I guess. Not personally attacking you, just ranting about FB in general. So sick of it.
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+1, but I left because I wasn't doing anything on there that isn't better done in public. I don't care about the drama side of spaceboobs anymore.
 
Man, I'll never understand it. Isn't real life difficult enough without having to live in the e-world as well? I guess one could argue that message boards like this one are social networking thinger-ma-bobbers... but Facebook, man, I don't know...

I had one until I realized that I don't really want people to be able to find me and I don't want the anxiety of it all; ex-girlfriends popping up under "suggested friends" or whatever with pictures of their new, more handsome, more successful boyfriends; fucking friend requests, status updates and tagged pictures and whatever else...
 
verso said:
I had one until I realized that I don't really want people to be able to find me
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^^^^^exactly.
had I been asked this question a few years ago, I probably would have said that I would want people to be able to find me, have as many friends as possible, etc. I guess since I have 'aged' a bit, I find my privacy more important and my free time is essentially nil. I really don't have time/give a flying fuckery about your status update (omfg my doggie just took a shit! heres a photo...hey everyone gnite its bedtime...o wow my kid just ate food!!!!...omg that girl is such a dirty trollop whore i hayyyte her and her cottage cheez thighzzz (those 'passive aggressive' facebook statuses are the absolute fucking worst, it makes me want to slay somebody in the throat with a rusty butter knife) hayyy guyzz i just did 2374 sit ups at the gym and now imma go eat a mother effin big mac yo wit some currrrrrly friezzzzzz

you get the point. All that site is really for is the following:
- self appreciation (it's basically a shrine to yourself that people hit "thumbs up" on)
- stalking people who don't know you're stalking them
- keeping tabs on your current or past significant other
 
littlepenguin said:
you get the point. All that site is really for is the following:
- self appreciation (it's basically a shrine to yourself that people hit "thumbs up" on)
- stalking people who don't know you're stalking them
- keeping tabs on your current or past significant other
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or a free way to keep in contact with friends who live far away when their telephone number/address/country changes

if you only want to see the negative then that fine but it has positive uses mainly based in the fact its free, you can hear music other people post links to and expand your tastes via youtube and that thing where you can turn youtube into mp3s for making cds for when your driving (my friend sent me the link via facebook), plus it satiates an inherent nosiness which is better than reading magazines and newspapers about celebrities you never even met.
 
^Yeah although I agree that FB is used by a lot people for those negative reasons and motivations.

I find it to be invaluable as a communication tool. A lot of my friends live very far away and calling them all the time would mean a huge long distance bill for me. FB allows me to stay in touch without spending any money. I guess Skype serves the same purpose but you need to pay to be able to dial phones. So again FB does have some redeeming qualities.

Also a lot of my friends use their FB accounts more than their email. I don't but often that is the fastest way to get a hold of some of my friends.
 
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or a free way to keep in contact with friends who live far away when their telephone number/address/country changes
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That's true, but uh... e-mail addresses don't change, do they? And we've been using e-mail for what, the last twenty-something years now? Hell, you need to have an e-mail address to register with Facebook in the first place; and so if e-mail can serve and has served that purpose, to keep in touch with friends who live far away, then why Facebook? What's compelling you to say "Friend me" as opposed to "E-mail me" ?

There's an inherent difference, and I think you know that. Because if keeping in touch with friends who live far away were really what it's all about, you could find another way to achieve that end at no expense and just as conveniently. So at the end of the day, the reason for why you have a Facebook comes down to something more than merely keeping in touch with friends who live far away.
 
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