Gibberings CIX: Different directions

[Myshkin]

Anytime you fancy a pint and a smoke, B&W, then I'd be the first to offer, because you're so damn funny.

Though come to think of it thats not the best offer. Go for a drink with somebody nice instead. Dare ya.

I'm going to bed now.

 

[knock]

Knock apparently I was once really nasty to you, so nasty that Marmz thought she had to defend your honour. Is it true, did you get really upset? Are you thought of as so weak and feeble that people think you can't defend yourself on the internet and have to do it for you? :D

I don't think that's exactly what Marmz is saying, and I don't think she thinks of me as weak and feeble. I can't remember you ever upsetting me, it takes quite a bit to get me upset. I think the worst it gets in terms of how you directly affect me is exasperation...

It is nicer when it's all chilled and not so hostile, even if it's all in jest, it's better when it's chill.

Sometimes a bit of hostility livens things up. Constant hostility, not so much.

 

[Marmalade]

WTF Its been chilled for... ok probably just a few days and now all this spiteful shits getting slung about. I just read this coincidentally...

I am sorry to think that you do not get a man's most effective criticism until you provoke him. Severe truth is expressed with some bitterness.
Henry David Thoreau

From my observations people who carry toxic shit start to sink. Let it go, regardless of the obvious provocations, its bollocks. Just a suggestion.

There's no intentional nastiness. It's mainly reflective discussion on the past and it's more a constructive outing of perspectives imo. it's a necessary process and valuable one too ... lots of positives to be gained in this kind of chat ... for me anyhow. people writing down their take on things post events away from the heat of the moment ... people can get their own take on how things were intended vs how they thought they were meant at the time and it can and does help them/me form a more reflective outlook which can also help future shitz. honest missus

If you fear it will regurgitate ill will from X Y or Z people, I don't think it will personally, although I can understand having reservations about it

 

[badandwicked]

It is nicer when it's all chilled and not so hostile, even if it's all in jest, it's better when it's chill.

Think I'm gonna have an early night tonight, about 11 I reckon, has been a while since I went to bed before midnight.

Point taken its nice to be physically tired, for me it leaves much less scope for mischief.

Though come to think of it thats not the best offer. Go for a drink with somebody nice instead. Dare ya.

I'm going to bed now.

Oh shush. You're as nice as any of us; we're all scum bags Nite sam.

 

[knock]

There's no intentional nastiness. It's mainly reflective discussion on the past and it's more a constructive outing of perspectives imo. it's a necessary process and valuable one too ... lots of positives to be gained in this kind of chat ... for me anyhow. people writing down their take on things post events away from the heat of the moment ... people can get their own take on how things were intended vs how they thought they were meant at the time and it can and does help them/me form a more reflective outlook which can also help future shitz. honest missus

There's truth in that, but part of me is thinking "poor wee Spade is getting the stick tonight"!

 

[Marmalade]

I don't think that's exactly what Marmz is saying, and I don't think she thinks of me as weak and feeble. I can't remember you ever upsetting me, it takes quite a bit to get me upset. I think the worst it gets in terms of how you directly affect me is exasperation...




Sometimes a bit of hostility livens things up. Constant hostility, not so much.

^^ This. Spade's just trying to exploit the situation by misinterpretting what I've said

We discussed this before Knock, so I know we both know what's what, etc.

 

[parttime crackhead]

What makes you say I expected or asked for abuse of Spade? :D

For all I know your character assessment could have been -

'Spade comes across friendly and funny, thoughtful and entertaining. The kind of guy you'd really enjoy spending time with and want to have around. He seems willing to pull his weight in life and make a fair contribution. His travels around the world and witnessing the suffering of others have given him a kind of deeper wisdom & selflessness, and made him a well rounded and balanced guy. He wouldn't even know how to be arrogant or obnoxious, spoilt or selfish. He treats all he comes across with respect and dignity, and its clear his pleasure comes second to consideration for those around him. He's got a kind word for everyone, and a great sense of humour, he generally comes across a proper good bloke'.

Ahahaha

Fair play, that's a belter.

WTF Its been chilled for... ok probably just a few days and now all this spiteful shits getting slung about.

Someone, I think Jancrow, mentioned this about 2 minutes before it kicked off. So obviously we had to resume a bit of normality.

I don't think that's exactly what Marmz is saying, and I don't think she thinks of me as weak and feeble.

Marmz might not think that, I on the other hand...

 

[Marmalade]

There's truth in that, but part of me is thinking "poor wee Spade is getting the stick tonight"!

haha! ... I'll remind you of this in a months time. It'll of waned by then ;p

 

[knock]

Marmz might not think that, I on the other hand...

OK I'm off to cry now.

 

[Mugz]

I don't think there is such a thing as misinterpretation. Everyone has the right to interpret things the way they see fit. If you don't like the way that someone has interpreted your words then that is your problem, not theirs. If you don't take any words personally then there is no problem in what other people say because what they are saying only has personal meaning to them, if you let it hurt you then it's your fault for interpreting their words in a hurtful way, you can choose to look at the words a different way if you like. Although it is nice to not have to make the effort to do this because the words couldn't possibly be interpreted in a negative way, but the world isn't like that.

 

[Marmalade]

My arm is getting sore from hitting ctrl-r every 30 seconds to keep up with this bloody thread.

lies! that's not why your arm's been getting sore.

 

[YellowPolkaDotHalo]

There's no intentional nastiness. It's mainly reflective discussion on the past and it's more a constructive outing of perspectives imo. it's a necessary process and valuable one too ... lots of positives to be gained in this kind of chat ... for me anyhow. people writing down their take on things post events ... people can get their own take on how things were intended and it can and does help them form a more reflective outlook which can also help future shitz. honest missus

OK if you feel you genuinely get some benefit or healing even from churning up past shit cool. To me, and I'm sincerely not meaning offence, its fundamentally egotistical justification. Is it necessary? I cant be arsed to be frank.

Probably a year or so ago i'd have dived right in there and been like ' doo what??' But this year has been an education for me in so many ways and pretty liberating.

sincere peace

 

[TheSpade]

There's truth in that, but part of me is thinking "poor wee Spade is getting the stick tonight"!

The day I start taking things seriously on the internet. I leave that to nutters like Mamrz.

 

[Marmalade]

I don't think there is such a thing as misinterpretation. Everyone has the right to interpret things the way they see fit. If you don't like the way that someone has interpreted your words then that is your problem, not theirs. If you don't take any words personally then there is no problem in what other people say because what they are saying only has personal meaning to them, if you let it hurt you then it's your fault for interpreting their words in a hurtful way, you can choose to look at the words a different way if you like. Although it is nice to not have to make the effort to do this because the words couldn't possibly be interpreted in a negative way, but the world isn't like that.

Might I remind you of your NSFW kick off in the Mental Health thread?

 

[knock]

I don't think there is such a thing as misinterpretation. Everyone has the right to interpret things the way they see fit. If you don't like the way that someone has interpreted your words then that is your problem, not theirs.

Sometimes you do come out with a load of shite, Mugz. Of course there is misinterpretation, it comes from making false assumptions. It's a problem for both ends of the communication. Or have I misinterpreted you?

 

[Mugz]

Which kick off was that? The one where I was fighting to keep the thread respectful and on topic which ultimately led to it becoming a thread where myself and lots of others felt comfortably posting about their mental health issues without the risk of any flaming or abuse?? That one?? It seemed to make it a better thread for everyone.

Sometimes you do come out with a load of shite, Mugz. Of course there is misinterpretation, it comes from making false assumptions. It's a problem for both ends of the communication. Or have I misinterpreted you?

Don't make assumptions is another of the rules I try (and often fail) to follow too, if noone made assumptions, and noone took offense at what people wrote because they realised that it was just how the other person sees things and not a personal insult then things would be a lot better.

 

[Marmalade]

The day I start taking things seriously on the internet. I leave that to nutters like Mamrz.

You wouldn't call me Cunt N01 if you really belived that. Why am I a cunt if it's all not to be taken seriously?

I'm sorry you're hurt Spade. Let me make it up to you somehow? You care Spadeybaby. And guess what? It's okay to care! *gasp* ... Caring is in fact, where it's all at

Cunt No1 *muah*

 

[Marmalade]

Which kick off was that? The one where I was fighting to keep the thread respectful and on topic which ultimately led to it becoming a thread where myself and lots of others felt comfortably posting about their mental health issues without the risk of any flaming or abuse?? That one?? It seemed to make it a better thread for everyone.

No not that bit. You're looking at that bit retrospectively through rose coloured glasses. that was Brimz, and he did a damn good job of it too, cause he's awesome like that.

It was the bit where you totally went mental because you misinterpretted a conversation between me and rockstar. which was nothing to do with you. which I'd hidden in NSFW tags, TO keep the thread on track myself. But you misinterpretted the whole NSFW thing and turned it into something about you

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so, just to keep what you said in focus and keep it relevant, so you don't misinterpret what I said ... here it is again

don't think there is such a thing as misinterpretation. Everyone has the right to interpret things the way they see fit. If you don't like the way that someone has interpreted your words then that is your problem, not theirs.

 

[Mugz]

I don't remember that bit at all marmz. As I said before, I don't always succeed at following the rules that I try and follow to stay stress free.

 

[knock]

I don't remember that bit at all marmz. As I said before, I don't always succeed at following the rules that I try and follow to stay stress free.

You have rules for staying stress free? Fair enough. I don't, sometimes to get at the truth or to make progress of any kind I have to go through a bit of stress. But I'm not you, and maybe being stress free is a higher priority for you than it is for me. Well, clearly it is.

edit: Is going on multi-day stim benders part of your stress elimination programme?