I never met Gilly or really chatted to her online, so while this isn't a personal tragedy for me, I was still shocked to hear about her death because she's one of the names I recognise straight away as a bluelighter. To everyone who's feeling the loss, my heart goes out to you guys in a big way...
I don't know if this is the appropriate place to say it, and I really do apologise if I'm speaking out of turn, but...having been suicidally depressed several times in my life, I can't stress the importance of not holding it all in. You're not as alone as you might think, and maybe you won't find someone who can relate to what it is to live through your life...but it helps
so much sometimes knowing that even if people don't understand, they care. Sometimes it helps just knowing that people
care.
To anyone who has suicidal feelings...please talk to someone about them. Please talk to a friend or a relative or a counsellor, or if you can't bring yourself to do it face to face, do it anonymously online. If that's still too confronting, keep a diary. Write letters that nobody will ever see. Write poetry or paint or do anything that will start teaching you how to let this stuff go, because if you hold onto it and don't ever give yourself the chance to get past it, it will eat you up. You have to give people the chance to show they care...people really do, but even when you feel like your sadness is being broadcast so loudly, the people who love you may not ever know the intensity of your depression unless you actually come out and tell them.
Life can change. It's really really hard to believe that sometimes. It took me more than the first quarter century of my life before I started wanting to actually live.
I really hope this doesn't come across as me getting on a soapbox because that's not what this is about at all...it's just frustrating when stuff like this happens--like I said, I didn't know Gilly at all, but I saw how much people were affected the other night when they found out and that in itself tells me how sad this is.