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Guys - do you find it a turn off when girls are catty?

Ah, there are so many words for mean women, such as "catty" "jealous" "bitchy" and the ever infamous "she's a cunt". But what about men whose egos and testosterone cause EXTREME bouts of insecurity, stupid competitiveness, and at times outright violence? Hell, men have mood swings every 20 minutes or so according to an article I recently read!

Not to man-bash, but some of the most useless, immature and totally avoidable ills in the world are solely attributable to men! Ever watch those prison shows? Notice how many of the men, when locked up, start RAPING other men and get in utterly ridiculous fights that lengthen their prison stays? Compared to women in prison who do that, the numbers are staggering. Look at all the gang violence in the U.S. and the world: meaningless fighting over "territory"...how animalistic is THAT?! Why not just piss on a tree to mark your territory like a damn dog? Also, watching some of the dating shows with one woman and like 30 men vying for her affection will show you that a lot of those men are twice as bad as the women as far as vendictiveness and insecurity goes. Not to mention immaturity. But maybe I'm the only person on the planet who's noticed these things? Stupid wars? Do you really think WOMEN would create nuclear weapons and choose to attack other, less helpless nations for money and power at the rate we're seeing now?

That's not to blame EVERYTHING on men, but some of the things men do that are equally "catty" so to speak are on a much larger scale and cause a lot more harm than women, yet we get still the ugly labels, even in 2008.

That said, a lot of women are extremely ignorant and the bitchiness usually comes in when a man of interest is involved. These women's entire self worth depends on attention from the opposite sex. I like to believe natural selection will take care of the less evolved of the species in time, both male and female. :)
 
The funny thing is about 80% of the stupid shit we guys do is us trying to impress you girls. Girls really have the power in the male-female dynamic, as a whole gender at least.

So see, it's all your girls fault!!
 
Lady Codone said:
Hell, men have mood swings every 20 minutes or so according to an article I recently read!

I read an article the other day that told me the world is going to end in 2012.

IT MUST BE TRUE!!!

8o
 
i hate catty girls. the only exception is when my girlfriend defends me or herself against bitchy/jealous girls. if my girlfriend gets a little jealous i dont mind, as long as she doesnt get out of control

i think most guys dont like it when girls are catty. the problem is that there are a lot of guys shallow enough out there that will just put up with it if the girl is hot enough. some guys will put up with anything if the girl is hot.
 
Lady Codone said:
Ah, there are so many words for mean women, such as "catty" "jealous" "bitchy" and the ever infamous "she's a cunt". But what about men whose egos and testosterone cause EXTREME bouts of insecurity, stupid competitiveness, and at times outright violence? Hell, men have mood swings every 20 minutes or so according to an article I recently read!

Not to man-bash, but some of the most useless, immature and totally avoidable ills in the world are solely attributable to men! Ever watch those prison shows? Notice how many of the men, when locked up, start RAPING other men and get in utterly ridiculous fights that lengthen their prison stays? Compared to women in prison who do that, the numbers are staggering. Look at all the gang violence in the U.S. and the world: meaningless fighting over "territory"...how animalistic is THAT?! Why not just piss on a tree to mark your territory like a damn dog? Also, watching some of the dating shows with one woman and like 30 men vying for her affection will show you that a lot of those men are twice as bad as the women as far as vendictiveness and insecurity goes. Not to mention immaturity. But maybe I'm the only person on the planet who's noticed these things? Stupid wars? Do you really think WOMEN would create nuclear weapons and choose to attack other, less helpless nations for money and power at the rate we're seeing now?

8) Goin by your sexist logic, no women wouldnt. They would just stand around talking, being indecisive, and crying when shit hits the fan, and the whole fuckin world would end up in chaos because they were busy talkin about their heavy flow period when some planes hit the WTC lol.

:|

Why are you choosin a thread about one particular female quality to make a general rant about men? Just becuz something negative about a woman is mentioned dont mean that you got to defend all of woman kind or be like "Hey, men do bad shit too! Yea! women act like bitches but guys, omg look guys do much worse shit." Whats the point. everybody got their up and down sides but i dont really see where anybody said anythin even close to somethin that would provoke that post.
 
I'm not man-bashing, but am just a little tired of women getting called out for doing the same things men do! Why not say, "Do you find it hot when PEOPLE are catty/jealous/competitive/insecure, etc.?" It's not okay to say racial slurs, but it's okay to say words that degrade women like "bitch" "twat", etc. and it's just getting a little old. I was surfing the site and also saw a post that claimed "1 in 4 teen girls has an STD", followed by sexist comments calling girls whores and other ugly names...WHAT THE FUCK?! Seriously, where are these STDs coming from? If girls have them, guys do, too, but did ANYONE mention that??? Hell no. I see shit like that all over the internet everyday, not just here.

For instance, I've posted to forums where people assumed I was a male (calling me "he" and "him") and gave tons of positive feedback until they found out I was a female and started arguing with everything I said almost immediately. I didn't set out to prove anything, that's just how it happened.

As for calling my post a "rant", maybe it was. But that's how I feel and I'm just sharing my observations like everyone else. If it was too long, opinionated, or "general" for you, maybe this isn't the kind of forum I thought it was: one where ideas could be openly shared, discussed and handled intelligently. I'm not trying to cause any trouble, but just felt it prudent to point out the fact that sexism, albeit in a less obvious form than in the dark ages, is still alive and well even among intelligent, introspective people on the internet as well as in real life. I'll leave it at that and move on to another thread so as not to cause any more probs...
 
Lady Codone said:
For instance, I've posted to forums where people assumed I was a male (calling me "he" and "him") and gave tons of positive feedback until they found out I was a female and started arguing with everything I said almost immediately. I didn't set out to prove anything, that's just how it happened.

Yep id believe that.
 
Lady Codone said:
I'm not man-bashing, but am just a little tired of women getting called out for doing the same things men do! Why not say, "Do you find it hot when PEOPLE are catty/jealous/competitive/insecure, etc.?" It's not okay to say racial slurs, but it's okay to say words that degrade women like "bitch" "twat", etc. and it's just getting a little old. I was surfing the site and also saw a post that claimed "1 in 4 teen girls has an STD", followed by sexist comments calling girls whores and other ugly names...WHAT THE FUCK?! Seriously, where are these STDs coming from? If girls have them, guys do, too, but did ANYONE mention that??? Hell no. I see shit like that all over the internet everyday, not just here.

For instance, I've posted to forums where people assumed I was a male (calling me "he" and "him") and gave tons of positive feedback until they found out I was a female and started arguing with everything I said almost immediately. I didn't set out to prove anything, that's just how it happened.

As for calling my post a "rant", maybe it was. But that's how I feel and I'm just sharing my observations like everyone else. If it was too long, opinionated, or "general" for you, maybe this isn't the kind of forum I thought it was: one where ideas could be openly shared, discussed and handled intelligently. I'm not trying to cause any trouble, but just felt it prudent to point out the fact that sexism, albeit in a less obvious form than in the dark ages, is still alive and well even among intelligent, introspective people on the internet as well as in real life. I'll leave it at that and move on to another thread so as not to cause any more probs...

Maybe it was a bit of a rant, but I have to say not entirely untrue. I hate the male -v- female bashing generally but men can be just as bitchy and gossipy as women. My b/f used to work in a workplace with mainly men, and I've never heard so many guys in one place bitch and carry on about stupid things.

In saying that, bitchiness is personality based, not gender <3 - in my experience, and definitely a turn off.
 
I love that when you are sincerely yourself you find the right people to jive with. The bond that forms when the catty bitch goddess in all of us comes out is a superficial one based on putting others down. Its an attention seeking behavior at its core. It signifies a discomfort with yourself. On the outside being unable to accept others strengths and flaws, but really lacking the maturity to accept your own in the moment. Once we mature and continuously realize how unique we are without having to be like everyone else there is no need to pick superficial fights with ourself and reflect them onto other people.
 
Lady Codone said:
I'm not man-bashing, but am just a little tired of women getting called out for doing the same things men do! Why not say, "Do you find it hot when PEOPLE are catty/jealous/competitive/insecure, etc.?" It's not okay to say racial slurs, but it's okay to say words that degrade women like "bitch" "twat", etc. and it's just getting a little old. I was surfing the site and also saw a post that claimed "1 in 4 teen girls has an STD", followed by sexist comments calling girls whores and other ugly names...WHAT THE FUCK?! Seriously, where are these STDs coming from? If girls have them, guys do, too, but did ANYONE mention that??? Hell no. I see shit like that all over the internet everyday, not just here.


Yea, my point was not that sexism dont exist. But the question here, is do guys think it is a turn off when girls are catty. Not is there sexism in the world. Just because some people choose to talk about one, particular topic related to a certian gender, it dont mean that it is sexist or unequal or condeming that gender or whatever. they are jus discussing that particular thing. some shit is particular to women. some to men. This is one of em. guys dont act catty. catty is somethin that girls do. straight up.

Why not say do you find it unattractive when people do this that or the other thing? Why, because that aint the question. the OP wanted to ask a question to guys, about girls. And thats OK. It aint sexist. Thas how we do shit here. People post topics that are relevant to what they want to know. for whatever reason the original poster of this thread, wanted to know guys opinions on females who act like big ol' bitches to eachother, so thats what we are talkin about in here. All I was really sayin is this aint the spot to start standin up and marchin in the streets over the wording of a topic, cuz its like takin offense to somethin that aint there. I can understand your point and yes the world is still sexist just like it is still racist. But thats kinda somethin that is generally agreed on in here anyways, in other news the sky is blue.

Anyways I hope that makes sense.Im sure you will fit right in here with all our crazy feminists, god bless their lil apple-pie-baking house-cleaning husband-pleasing hearts. ;)
 
Lacey, while I agree with most of what you said, it surprises me that as a girl who claims to spend all her time with the guys, you've never seen a guy act catty. Guys act catty all the time, we just don't call it catty that's all.

I do believe you are sexist against your own gender.
 
No, I never seen a guy act that way because catty is somethin only girls do. If a guy does it,it aint catty. Its bein a dick. If a guy slaps another guy in the face, its a bitch smack, if a girl does it, its 'foxy boxing' you feel me. Catty is inherently female. a guy cant have that trait because that action by that name, its a female one. guys can act like douchebags to eachother and guys got their own way to put eachother down but it aint catty and never will be. And nah, to be real, I dont know no kinda dudes that act "catty", if i did they wouldnt be my friends for long. I never seen a man do or act somethin catty before. That aint a desirable quality in anyone, but in men just hell na. It can be expected from certain kinda chicks but for a dude to act like that well I would lose all respect i ever had for him. Thats just how i see it, whether it make sense or not, dont know how thats sexist its just how shit is to me.
 
lacey k said:
No, I never seen a guy act that way because catty is somethin only girls do. If a guy does it,it aint catty. Its bein a dick. If a guy slaps another guy in the face, its a bitch smack, if a girl does it, its 'foxy boxing' you feel me. Catty is inherently female. a guy cant have that trait because that action by that name, its a female one. guys can act like douchebags to eachother and guys got their own way to put eachother down but it aint catty and never will be. And nah, to be real, I dont know no kinda dudes that act "catty", if i did they wouldnt be my friends for long. I never seen a man do or act somethin catty before. That aint a desirable quality in anyone, but in men just hell na. It can be expected from certain kinda chicks but for a dude to act like that well I would lose all respect i ever had for him. Thats just how i see it, whether it make sense or not, dont know how thats sexist its just how shit is to me.

I dig what you're saying. Catty is one of those terms that just doesn't feel right applying it to a male. Kinda like "hysterical".
 
lacey k said:
No, I never seen a guy act that way because catty is somethin only girls do. If a guy does it,it aint catty. Its bein a dick. If a guy slaps another guy in the face, its a bitch smack, if a girl does it, its 'foxy boxing' you feel me. Catty is inherently female. a guy cant have that trait because that action by that name, its a female one. guys can act like douchebags to eachother and guys got their own way to put eachother down but it aint catty and never will be. And nah, to be real, I dont know no kinda dudes that act "catty", if i did they wouldnt be my friends for long. I never seen a man do or act somethin catty before. That aint a desirable quality in anyone, but in men just hell na. It can be expected from certain kinda chicks but for a dude to act like that well I would lose all respect i ever had for him. Thats just how i see it, whether it make sense or not, dont know how thats sexist its just how shit is to me.
This is a crazy post, I totally hear you, its amazing me how I think I can actually see you through these words (maybe just stoned).

peace and hugs,
samadhi
 
Possibly women compete for the 'man prize' just as much as guys compete for 'trophy wives.'

Think about it.

Women just compete with more intensity, like they're more urgent/anxious/worried about being with someone.

If a guy can't get a chick, he's peaceful with the world and accepts it.

LoL. Guess we all think differently. Some people think/act with urgency and fear, some act with patience and calm.

Suppose I'm more of the patience and calm.
 
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