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Experiences With Prostitutes & Prostitution

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xtcgrlatl said:
i can assure you that atlanta really really doesnt care about escorting. I don't have the gall to do it myself but it's not uncommon at all to advertise in the news paper, there are very specific ways to get busted for prostitution and they are easy to avoid.

my personal prefered way to avoid it these days is that I dont even mention money until the deed is done. If L.E. cant get an agreement of sexual acts for money upfront, they cant do shit. The solution is easy, dont discuss sexual acts at all and dont discuss money at all. Sometimes when the deed is done the guy pulls the "I thought it was $180...." kind of stuff, whether it's a lie or not doesnt really matter because getting stiffed a bit in the end is just annoying and better then getting busted.
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Well... You have everything on lock then and you will be one of the few true success stories in this industry.

10 years from now you may look back and smack yourself on the head.
"WHAT the hell was I thinking?!?!??"

Then again, maybe you won't. I personally know quite a few people who were in this business. 2 of them were extremely intelligent, and they felt the same way you do. Both of them currently have major regrets.

All I am saying is that the psychological impact of this lifestyle choice is far greater than you recognize right now.

I still wish you the best of luck.
 
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Pander Bear said:
to be fair, that's a risk we all run, regardless of our vocation, especially on this message board.
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Oh I know. I did that myself MANY times.. lol

My point is that I have yet to see someone sell their body and come out unscathed. In fact, I have heard nothing but negative things from those who used to be involved in this type of work.

I am simply stating that such a profession typically leads a person to devalue themselves, while at the same time creating deep psychological problems which may not appear for years.

This line of work will eventually catch up with her, thats all I am asserting. I really do want the best for her, and everyone else really.. I just call it like I see it. When a person is living in a way that creates damage in their life, I mention it in the spirit of harm reduction. When a person uses heroin, I can relate to that because I used to do the same. I will tell them my personal experience and let them know it has a lot of risks and can be quite devastating to one's life. When I act like an idiot people tell me their experience. I value advice and criticism.. It allows us to grow as people and see things in a different light.

Prostitution can be, and IS damaging to one's psyche. I am simply stating this because I feel it is true.

I am not trying to piss anyone off. I am not trying to be an asshole. I am just stating the facts.
 
the act of prostitution probably has minimal impact on a person's self-image... no more than hooking up with a guy who bought you drinks.

The issue is how comfortable you are with the cultural judgement that you are a filthy whore, and the very lowest kind of person. :\ That is what is damaging. Ritualistic male circumcision at puberty in some African groups is a very exciting coming-of-age event in a boy's life. If I did it to you, though, you'd probably be scared (no pun please) for life.
 
While everyones concern is appreciated I really do want to assure you guys that I've think about about all these things and ways to avoid them about every day.

I'm not going to let it rush me out of the business before I get myself where I feel I'd like to be, but I've got no intentions of turning this into a career

Sure it's not sustainable and ultimately will lead to a shitty life, but so will 10 years at jobs that pay a hell of a lot less and have you working a hell of a lot harder.

I worked at hardees for 2 weeks when I was 18, talk about damaging to your psyche and leading a person to devalue themselves...jesus.
 
Pander Bear said:
The issue is how comfortable you are with the cultural judgement that you are a filthy whore, and the very lowest kind of person.
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Pretty much. The damage comes from being arrested, the damage comes from people not wanting to hire you, the damage comes from being secretive.

The damage sure doesn't come from getting paid 200 bucks an hour to be fawned over and told how amazingly hot you are.
 
xtcgrlatl said:
While everyones concern is appreciated I really do want to assure you guys that I've think about about all these things and ways to avoid them about every day.

I'm not going to let it rush me out of the business before I get myself where I feel I'd like to be, but I've got no intentions of turning this into a career

Sure it's not sustainable and ultimately will lead to a shitty life, but so will 10 years at jobs that pay a hell of a lot less and have you working a hell of a lot harder.

I worked at hardees for 2 weeks when I was 18, talk about damaging to your psyche and leading a person to devalue themselves...jesus.
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That's a Good and TRUE ATTITUDE, You'll make it, and do FINE........... That's a Good outlook to have on things.........:)
 
xtcgrlatl said:
Pretty much. The damage comes from being arrested, the damage comes from people not wanting to hire you, the damage comes from being secretive.

The damage sure doesn't come from getting paid 200 bucks an hour to be fawned over and told how amazingly hot you are.
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lol
 
xtcgrlatl said:
The damage comes from being arrested, the damage comes from people not wanting to hire you, the damage comes from being secretive.

The damage sure doesn't come from getting paid 200 bucks an hour to be fawned over and told how amazingly hot you are.
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Damage also comes from the karma: The guys I took $$$ from were NOT the kinda guys I go 4. Each one had a pathetic, disgusting, problem, which is why I asked U above if U ever felt like a psychiatrist. (U said, "no." but I often do and I pray 4 them.) It's sad the lives some of these losers live!

So U/I fulfill their fantasies/lust 4 $$$. I'll still do it if it's convienient/spontaneous . . . I don't adverise or look 4 it, it finds me.

Since you're young it's more of an adventure, which is fun. I'd probably "hafta" do it too if I was a grl your age. I would NEVER work at a bogus, uncreative job or feed people poison. I'd hafta rationalize prostitution like U.

I admired/envied the window girls in Amsterdam. Next time I go back I'm gonna hook up with one and stand in her window 4 an hour high on Acid, witha a big :)

Totally agree with U about the fucking law (pun intended) including the DUI trap I got busted 4 a coupla weeks ago. (Trip Report HERE.)
 
My experience is that all the guys that come see me are pretty straightforward normal guys. It's very very rare that I get someone that is out of the ordinary to any real degree. In fact, it's far more common that I get into it and have a fantastic time then it is that I find myself in a situation i really dont like.

It's really just a matter of 40 year old married guys can't go to a bar and pick up a chubby slut at a dive bar whenever they feel horny. Especially not during the noon/afternoon hours, which are my busiest times.

But they can call me up and be having sex with a very nice, very good looking, extremely accommodating girl that's active and good in bed and wont give them any bullshit in about an hour. A guy doesnt have to be fucked up to decide to come see me. He just has to have the disposable income and the desire to sleep with a girl that's out of his league otherwise.
 
xtcgrlatl said:
It's really just a matter of 40 year old married guys can't go to a bar and pick up a chubby slut at a dive bar whenever they feel horny.
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U don't think that's pathetic/disgusting?! Married guys feeling horny so instead of seeing their wives about it, they see U? Can U imagine what his home life must be like (especially if he has children at home), the phony life he's living? The lack of connection to his wife?
 
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It seems to me that him deciding to visit a prostitute would be a symptom of problems at home, not a cause.

Should he stay home and work that out with his wife? Sure. Is that xtcgrlatl's business/problem? I don't think so. He's responsible for his actions, ultimately.
 
GoddessLSD-XTC said:
U don't think that's pathetic/disgusting?! Married guys feeling horny so instead of seeing their wives about it, they see U? Can U imagine what his home life must be like (especially if he has children at home), the phony life he's living? The lack of connection to his wife?
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so what? aren't you a sociopath? lol. she's making money off of it. thats what she does. why would she care? if she did, it would probably cripple her business.
 
Infinite Jest said:
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It seems to me that him deciding to visit a prostitute would be a symptom of problems at home, not a cause.
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This is pretty much it. I'm not into discussing my clients personal lives with them but I've had it mentioned a number of times that guys just arent getting practically any sex at home. Often times they're in a marriage that they dont seem to care much for but have mentioned that they'll never divorce because of kids.

Anyways, like I said, if it wasn't me it'd be the escort listed below me. The infidelity and relationship problems are already there. I simply provide a service that doesnt include counseling people on maintaining stable monogamous relationships :)
 
xtcgrlatl said:
My experience is that all the guys that come see me are pretty straightforward normal guys. It's very very rare that I get someone that is out of the ordinary to any real degree. In fact, it's far more common that I get into it and have a fantastic time then it is that I find myself in a situation i really dont like.

It's really just a matter of 40 year old married guys can't go to a bar and pick up a chubby slut at a dive bar whenever they feel horny. Especially not during the noon/afternoon hours, which are my busiest times.

But they can call me up and be having sex with a very nice, very good looking, extremely accommodating girl that's active and good in bed and wont give them any bullshit in about an hour. A guy doesnt have to be fucked up to decide to come see me. He just has to have the disposable income and the desire to sleep with a girl that's out of his league otherwise.
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Having spent a good bit of time in Asia, I always found it interesting how thriving, established, and generally un-problematic (although low-key) the sex trade is in many of these cultures. In some places, a guy's masculinity would be questioned if he didn't go whoring with the guys from work.

This seems to be the flipside of the low divorce rates in Asia (and I'd guess Africa, the Middle East, and other places with more "traditional" values too). We may romanticize the highly stable, and in some cases arranged marriages which mark this part of the world. But the strong sex industry there tells me that a lifetime of sexual fulfillment often ain't part of the matrimony package.

In Japan, it's even very popular for men to pay bar girls just to FLIRT with them! They never had a chance to be playboys during their youths of incessant studying, and were workaholics who got their balls broken by their higher-ups every day on the job ever after that. So they use the ample money they have to make up for lost time -- they pay a pretty young lady to listen to them and make them feel like a bigshot. I personally would find this sad beyond words. If I ever do such a thing, SHOOT ME. But that's just my cultural bias. To them it's probably nothing -- what all the guys are doing.

In Taiwan, it's becoming very popular for middle aged dudes to pay high school girls to have sex with them. He'll pay for a private room in a karaoke place, and pay her cash on top of that. The girls interviewed said they do it to keep up with the Joneses -- they can go shopping and be the most fashionable girls in their school. I don't know how the solicitation process goes for this, but I'd guess it's with cell phones and the web. Seems like a huge risk for these girls to put themselves in for a new designer handbag. But again, that's just my cultural bias.
 
^^^ Yeah, Mexico is the same way, the married women there expect their men to have mistresses on the side and they accept it as long as their husband continues to provide.

xtcgrl: You're a good actress fulfilling their fantasies, that's what U get paid 4.

4 me, it's much different when I'm NOT taking $$$ 4 sex or need the $$$ when they offer, I fuck with their heads while they're fucking my body. I'll ask them about their lives.

The ONE 40 year old married man I had 4 $$$ was well dressed (business man, clean starched shirt), at 2pm, just like the majority of your clients. He didn't want to talk about his family life but I didn't really need the $$$ so I asked him anyway. (I met him through an adult "friend finder.") Of all the guys I met he was the MOST pathetic/disgusting!

Nearly all the persons I had sex with were NOT married. Seems it's just the opposite with U, U seek married men. In addition, U said some of their wives called U. Does your State have laws against adultry? Here's the Arizona law:

13-1408. Adultery; classification; punishment; limitation on prosecution

A. A married person who has sexual intercourse with another than his or her spouse, and an unmarried person who has sexual intercourse with a married person not his or her spouse, commits adultery and is guilty of a class 3 misdemeanor. When the act is committed between parties only one of whom is married, both shall be punished.

B. No prosecution for adultery shall be commenced except upon complaint of the husband or wife.


Sure, it's another bogus law and I'm NOT trying 2 make U feel guilty. I can see U have a conscience. That it doesn't bother U that you're committing adultery is interesting too. I've had 2 deal with it only once (as mentioned above).

So, going into your affairs U know up-front the person is married and you're committing adultery. Don't U feel sorry 4 these guys and their wives or do U laugh at their wives or just not care, thinking only of their money?

I would have sex with a married man if his wife was present, otherwise I would find it hard to respect these married fuckers.

EDIT: Maybe when the sex is no longer fun, your attitude will change. (4 me the sex is NOT fun.)
 
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GoddessLSD-XTC said:
^^^ Yeah, Mexico is the same way, the married women there expect their men to have mistresses on the side and they accept it as long as their husband continues to provide.

xtcgrl: You're a good actress fulfilling their fantasies, that's what U get paid 4.

4 me, it's much different when I'm NOT taking $$$ 4 sex or need the $$$ when they offer, I fuck with their heads while they're fucking my body. I'll ask them about their lives.

The ONE 40 year old married man I had 4 $$$ was well dressed (business man, clean starched shirt), at 2pm, just like the majority of your clients. He didn't want to talk about his family life but I didn't really need the $$$ so I asked him anyway. (I met him through an adult "friend finder.") Of all the guys I met he was the MOST pathetic/disgusting!

Nearly all the persons I had sex with were NOT married. Seems it's just the opposite with U, U seek married men. In addition, U said some of their wives called U. Does your State have laws against adultry? Here's the Arizona law:

13-1408. Adultery; classification; punishment; limitation on prosecution

A. A married person who has sexual intercourse with another than his or her spouse, and an unmarried person who has sexual intercourse with a married person not his or her spouse, commits adultery and is guilty of a class 3 misdemeanor. When the act is committed between parties only one of whom is married, both shall be punished.

B. No prosecution for adultery shall be commenced except upon complaint of the husband or wife.


Sure, it's another bogus law and I'm NOT trying 2 make U feel guilty. I can see U have a conscience. That it doesn't bother U that you're committing adultery is interesting too. I've had 2 deal with it only once (as mentioned above).

So, going into your affairs U know up-front the person is married and you're committing adultery. Don't U feel sorry 4 these guys and their wives or do U laugh at their wives or just not care, thinking only of their money?

I would have sex with a married man if his wife was present, otherwise I would find it hard to respect these married fuckers.

EDIT: Maybe when the sex is no longer fun, your attitude will change. (4 me the sex is NOT fun.)
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It's not her fault or even part of the Business she is in, if a Married Man wants sex, HE WILL GET IT, from her or he will find another prostitute.....

Its not his responsibility to tell her that he is married and its not her responsibility to ask, I guess its on a 'Need To Know' basis. or their may be clients who BLATANTLY WEAR THEIR WEDDING RINGS, now that's fucking sad...............
 
If i were Xtcgrlatl I wouldnt feel bad in THE LEAST about sleeping with married men, They want the service that she provides, and she gives it too them. Simple as that. They are obviously lacking something in their marriage that is making them go to have sex with another woman in the 1st Place...............
 
GoddessLSD-XTC said:
So, going into your affairs U know up-front the person is married and you're committing adultery. Don't U feel sorry 4 these guys and their wives or do U laugh at their wives or just not care, thinking only of their money?
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I don't feel sorry for them and I dont laugh at them. It's really just irrelevant to me. When I hear someone is married then to me it means that they probably dont get much chance to sleep around and probably arent packing any bugs I don't want. Married guys are a safer bet then unmarried guys.

EDIT: Maybe when the sex is no longer fun, your attitude will change. (4 me the sex is NOT fun.)
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When you sleep with almost anyone that calls you the sex is very often not fun. :) Usually it's boring, if I can't get turned on then it's often a little painful, it's occassionally pretty good and about every couple weeks I get a great romp out of it.

Since the sex is often bad or bland I often just try to get into putting on a show. I try to make guys that come see me walk out the door feeling like they're a fantastic lover.

But i don't do it for fun, I do it because I wouldnt know how to begin selling drugs and dealing is way to dangerous anyways and I can't think of many other ways an uncreative and not particularly driven 25 year old woman can consistently make $1,000 a day. I could get a respectable job with a good company tomorrow and I'd never see cash flow like I see doing this and I'd never see freedom like I see doing this.

One day all that will come to an end, but in the meantime I enjoy my slice of freedom for what it is.
 
I've been with guys who sometimes forget to take off their wedding rings, pretty rare, for the most part they generally put it in their pocket and then take it out and put it back on when we're done.
 
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