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Good Enough (Body)?

It wasn't me who brought up the whole subject, I just pointed out one picture in passing.

And if you think her usual size is "having let herself go" it says something about your body ideals (i.e. they're not exactly normal).

I'm sure you view all women as fat bitches who are simply jealous of models who just manage to keep themselves healthy. Have fun with all that. Obviously more of an issue for you than me.
 
Ninae, I say this with as much compassion as I can offer over the internet to a stranger:

I've been reading your posts in this thread and many others and they all follow suit. I really think you might need to talk to a professional. Your self image is very...well....strange. You mentioned something about father-related issues in another thread and this thread right here is the pinnacle. You seem WAY too obsessed and worried about this most insignificant things regarding your self, and your perception seems to be heavily skewed as to what you feel you should be.

Go back and read this entire thread and extra carefully read your responses to what people are saying. This is not normal behavior. You bring up the subject and then lash back at people as if they're coming out of nowhere saying things. You keep putting words in people's mouths and double-backing on your own statements and questions. You talk like someone who is currently in an abusive relationship and that is worrisome. Again, I don't know you, you don't know me, but based on what I've observed from you recently triggers an empathetic response in me, and I feel compelled to at least offer my compassion. I'm willing to bet you're friggin' gorgeous. I thought you were going to post a picture of yourself?

I'm going to be very saddened if you lash back at me now too, but will only further solidify what I just said.
 
I haven't "lashed back" at anyone apart from someone who deliberately misinterpretes everything I say and tries to normalise Anorexia.

I realise this thread can look strange and probably all kinds of disturbing to many reading for many reasons. Like being written in a way you normally just talk to yourself and don't show to other people. But that doesn't really bother me as you don't really know me or where I'm coming from saying all these things.

Maybe it's not all meant to be taken seriously and some parts are written more for entertainment/amusement.
 
Coming to think of it, it's funny how you accuse me of being someone who "lashes back" at everyone, when I usually do my best to avoid or calm down any conflicts. However, I also have my limits, like when someone talks to you from a place of deep disrespect and resentment and starts off by calling you "an idiot". I don't see what I owe to someone like that, but I never disrespect someone first, that has never happened.

If there's one thing I've seen a lot of on Bluelight over the years it's that often someone's argument with me is more about supporting someone they're more friendly with or using it as a release for their hostile feelings towards me. Meaning they're not being very objective, so I don't take them very seriously. And for all of Alesister's suggestions that I'm making too many "assumptions", he will always chip in to support someone from his own team, which is a given. I'm just more interested in having a genuine debate that is actually about the subject we're talking about, if I'm going to engage my mind in something.

This thread has just gotten out of hand. It was started out of curiosity or me wondering what kind of female body types men consider the most ideal and if my type would be considered "good enough" by most (and was meant more tongue-in-cheek). But it was never inspired by body-hatred or anything like that as I've always had a better body than most. I just wouldn't mind having a "perfect" body, or one that's ideal in my own mind, which isn't exactly uncommon (seeing what people do to their bodies in today's society). I've also been trying to suggest some healthier approaches to body-improvement, like diet and exercise, but you seem to have missed out on that.
 
So you made a thread demonstrating through a bunch of photographs how you look pretty much identical to a whole bunch of super models and you want to know if guys are going to think that your body is "good enough?"
 
I had a simple idea.

Find a body that's practically identical to your own and ask what people think of it. Models come in all sorts of body types, doesn't guarantee it's to everyone's taste. But suprisingly most responses were positive, apart from the one who preferred the starved out version to the healthy version. You can't please everyone and I wasn't expecting to.

I mainly chose HC because her size and built is similar to mine - that we also have the same shapes and proportions is more incidental, but why not use the most similar. This would be the "larger" model type, whereas there is also the "medium", and the "thin". I would have preferred the medium, but no such luck, just got to make the best out of what you've got.
 
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Ninae said:
I had a simple idea.

Find a body that's practically identical to your own and ask what people think of it. Models come in all sorts of body types, doesn't guarantee it's to everyone's taste. But suprisingly most responses were positive, apart from the one who preferred the starved out version to the healthy version. You can't please everyone and I wasn't expecting to.

I mainly chose HC because her size and built is similar to mine - that we also have the same shapes and proportions is more incidental, but why not use the most similar. This would be the "larger" model type, whereas there is also the "medium", and the "thin". I would have preferred the medium, but no such luck, just got to make the best out of what you've got.
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I'm late chiming in here. I don't check out Second Opinion often.

Those pictures on the first page? I loved them all-- most of the faces, too, even though you tried to get us not to pay attention to them.


If you have a similar body to the women in any of those initial pictures you've posted, I don't think you should worry or feel insecure in the slightest. Beautiful, every last one of them. I especially liked the one of the woman lying on her back, nude, on the beach, but I doubt that's a practical look to try and pull off every day.
 
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I was about to post this video. I remember seeing it when I was little, wanting a girl like that. Or whatever feeling from the video was attractive. Now as an adult I appreciate the song (and video) but differently. Now I hear the lyrics, and have life experience to reflect with them. I don't wanna fall in love/I wanna fall in love.

Anyways, I don't consider her at all big. Good size chest, but good form. And hot. All those models you posted are hot.

...I've been told I look like a model by people- when I was younger. I never quite got it. Someone said I look like Jason Lee (Mallrats), James Van Der Beek (Dawson, a girl called me almost daily), Robert Downy Jr., and Nicolas Cage. I don't see much resemblance with any. Body type? I don't know. 175, 6 feet.

Being as I am balding, I no longer get the model comments.
 
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People like females of all different shapes and sizes. There is no reason to be worried. You ARE good enough. <3
 
Ninae, all those women have attractive bodies (even if they were to gain 20Ibs).

Looks are most important in the facial features & the personality that comes with it... So, to be honest... You really shouldn't be concerned or worry about it. Especially what other people think like stated above ^^^

You should embrace your beauty & be proud of it. By doing this, & with your added confidence (woman swag); you'll even become more attractive.

A large percentage of men are going to be attracted to you. You should be happy :)

Not everyone has decent looks. Most of the population are around average. Like 5's Ninae...

You're well above average :D

You're Hot!

Embrace It!
 
Thanks for all the comments. I think I got all the replies I needed. Even if it got a bit out of hand (as usual, for Bluelight).

I also realised I look best lying on my back. Then my breasts don't sag, and wide hips tend to look better from the front. So that's convenient. I want to lose some weight and really get in shape, though. Daily Yoga is good, but I should start doing some Strength exercises every other day for body-sculpting (I mostly focus on the chest and thighs-hips area, don't need real, bulging muscles like a man, just want a firm body).

I've just been trying to look after my health and appearance for the last month or so, that's why my mind is so much on this. Although I'm a bit scared of looking my best and all the attention it can attract

Yes, it makes a lot of difference, when I look my best it's like I can have anyone I want (at least once). It's crazy. And, yes, it's more about the head or face/hair.

Not that anyone really gets to "have me once" - I'm not the type for it . I come with a bit of a price and mostly attract relationship-orientated guys, too. Men see me more as a "Madonna", definitely (lucky for me). But it's not just about not being a slut. It also has to do with your capacity for arousing emotion, or they see you as "just for sex".
 
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Ask yourself this, what types of bodies do you like in men? Every individual likes different things! Look in the mirror and accept Your. Beauty.
 
The most beautiful woman I've seen apart from Helena Christensen.


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However, no one's that beautiful. She's impossibly perfect, it almost looks like she's been genetically modified. And, to be honest, I wouldn't even want to be that beautiful.

It must be impossible to live any kind of normal life with the amount of attraction it would attract everywhere. Like being born a celebrity. Makes me feel glad to be more moderate.

Great piece of art, though.
 
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thats why beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
noone is equally beautiful to all onlookers. what you call perfection i may just find pretty....

beauty is nice to have but hardly a curse.
 
I think everyone likes diff things. All that matters is that you are happy with yourself. I worked hard for mine, and some people may not like it... But screw them! I feel good in my skin.
 
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Hey, you look pretty. Great body and stunning hips (more feminine than my typical Nordic hips). A bit risky to post a picture of yourself on Bluelight, though (not the most legal place and full of crazy people).

But I made a mistake, Linda Evans is the one I would consider the blond equivalent of Helena Christensen. Also, Leslie-Anne Down could be almost as beautiful. The one above is more on the level of Britt Ekland at her best, or a more perfected version (everything curved and symmetrical). Though this kind of perfection kind of alienates people.

I don't have any feelings or attraction towards other women but I admire them for their beauty like the way I admire a great work of art. Men can also be very beautiful, but women express beauty in a purer way, and I see beauty as one of the feminine qualities, like love, while power and intelligence belong to the masculine qualities. Although both sexes can express both, just not as much or quite as naturally (females tend to move with more grace, etc).


I am more moderately pretty or look a lot like Kylie at my best (just a wider face).


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Never thought it was anything special, though I know many love Kylie. Certainly don't have the same built as her. But same "good girl" type of expression.

So yea, when I do my best at least I can look as good as that (it's just a lot of work, I can't always be bothered).
 
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yeah 60kg for 5'7" on a girl (assuming no muscles) i would call chubby. they say guys get away with being chubby easier but i dunno about that, i've seen a fair number of my lean, attractive guy friends get serious with chubby girls. probably anyone calling you fat is just a cunt
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Seriously? Cause I am 5'7 and with my hips and legs a weight of 135 (like 61kgs idk) is a perfect weight. But as soon as I get under 130 I feel too skinny and my boobs start to loose volume.

Seriously...if you think this is chubby then there is something wrong with your idea of healthy.

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