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Guys - do you find it a turn off when girls are catty?

supertrav77 said:
I used to work in an office environment and it was like high school again. People gossip. People tattle. People are constantly looking for things to use against you.
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Ah, don't tell me that. I just graduated a couple years ago and am still holding out hope that the real world is mature. :\
 
^^ Sorry to burst your bubble, pal but the real world is full of insecure people trying to cover their own inadequacies but pointing out other people's foibles.
 
my boyfriend loves it when i get catty.
i'm almost always a nice person, to a fault, and he thinks it's cute when i get my feathers all ruffled up and spout something bitchy out my mouth. it doesn't happen often, and it's usually just me saying something catty and cruel about some random girl's slutty outfit.


i, however, hate catty girls. it's why i only have a couple female friends, and tons of male friends. i don't find it attractive at all.
 
supertrav77 said:
Anyway, girls are saying "I don't like being friends with girls because X,Y, and Z" But guys don't seem to have a problem hanging out with girls*. How come X, Y, and Z never seems to bother guys?
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in stereotypical generalizations, guys are trying to get laid when they are friends with girls. so if they don't put up with the crap, they will never have a chance, because the girl will think "ugh, he has problems with me, i won't even be his friend anymore!!"
 
supertrav77 said:
Well, here's the damned if you do and damned if you don't situation.

Girls who have no female friends.
I can't trust a girl with no female friends. It's a huge sign of insecurity. They need male acceptance and in general, the acceptance of just one male will never be enough for them in the long run.

Girls who have a lot of female friends.
The problem with dating a girl with a lot of female friends is that you inevitably end up like feeling like you're dating all of her friends. If you're dating a girl with a lot of female friends and said friends don't approve of you, they WILL sabotage your relationship.
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This is VERY true in my experience.



And no, cattiness is definitely NOT a turn on. Drama and bullshit are what ruin relationships, and even though girls love to say stuff like, "I'm so down to earth, I hate drama" it usually isn't the truth. Finding truly down-to-earth, easygoing chicks is harder than it seems. Same goes for guys too.
 
Yo, All i really know is when a bitch starts with that shit, My sleeves get rolled up. And then its a wrap. Fuck that talkin, do somethin.

The one thing that gets kinda beat sometimes is when youre all just chillin all good like, and then some skanky broad starts gettin up on one of the dudes, and then you gotta listen to her fuckin talk all night long instead of just drinkin your drink and playin cards like you would if she wasnt there, it changes the whole feeling of shit, but IDK if that really concerned with "catty."

The funny thing about this thread is that me and my BF and a couple of our homies were rollin one time, and we realized that "catty" is a word that is inherently a word that is used by that type of chick.We all sat around imagining those tall chicks from Vogue magazine like "Dahling, she acts so CATTY!" LOL. So to me that word is a chick word to begin with, which is what makes it ironic in my mind when someone who is against acting that way, uses it. Dont know if that made any sense at all, and it wasnt related to you DFRS, just some funny shit that came to mind from that word.
 
lacey k said:
So to me that word is a chick word to begin with, which is what makes it ironic in my mind when someone who is against acting that way, uses it. Dont know if that made any sense at all, and it wasnt related to you DFRS, just some funny shit that came to mind from that word.
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Well it's the same if you call someone a bitch because they're being one, does that mean you're one too? Or even if you call someone skanky, does that mean you're a skank as well?

Of course not. It's a word that comes to mind when you see a person act a certain way. It's not got nothing to do with ones own reflection.
 
Na I meant the only people who I ever heard use the word was that type of chick and it was jus funny to me. its jus my observation of it tho I aint sayin its a rule. just that one word, for some reason.
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
Well it's the same if you call someone a bitch because they're being one, does that mean you're one too? Or even if you call someone skanky, does that mean you're a skank as well?
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Well you see, if the person to whom the accusation is being levelled is made of (for example) rubber and the person who is making the accusation is made of, let's say, glue or some kind of sticky polymer, then the above may in fact be the case.
 
When it's who they are, very unattractive.

As a rare and recognized behavior, perfectly normal and acceptable.

I'm kind of put off by the generalizations of the girls in here who say they can't be friends with other girls because they're too catty or dramatic or share no common interests. I think it's a little silly to claim you're soooo different from all other girls; it's just not true. I honestly believe at least one of the following things is true, possibly more or all of them:

a) You're insecure and you like the ego stroke of being "one of the guys," knowing full well at least one of them wants to fuck you. It feels good, admit it, and you don't get that satisfaction from (straight) female friends.

b) You're a hypocrite or just clueless. You are just like other girls, despite claiming not to be, and do the same shit you profess to hate. You just don't want to have to compete or put up with it from anyone else. Again, stemming from insecurity.

c) You just haven't met the right females.

I was friends with mostly dudes in high school and I said the same shit about all the reasons I didn't like girls. Then, I grew up, met some mature, awesome women, and realized I was being insincere about who I was, what I wanted and how I felt. I have the most rewarding friendships with my female friends. Not to say any given friendship is automatically lesser if it's with a guy. But when you're saying you can ONLY be friends with guys because all other girls are a certain way that's different from you, I just don't know if I'm buying it.
 
Its a turn off to me but I know alot of guys that are attracted to that but they are also very immature. Sorry to vent on here but its somewhat relevant; that whole thing with my best friends girlfriend (fiance) ratting me out. Ill never hear it from her straight up and I still remain inconclusive, but another thing to add was how much trouble she had defining inferiority and how "catty"(sorry new word for me but thanks nonetheless ;) ) she became towards other girls when discussing the word "cool" (drunk of course). I dont like "catty" .....PLUR ;)
 
SigmaSis03 said:
When it's who they are, very unattractive.

As a rare and recognized behavior, perfectly normal and acceptable.

I'm kind of put off by the generalizations of the girls in here who say they can't be friends with other girls because they're too catty or dramatic or share no common interests. I think it's a little silly to claim you're soooo different from all other girls; it's just not true. I honestly believe at least one of the following things is true, possibly more or all of them:

a) You're insecure and you like the ego stroke of being "one of the guys," knowing full well at least one of them wants to fuck you. It feels good, admit it, and you don't get that satisfaction from (straight) female friends.

b) You're a hypocrite or just clueless. You are just like other girls, despite claiming not to be, and do the same shit you profess to hate. You just don't want to have to compete or put up with it from anyone else. Again, stemming from insecurity.

c) You just haven't met the right females.

I was friends with mostly dudes in high school and I said the same shit about all the reasons I didn't like girls. Then, I grew up, met some mature, awesome women, and realized I was being insincere about who I was, what I wanted and how I felt. I have the most rewarding friendships with my female friends. Not to say any given friendship is automatically lesser if it's with a guy. But when you're saying you can ONLY be friends with guys because all other girls are a certain way that's different from you, I just don't know if I'm buying it.
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I see your point but i just wanted to say, that for one outta one hundred, that might not be the case. You got a good point there but you dont make no room for exceptions. you gotta look outside your own experience cuz while you might have felt that way, everybody got a different standard of what "girly" is or whatever. so while you might be like "I was not really a girly girl, so i needed to find some more laid back chicks" and you found that and youre all happy. but maybe to me, those chicks might still be unbearably girly and obnoxious, you feel me?

Anyways, my point really is, maybe it aint that the girl who dont like chicks is so different from OTHER GIRLS, but that maybe that chick is jus different , in general, not from other chicks, or whatever, but from EVERYONE as people, just more of a loner selective kinda type. I got problems findin people to relate to no matter what, but in general, broads aint on the top of the list when i do find em. Its just a thang, you kno? I got one chick Im down wit who lives up by me, and i got my cousin whose just on the fuckin level wit me, but when i want a chick friend, I dont want no halfass bitch, i want a chick who will have my back in a fight, who knows how to carry a knife, who can chief the blunt with me without assin out early, who can chug a 40 with me, you know what im sayin. Its hard to find chicks who like to get rowdy, who will all out brawl with ya if you need em to, who dont wanna talk about nails n hair and shit. So thats why i got mad love for my cousin cuz shes down liek that. but i dont know too many who is.

BUT.... what you said is very tru for a lot of chics, so i feel ya on what youre sayin. I usualyl find out that the chicks who say they hate drama, causes the most drama. Alot of broads just like to pretend like they some kinda special breed or somethin. And in the past few years it has became mad popular to be "one of the guys" which sux, becuz all of us chics who were out there just doin our lil tomboy thing long before that trend came around, end up gettin lumped in with all these fake ass dames who think they are cool shit becuz they watch sports on TV and it like, totally makes them like a guy, OMG!

But im ramblin...jus wanted to throw that in there..
 
^I completely agree with everything you have said Lacey! Well said.

Edit: decided to keep my personal up bringing history personal.
 
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Hmm....I find cattyness from anyone, whether male or female, a total turn off.

That said - I don't have many friends at all - I am not overly tolerant of people generally and instead of being confrontational about it, I just back right off.
But those few people I do consider friends - well they're mostly chicks. However they are spread far across the country and the globe and I've never been part of one of those cackling, all girl groups.

I think you've done the right thing DFRS - and as Trancegirle says, you don't need toxic people in your life. And sometimes silence speaks louder than words. You've told her what you think and if being around her is unavoidable due to your group of friends, then a total shut down of all communication could get the message across further - that she is nothing to you and you will not tolerate such behavior.
 
lacey k said:
I see your point but i just wanted to say, that for one outta one hundred, that might not be the case. You got a good point there but you dont make no room for exceptions. you gotta look outside your own experience cuz while you might have felt that way, everybody got a different standard of what "girly" is or whatever. so while you might be like "I was not really a girly girl, so i needed to find some more laid back chicks" and you found that and youre all happy. but maybe to me, those chicks might still be unbearably girly and obnoxious, you feel me?

Anyways, my point really is, maybe it aint that the girl who dont like chicks is so different from OTHER GIRLS, but that maybe that chick is jus different , in general, not from other chicks, or whatever, but from EVERYONE as people, just more of a loner selective kinda type. I got problems findin people to relate to no matter what, but in general, broads aint on the top of the list when i do find em. Its just a thang, you kno? I got one chick Im down wit who lives up by me, and i got my cousin whose just on the fuckin level wit me, but when i want a chick friend, I dont want no halfass bitch, i want a chick who will have my back in a fight, who knows how to carry a knife, who can chief the blunt with me without assin out early, who can chug a 40 with me, you know what im sayin. Its hard to find chicks who like to get rowdy, who will all out brawl with ya if you need em to, who dont wanna talk about nails n hair and shit. So thats why i got mad love for my cousin cuz shes down liek that. but i dont know too many who is.

BUT.... what you said is very tru for a lot of chics, so i feel ya on what youre sayin. I usualyl find out that the chicks who say they hate drama, causes the most drama. Alot of broads just like to pretend like they some kinda special breed or somethin. And in the past few years it has became mad popular to be "one of the guys" which sux, becuz all of us chics who were out there just doin our lil tomboy thing long before that trend came around, end up gettin lumped in with all these fake ass dames who think they are cool shit becuz they watch sports on TV and it like, totally makes them like a guy, OMG!

But im ramblin...jus wanted to throw that in there..
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There's an exception to every rule, so I didn't mean to exclude that possibility. Though I think c) You just haven't met the right females, it still applies in that "exception" case. But, it may be difficult, and maybe difficult enough to not be all that worthwhile, for some to find females they relate to, so just go about your business being one of the guys, if that's where you feel comfortable. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and I didn't mean to suggest, if I did, that there is.

The girls I'm really referring to are the ones screaming the loudest about, like you said, being a special breed. Because more often than not, they're not and their proclamations that they are, are just to draw more attention to themselves. I think we're on the same page here.
 
I really wish more guys in this world would tell girls to chill the fuck out when their acting like cows to other females, because it's way too common. I have got to a stage where i don't even wanna be friends with girls anymore because it's just not worth it. They're too touch and go. When you think they're your friend, they're really your worse enemy.
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woooa thats like a violation of dude code. we try to get involved as little drama as possible, as much as we love experiencing it. ;) yea if a girl is on the point were she starts to piss me off, like screaming at my girl repetedly or calling the house...basically anything that interferes with me life or hurting my girl emotionally, you gotta regulate. but beef is supposed to settled between the two with beef.

i personally love girls who are a little too overconfident...but definately not obnoxious. hell i love girls with too little confidence as well. they're so cute. haha.


i think people who call other people out on game playing are some of the most adept game players out there. girls who are 'one of the guys' loooove stirring up shit with the guys' girls. it's pure fact. even if they don't realize what they're doing. they do it.
 
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