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YellowPolkaDotHalo said:
OK if you feel you genuinely get some benefit or healing even from churning up past shit cool. To me, and I'm sincerely not meaning offence, its fundamentally egotistical justification. Is it necessary? I cant be arsed to be frank.

Probably a year or so ago i'd have dived right in there and been like ' doo what??':sus: But this year has been an education for me in so many ways and pretty liberating.

sincere peace
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I can understand because it involves discussions about how someone acted towards you that it might be perceived as being relevant to you, but since you're over it and it's in the past, it doesn't need to be relevant to you (in terms of me discussing it with someone else). It's completely legitimate on your part to feel that it might be tho, and I understand how you would want no part in it. I also understand how it may be seen as muck racking in a way, but it's not being done for that reason. Nor should it result in such.

it's not the intention, nor do I think it is resulting in that. My intent is in discussing other people's part in those instances and the nature of them (because it was relevant to something me and them were discussing), it's not about YOUR involvement at all, if that makes sense.

Either way, it should not affect you or other people's attitudes towards you. It's about things other than those.

Hope this explanation helps. If not please ask me whatever you need to about it <3
 
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Mugz said:
I don't remember that bit at all marmz. As I said before, I don't always succeed at following the rules that I try and follow to stay stress free.
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hrmn. okay. but that's what happened in the situation you referred to in your quote, I believe, and it was very relevant to your 'misinterpretation' comments, which is the reason I mentioned it.

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'nite, and sleep well (hopefully) mugz <3
 
knockando said:
You have rules for staying stress free? Fair enough. I don't, sometimes to get at the truth or to make progress of any kind I have to go through a bit of stress. But I'm not you, and maybe being stress free is a higher priority for you than it is for me. Well, clearly it is.

edit: Is going on multi-day stim benders part of your stress elimination programme? :\
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re the bolded bit: I do too, but they also include throwing them out the window when it comes to wanting to get to the truth of a situation. Sometimes one supercedes the other - it depends on the situation and how important it is I have to hold it together mentally at that moment. When you have other people relying on you for key things, that strategy for 'no stress' and its resulting mechanisms/tools unfortunately can take priority. I see it as a bit of a perversion though and resent its presence and necessity often, since I'm a bit of a tuth merchant, but eh.
 
YellowPolkaDotHalo said:
No and i'd like to trust that you wouldn't want it to affect me nor would you want to try to manipulate others opinions of me or past events.
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You can trust me implicitly in such a way. And I genuinely encourage you to challenge any point or post I make where you feel I am trying to influence people (or you) in such a negative way. And I will gladly take the time to explain my intent, and will listen to what you have to say about it and will consider how it's affecting you.

The conversation that took place earlier really isn't about you or your part in any of those situations, it's purely about other people's (ie PTCH's and my own) reaction to them.

I understand that can seem/be problematic because it recalls difficult situations which have been resolved and put to bed and are history, but analysing the mechanics of those situations, and the intent & motivation of those involved at the time (not yours) has been beneficial for a number of reasons ... relativity and understanding. I wont go on with that because it'll only serve to alienate PTCrackers more ... he loves it when I start rambling about motivation and shitz [not]

<3
 
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For anyone that's interested Facebook is now showing all your timeline/wall posts from years back, to get rid of this

go on to your own page and go to the right hand side where it has "now,sept,2012,2011" and so on and click on 2011 and on the right hand side it should say like 150 wrote on your wall well if you put your mouse over it a wee pencil should come up, click it and click hide from timeline
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They need to stop making everything so overly public, it's getting annoying.
 
Yeah but Marmz does he want to benefit from this analysis? You're saying its healthy to look at past events but for who? Its just you that wants to 'rake' it all over isn't it?
 
YellowPolkaDotHalo said:
Yeah but Marmz does he want to benefit from this analysis? You're saying its healthy to look at past events but for who? Its just you that wants to 'rake' it all over isn't it?
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it was relavant to my point about his character and mine. Only PTCH will be able to answer the above question, I can't answer it for him [edit] I'll predict he doesnt give a fuck and hates all this kind of chat so wont be interested tbh

It was part of a conversation that organically evolved to needing to provide a relevant example to illustrate a point I was making about his character, so he could understand what I meant. He explained, I explained, with an illustration of what I was alluding to in terms of his character and behaviours and mine. It was relevant to achieving some understanding in that context. That's why I raised it. For no other reason.

It's not about you, and I'm sorry you feel uncomfortable with it. I can only attempt to reassure you it wasn't and offer you my sincerity in that explanation. Please accept that.
 
Ok :)

Edit: I've got a chap i've been chatting to for years on the net coming down to see me next month. I really fancy him but he lives right oop North.. anyway hes coming to see me.

Last email I sent him after he said he was coming was.

'ok.. an i'll tie you up.. Misery Style HAHA'

I'm hoping now he knows what I meant by Misery. :/
 
rockstar 69 said:
For anyone that's interested Facebook is now showing all your timeline/wall posts from years back, to get rid of this



They need to stop making everything so overly public, it's getting annoying.
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Surely though the only people who can see that will be your friends (or friends of friends depending on your settings) and they would have always have been able to see it. Or is available to anyone?
 
Its showing private messages Spade, apparently.

rockstar 69 said:
For anyone that's interested Facebook is now showing all your timeline/wall posts from years back, to get rid of this
They need to stop making everything so overly public, it's getting annoying.
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A far as I can see I haven't got that but lots of people I know do and some are getting very twitchy =D Even if you delete stuff from your timeline the other half of the conversation will still be on theirs unless they do the same.

http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2012/09/facebookfail-fix-for-facebooks-private.html

I agree with the bolded bit. The control over public-ness needs to lie more firmly with the page owner, and it all needs to be more obvious and user friendly. If there's anything that pisses me off and makes me want to scrap FB its this.
 
rockstar 69 said:
For anyone that's interested Facebook is now showing all your timeline/wall posts from years back, to get rid of this



They need to stop making everything so overly public, it's getting annoying.
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It's always done that. It's just in a different format. You've always been able to scroll down your page & see all old posts unless you deleted them.

Edit - It's not showing private stuff. It's only showing things that you have posted on your page, or that someone else has posted on your page. As always. The private stuff is the direct message thing that works more like email.

Edit again - Aye, just checked & the heading to the box he's referring to is "122 friends posted on XXXXX's timeline." So it's not private messages at all.
 
YellowPolkaDotHalo said:
Ok :)

Edit: I've got a chap i've been chatting to for years on the net coming down to see me next month. I really fancy him but he lives right oop North.. anyway hes coming to see me.

Last email I sent him after he said he was coming was.

'ok.. an i'll tie you up.. Misery Style HAHA'

I'm hoping now he knows what I meant by Misery. :/
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Who's this intrepid Northerner?
Sam? :D

What happens in misery?
Is that the film where they keep them prisoner?
 
Cornishman said:
Who's this intrepid Northerner?
Sam? :D

What happens in misery?
Is that the film where they keep them prisoner?
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Stephen King, Kathy Bates hobbles her favourite author after keeping him prisoner in her house in thee boonies.
It's a great film/book
 
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