chr0niclove
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I do have feelings for him, well did. I'm not even sure what I feel right now basically just confused. I wish I didn't care about this but I do... /:
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He deleted me off of facebook
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I do have feelings for him, well did. I'm not even sure what I feel right now basically just confused. I wish I didn't care about this but I do... /:
llama112
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Have you talked to him in real life? Try calling/texting/getting together with him. If he rejects you there, THEN you know he doesn't like you anymore.
You realize that he didn't necessarily delete you, right?
He deleted a lot of people you say? Maybe someone else went on his facebook account and deleted everyone. Seriously, stuff like that happens. Or maybe he accidentally deleted you and didn't mean to. I dunno.
Don't worry about it that much though.
You realize that he didn't necessarily delete you, right?
He deleted a lot of people you say? Maybe someone else went on his facebook account and deleted everyone. Seriously, stuff like that happens. Or maybe he accidentally deleted you and didn't mean to. I dunno.
Don't worry about it that much though.
chr0niclove
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If you mean after the deletion? No I haven't at all. It just happened a couple days ago. And I know he's been online because his email account was online...I only saw cause I added him as a contact on messenger or whatever. So I messaged him on facebook and got no reply... so then I thought whatever. I didn't want to send another message or call him because I don't want to make myself look like a clingy psycho. We don't live in the same town so it's not like I will randomly see him walking around. If that was the case I would of met up with him at some place.
Hey, that's okay. If you didn't give him anything when he wanted it, he might be playing the "he who cares the least, wins" game. Not much you can do at this point except let him know you really want him, if you do. Or maybe you have to play the same game, who knows? I hate them but am learning you have to play whether you want to or not. You may have fucked up by not thinking it was the "right time" to make a move (This may be my bitterness speaking, but what does that even mean? How is when you're feeling such a strong connection the wrong time?)...Girls tend to not know what they want, but in my experience if men feel something real, they want it now and don't want to play any games.
If it were me in his position (assuming he also had deep feelings), i'd probably just distance you to the point where I could start getting feelings for other girls and think horrible thoughts about you to get over you. You come back into his life telling him about regretting not making a move, or confessing your feelings or whatever, but you'd just be confirming that you're just another girl that can't make up her mind and is prone to the normal stupid ass games and not worth his time anyway. He might fuck you if you let him or whatever, but if you leave real feelings hanging too long they become hatred very quickly. Again, this is all assuming he had feelings of this intensity. Maybe this is more just a reflection of my own personal issues? hahahaha.
Honestly, I know for myself that if I feel something really intensely and the girl doesn't quite know what she wants, I have to cut off contact or i'll end up being insane. I don't know if that's your situation (I'm probably in the minority), but depending on how genuine your chemistry was it's something to think about.
purple_cloud
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Yeah but you're complaining that they deleted you off of facebook. Not that he didn't show up somewhere he said he was going to, not because he cheated on you in the middle of a sexual relationship... you're just complaining he removed you as a friend on facebook.
I'm sure you can find 20 more people to be your facebook friend. 200 if you spent enough time at it.
Agreed with all of these. Yes, there's other stuff going on, but you made this thread to basically ask us about him unfriending you from facebook, and brought up the other stuff after we all jumped on you saying FB is stupid. I had someone whom I had slept with, that wanted to do a long distance relationship, just delete me one day, and I noticed that his new profile picture was with him and another girl. Yeah, it sucked, for real life reasons, not for the facebook ones.
Yes I have a facebook, yes I have tons of friends, but no I don't get insulted when someone deletes me, and there are too many people more like you that I can't delete because if I do I get a phonecall/email/text/etc bitching about me deleting them and asking me a thousand questions. He probably had a reason for it, just move on.
not exactly, more like, "dont sweat the small stuff"
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
Wow some of you guys are really stupid its not even funny. Obviously this is not based on he deleted me from freaking facebook. It's the fact he cut off all contact with me. Now if you can't read everything I said then don't fucking post in here. Like I said before I get deleted by people sometimes and I don't even care but the fact someone who I was friends with and everything was going great just randomly deletes me makes me wonder why and what for? It's just like if your best friend randomly cut off ties with you.....its not like you won't question why that happened? And this whole thing isn't based on a relationship but a friendship. So getting a girlfriend has nothing to do with it. Like how many fucking times do I have to state this.
PriestTheyCalledHim
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Did your friend/ex-friend give you a reason why he cut off all contact with you?
I've had people do this with me either randomly or when I said something that isn't that offensive but they were deeply offended by it.
There's not much you can do since it's up to the other person if they want to actually be friends again or remain in contact.
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
shahab6
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I use do that too, the reason I did it, one is if the girl pissed me of, for example something she did, or annoy me or upset me..
maybe you said something to him or did something that upset him, maybe even something you did that u didn't realized.
Other reason could be he realized its going no where, so he delated you,
Iv done that with girls too, after a certain time, realizing its going no where, I just delate them.
maybe you said something to him or did something that upset him, maybe even something you did that u didn't realized.
Other reason could be he realized its going no where, so he delated you,
Iv done that with girls too, after a certain time, realizing its going no where, I just delate them.
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
I don't think I said anything wrong. I never said anything that would have been offensive. The reason I didn't make much of a big move because I wasn't sure if he wanted that. Like its hard to explain I was basically worried about ruining our friendship by making it awkward if I told him I liked him. Should I even try to tell him now or should I just forget about it?
That's a better and more succinct way of saying what I was trying to say, well put.
chr0niclove
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again it's just someone who doesn't read what I wrote.
wizekrak
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Its true.
Ok after reading it, it makes pretty decent sense. A lot of guys are careful with prospective partners and facebook. Some remove them so that if they are interested in someone else you don't get a shit storm on your wall. Others just prune their friends list regularly. But who knows. If he isn't giving you a clear answer then there was something about having you on his list that was making him uncomfortable. But if he isn't going to be clear about it then I doubt you'll get a straight answer out of him. Maybe he decided it was the easy way out? People can be weird sometimes. He probably found someone he liked better and thought it was easier to just cut you loose, though its a dick move. One of my friends used to do this with women all the time. But he's since smartened up.
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You described what sounds like a courtship phase and then you said that it wasn't the right time for you to move further ahead, but that things were fun and everything was happy and smiley and playful (paraphrasing). This little romantic phase may have been enough for you (for a guy this is the equivalent feeling to when a girl gets pumped and dumped), no guy likes being cuckolded. He could tell it was going no where and probably felt like you lead him on a bit. He could tell that he was in the "friends" zone and cut his losses.
It's hard to just go back to friends when there was a flirtatious phase with heightened hopes.
Also, he wants to prevent getting potentially cock-blocked by your simply posting a happy little message on his wall, once new prospects have gained attention.
It's hard to just go back to friends when there was a flirtatious phase with heightened hopes.
Also, he wants to prevent getting potentially cock-blocked by your simply posting a happy little message on his wall, once new prospects have gained attention.
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Yup. Awesome.
theartofwar
Bluelighter
I'd put my money on him trying to get w someone else and doing some spring cleaning on anyone who could potentially get in the way. Sorry sounds cold but believe me it works like that. I do hope you are feeling better 
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chr0niclove
Bluelighter
The thing is I never posted on his wall lol so you guys know. I never contacted him through facebook except a couple of times prior to my phone being shut off. I only messaged him so it's not like anyone knew we talked. I never posted happy all la di da shit on his wall. And he didn't say he wanted more so I obviously wasn't holding anything back. Its not like he suggested he wanted to fuck or anything we were just friends. And thats how we wanted it to be. Then my feelings for him kind of grew but I never told him.
By the way I don't feel bad about this I was just confused. Its not like hes the only guy I know or who I am interested in. I'm single and not set to one person. I'm not wishing anything could of happened I just wish I could have an explanation thats all but again I'm obviously not going to get one.
By the way I don't feel bad about this I was just confused. Its not like hes the only guy I know or who I am interested in. I'm single and not set to one person. I'm not wishing anything could of happened I just wish I could have an explanation thats all but again I'm obviously not going to get one.
shahab6
Bluelighter
did u only wanted to be friends with him, or u wanted to be more than friends??