Yeah
Some women like to get treated like shit before they can let it in. Thoughts?
Yeah I hear you. A lot of ladies are attracted to "bad boys" but I think the aspiration is "I got me a bad boy - but when it comes to me he's really sweet!"
It's a slightly narcissistic fantasy, perhaps analogous to men being interested in seducing women who are "hard to get"?
But re women sometimes getting
hooked in by guys who "treat them like shit" - I think this is just basic reverse psychology that
men are also susceptible
to. Regardless of gender, we all want to be treated well, and if we're not, then that's not
only an insult to our self-esteem, but also very perplexing. "WHY am I
being treated like shit by this
person?" we might wonder. Also, receiving the "Shit Treatment" from a particular person (especially a lover) often feels like a psychic wound that ONLY that person can heal ... by changing, or apologising ... and so the quest begins to elicit non-shitty treatment from the shit-dealer!
Of course this is almost always a futile quest. A person who flagrantly treats you like shit is usually a mind fuck artist, and persisting with that person will only fuck your mind up even more.
A final thought: I think people with robust self-esteem
are much less likely to get entangled with mind fuck artists, because their self-worth doesn't depend entirely on what others thinks about them.