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Gf been sectioned under the mental health act! Help us please!!

mr.buffnstuff

mr.buffnstuff

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The gf suffers with insomnia as many of you know, she was prescribed zopiclone, zopiderm, antidepressants and had purchased nitrazepam whilst I was working away.
I noticed a massive change in her when I got back. She was in bed all day, the house which is normally immaculate had gone to shit, she wasn't herself. Wednesday we had gone out for a meal with friends, she wouldn't listen about not drinking and 3 glasses of wine had her wrecked, she has been wrecklessly taking big amounts of all the tablets and alcohol.
Driving back she was out her mind, talking to someone who doesn't exist!
An old man with a beard and a hat telling her he's going to kill her and to kill me and the bullies from school 10 years ago etc
Then bouts of laughter, then talking to me like it's this old man speaking through her.
This was it for me, I drove her to the hospital and by this point she was in a bad way. They got psychologists down from the crisis team.
It carried on for a few hours ended up being sectioned under the mental heLth act. I'm due back offshore a week today that's not happening so that's my job gone. Her job is over.
She had a meeting today, I attended both first meeting was maybe she can be let out through the daytime and look to get her out Tuesday. Second meeting was straight 'no' she's going to be in for weeks!

I'm staying strong for her but broke down crying when I walked out and again just now driving home.

Can anyone share any stories or experience or anything? I'm on the edge myself now :(
 
Whatever happens, don't lose your job over it. She's in safe hands, doesn't sound like there is much you can do for her at the moment anyhow.
 
But I won't be able to go back offshore for 2 weeks, next to no contact and just leave her in there on her own. She has no family or anyone else apart from me, plus the cats and hedgehog need looking after :(
I don't know what to do to help her. She hates it there she's not crazy :(
 
It's a tough call.

I'd go to work, where I can be useful,and sort shit out later.Sounds like your girlfriend needs a lot of sleep and quiet.

Is this the same insanely jealous one you posted about here last year?
 
Jackal said:
It's a tough call.

I'd go to work, where I can be useful,and sort shit out later.Sounds like your girlfriend needs a lot of sleep and quiet.

Is this the same insanely jealous one you posted about here last year?
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Yep that's her, she doesn't sleep though as she's an insomniac. I just don't see how I can get on a helicopter in a weeks time and leave her in there. Plus we have the cats and hedgehog they need looking after and we only have each other :(

She's a good person, she just suffers with mental health problems. (Undiagnosed) but looks like something will be diagnosed now she's in there.

:(
 
Funny thing is I will often read posts like this on BL and they often seem a little bit exaggerated or far fetched.... the older I get the more I realise this happens everywhere and is far more common than expected
 
And how are you planning on feeding the cats and hedgehog when you've no money for bills, food etc? Put the cats in a cattery or find someone who can feed them. At least at work you're providing, sat at home worrying isn't going to achieve anything, there's nothing you can do until she's released from the unit and they won't do that until she's stable.

You have nothing to lose but your job.
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
Funny thing is I will often read posts like this on BL and they often seem a little bit exaggerated or far fetched.... the older I get the more I realise this happens everywhere and is far more common than expected
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Mental health problems are common, I can't remember the numbers but a whole bunch of us will experience them at one point in our lives.

Insomnia is a symptom. Hopefully they'll be able to diagnose what's going on and set out a treatment plan. She is in the right place for the moment for specialised care. She's safer there. It's for the best to get to the root of the problem and deal with it now.

I feel for both of you <3 it's not easy and both of you may have a long journey ahead of you with meds and therapy.

If she has lost her job, you really need to keep yours. Think of the longer term security that job brings - a home, transport, your bills paid etc. You have enough on your plate without being skint and sliding into debt. That would be even worse for her.

If you can't get someone to look after the pets find a boarding cattery and pay for them to be cared for. A good place will take the hedgehog in too.

You can call her every day and speak, support he like that and ensure you have your home, money etc taken care of - that is your priority. You don't always need to be there in person. Keep those financials ticking over. Ensure you have stability and routine for yourself too, so you are strong for her.

This phase will pass, keep yourself calm and responsible. And ffs take it easy on the drugs / booze. You need your wits about you.

Sorry to break it to you but you're going to have to adult now.
 
Cats can look after themselves.

You could put two weeks worth of food (and water) out for them and they will only eat their daily needs.
Or buy one of them smartphone controlled feeding stations.
 
Sorry I really want to type a long message but I have just managed to give myself possible 3rd degree burns on several fingers.seriously.

But to more important things she will be probably on section 2 a 28 day period of assessment to find out why this has happened, keep her safe and decide on a care plan. She will be allocated a care co-ordinater and in actual fact that person can sort out a cattery etc if you are unable to. It could be a drug induced psychosis that could be a short term one of thing or well something that needs longer term care. That is the point of the assessment not just to slap a diagnosis on her without spending time finding out what may or may not be going on. Is she say in her early 20s? Has any major event happened in her life recently out of the ordinary? Insomnia is a bitch and that alone-days without sleep without knowing why has a serious effect on your physical and MH (i speak from experience).
Right now you are understandably freaking out but she is safe and hopefully she will get a good team that can support her and you aswell as find a treatment that's right for her whether that be CBT, psychotherapy or maybe medication. Find out who her care co ordinater is and try and form a line of communication with them. If you are unable to get emergency leave you just need to put your trust in the staff and keep in contact.

It must be really scary for her just tell her you love her and encourage her to take any positive help offered.

Wish you well and her. This is not the end of the world it just might be the begining of a positive thing finding the underlining reason for her sleep problems etc...Not all Mental health workers are wankers many are really dedicated and are there genuinely to help.
 
Mr B. Most important thing atm is to keep your job. Losing the income from both jobs will only put you both under increased pressure which certainly wont help her mental health.
You can make arrangements for the cats and hedgehog. In the scheme of things thats a relative minor issue keeping your job is far more important.
She is in safe hands. She has clearly had some form of psychotic episode. Insomnia and lack of sleep alone could have caused it but i am guessing the insomnia is a symptom of deeper MH issues.
Surely you can arrange phone contact while you are away? From where i am standing throwing away your job would be the biggest possible mistake you could make atm.
 
Hi all, a little update. Firstly it's not that big a deal if I lose my job I probably have 6-10 jobs a year, I'm fortunate to be in demand but even more fortunate that I spoke with logistics yesterday and they've given me compassionate leave! Did not expect that as its VERY unusual.
Anyway, visited her last night and the out come was really positive, they are actually taking the time to find out why she won't sleep, how best to get her off she's currently taking and how to support her when they release her! It has sort of turned into a 'sleep clinic' which is what we wanted from the start. She has a review Tuesday which by sounds of things will either be release or sort of day release, so, fingers crossed! :)
I just want her to break the cycle of not sleeping leading to depression and anxiety of not sleeping!

Btw - I use BL on mobile and it's displaying the full site view, how do I change it back?
 
consumer said:
Go to the support forum. There is a sticky with the links to the mobile site or the full site.

Glad things are working out mate.
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That's better! :)

Yeh Its sounding much more positive, I just hope she gets through this and actually takes something away from it I.E. Getting off the benzos and staying off them, being able to sleep etc
 
Very glad to hear it. If she is on section 2 of MH act I failed to say that it is not compulsory she stays the full 28 days, they can discharge her earlier if they feel she is ready. She also has the right to go to a MH tribunal to state that she feels ready to leave even earlier than they suggest-it is however very distressing and like a real court and on what info you have given it would imo be more beneficial to work with her care team and stay as long as they may feel she needs..I hope some of this info has been of help and given peace of mind I was a MH social worker both hospital and community based for many many years and I do have some knowledge on the side of the side of being both an approved social worker, care co-ordinater working with clients in all scenarios including the legal/tribunal side aswell as issuing sections of the act and working short and long term in these scenarios as needed. Brilliant about the compassionate leave-you know her, you know what to do-reassure, love and if she is having delusions currently best not to question or tell her she is acting unwell..just let her know you support her without colluding with any delusions as that can lead to mistrust and paranoia when someone is in the thick of their very real to them beliefs <3
 
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Yeh we have started the appeal process but looks like she will be out before then by the looks of things. She's withdrawing ATM from the benzos I took her some adult colouring books in to pass the time and a book she had been meaning to read for over a year. I visit her at every available slot.
It is section 2 btw the slots today are 14:00-16:00 and 18:00-20:30 so I've been driving around for an hour and a half to kill some time lol
 
Also, the consultant has said it's not any sort of mental disability and it was psychosis from insomnia and the drugs and alcohol (obviously)

She is in there to withdraw as they have concerns whilst withdrawing. She said to me she didn't even know she was dependant. I was the same with opiates, you just don't know it's creeping up on you untill something like that happens and you realise you have a problem.
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
Also, the consultant has said it's not any sort of mental disability and it was psychosis from insomnia and the drugs and alcohol (obviously)

She is in there to withdraw as they have concerns whilst withdrawing. She said to me she didn't even know she was dependant. I was the same with opiates, you just don't know it's creeping up on you untill something like that happens and you realise you have a problem.
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You don’t decide to be an addict. One morning you wake up sick and you’re an addict.
― William S. Burroughs, Junky
 
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