BA...Actually, I think that IS a cool idea. Traditionally it isn't that way, but today it would be really cool. And I have a Geek for a boyfriend...I know damn well that said electronic item would be quite pricey as well.....(there are certain things I know not to skimp on with him)
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fizzygirl
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BA...it really depends, and sometimes there are gemstones involved, but that's up to the guy. If you go with something in platinum you're upping the cost substantially as well. It's not as if there's one style and it's $30....just start looking around at websites and you'll see what I mean.
Aside from rings, both partners tend to buy each other presents to mark the wedding as well. I could see this being a perfect time to splurge a bit more on what the guy has (often a watch or something else that will last a long time) vs. the woman's present (often some jewelry to wear at the wedding). Getting a TV or something seems kind of odd, as you'll both be needing a TV anyway when you have the place together. It's also not the kind of thing that lasts forever, especially not how they're made today....would it then have sentimental value and would you be able to get rid of it when it dies?
A guitar, a watch, etc seem more reasonable as far as other presents go.
Aside from rings, both partners tend to buy each other presents to mark the wedding as well. I could see this being a perfect time to splurge a bit more on what the guy has (often a watch or something else that will last a long time) vs. the woman's present (often some jewelry to wear at the wedding). Getting a TV or something seems kind of odd, as you'll both be needing a TV anyway when you have the place together. It's also not the kind of thing that lasts forever, especially not how they're made today....would it then have sentimental value and would you be able to get rid of it when it dies?
A guitar, a watch, etc seem more reasonable as far as other presents go.
fairnymph
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I got the husband a very nice watch. 
Strawberry_lovemuffin
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I can't see dale wanting a(nother) watch. I think he'll want something like a dvd burner or one of those guns you shoot at the screen in Playstation 
(how romantic!)
(how romantic!)
I would feel very uncomfortable wearing an expensive ring- aside from anything else, I will end up losing it.
Due to my line of work, I can't wear any rings, bracelets etc while at work, and necklaces/chains often get tugged on and broken. If I were going to wear the ring at all, I'd be taking it on and off every day.
You can guarantee that one day I'll forget to take it off at home, get to work and have it stolen out of my bag- or if I keep it on a chain around my neck some arsehole will rip the chain and it'll disappear somewhere in the ruckus.
I'd much rather a cheaper ring (less of a target for theft as well) and something else- a necklace for special occasions etc.- that won't be lost.
Due to my line of work, I can't wear any rings, bracelets etc while at work, and necklaces/chains often get tugged on and broken. If I were going to wear the ring at all, I'd be taking it on and off every day.
You can guarantee that one day I'll forget to take it off at home, get to work and have it stolen out of my bag- or if I keep it on a chain around my neck some arsehole will rip the chain and it'll disappear somewhere in the ruckus.
I'd much rather a cheaper ring (less of a target for theft as well) and something else- a necklace for special occasions etc.- that won't be lost.
Sprite
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It does suck for the guy cause he does go out and spend a lot and has to ask, blah, blah.... just like dating. I have always felt guys get the shitty part of the deal on some of these things.
In my case, we have gotten several household "toys" over the past year or so since being engaged/married that almost add up to the cost of my ring, so I factor those things in. Granted they are things we both use, but I would never have bought them, and that money could have gone towards other things just like my ring money could have. I thought he was nuts to spend so much. On my ring and on many things he gets, but he can spend his money as he chooses. We have separate bank accounts, but those kinds of major purchases all take away from savings we could have had. But I don't mind, we work hard and like to get good things. He was the same way with my ring. He won't buy a shitty T.V., so why would he buy a shitty ring?
I actually did say I wanted to pay for his band (which cost more than my band), he said that was dumb. He looks at it all as "our" money in the long run, plus he knows he makes three times as much as I do and knows I'd use credit. In the end both were paid for from our "wedding fund" we started after getting engaged.
Expecting, wanting, appreciating and enjoying things are all very different terms. I think it sucks if a guy is with a girl that expects a high price tag/size on the ring she gets. I am not that kind, so I can't say I feel guilty. I never pushed on marriage, a ring type/size, or even knew it was coming. I would have never picked out my own ring (or been allowed to) or told him what he got was too small or that I didn't like it, I lucked out, I can't feel guilty about what I got. It was his choice, based on what he could afford. He paid for my ring in full. He is very much his own man and wouldn't be pressured on something like that.
In my case, we have gotten several household "toys" over the past year or so since being engaged/married that almost add up to the cost of my ring, so I factor those things in. Granted they are things we both use, but I would never have bought them, and that money could have gone towards other things just like my ring money could have. I thought he was nuts to spend so much. On my ring and on many things he gets, but he can spend his money as he chooses. We have separate bank accounts, but those kinds of major purchases all take away from savings we could have had. But I don't mind, we work hard and like to get good things. He was the same way with my ring. He won't buy a shitty T.V., so why would he buy a shitty ring?
I actually did say I wanted to pay for his band (which cost more than my band), he said that was dumb. He looks at it all as "our" money in the long run, plus he knows he makes three times as much as I do and knows I'd use credit. In the end both were paid for from our "wedding fund" we started after getting engaged.
Expecting, wanting, appreciating and enjoying things are all very different terms. I think it sucks if a guy is with a girl that expects a high price tag/size on the ring she gets. I am not that kind, so I can't say I feel guilty. I never pushed on marriage, a ring type/size, or even knew it was coming. I would have never picked out my own ring (or been allowed to) or told him what he got was too small or that I didn't like it, I lucked out, I can't feel guilty about what I got. It was his choice, based on what he could afford. He paid for my ring in full. He is very much his own man and wouldn't be pressured on something like that.
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hopelessly lost
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what do you girls think of something like this for a gift ?
a bit crap????
a bit crap????
kandyraverchick
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^ It's a bit over the top for my likings. A bit tacky.
hopelessly lost
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so this is absolutely no good? hmmmz i liked it
Strawberry_lovemuffin
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Yeah, it's a bit Liberace for me mate... sorry. Never been into lots of multiple diamonds and different colours. Sleek and minimalist is my style.
It looks expensive too... to be frank, if I were given it I would wish he'd spent his money on something different, like a holiday. Or clothes vouchers :D
It looks expensive too... to be frank, if I were given it I would wish he'd spent his money on something different, like a holiday. Or clothes vouchers :D
hopelessly lost
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taken into account thx!!!!!
Mariposa
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*bump for a really fun thread*
No ring for me yet (my day of glory will come someday
) but I know a few people who got engaged over the holidays/New Year's/Valentine's. I'm seeing more and more non-traditional, really beautiful rings. I'm still a fan of an emerald cut diamond set in platinum, but the gorgeous non-diamond rings I've seen could almost change my mind.
No ring for me yet (my day of glory will come someday
) but I know a few people who got engaged over the holidays/New Year's/Valentine's. I'm seeing more and more non-traditional, really beautiful rings. I'm still a fan of an emerald cut diamond set in platinum, but the gorgeous non-diamond rings I've seen could almost change my mind. 
Perpetual Indulgence
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I said earlier in the thread that I would have like to have at least a carat.
Well, I am getting married in November (Vegas, baby!)and I don't have a ring. He cannot afford one at this time. I know that. I would never stress him out about making sure he had something to give me before he asked. The ring is nice but it does not make our upcoming union any less solid.
I think we have been programmed to expect certain things. I am not a traditional gal to begin with. I didn't want to marry anyone until I met him. Funny how ideas change.
Besides, I rather have diamond earrings. They are a gift that I would have eventually bought for myself when I could afford them.
Well, I am getting married in November (Vegas, baby!)and I don't have a ring. He cannot afford one at this time. I know that. I would never stress him out about making sure he had something to give me before he asked. The ring is nice but it does not make our upcoming union any less solid.
I think we have been programmed to expect certain things. I am not a traditional gal to begin with. I didn't want to marry anyone until I met him. Funny how ideas change.
Besides, I rather have diamond earrings. They are a gift that I would have eventually bought for myself when I could afford them.
mariposa420 said:Yesterday, those rings are STUNNING. WOW.
I think this is probably my prototype.
I might like the side stones to be sapphires or tanzanites. That's my prototype, though, and I prefer flawlessness to size... I'm not a size queen.
This is the exact ring that I would want. I love the cut of the diamond, but would have a thinner band and maybe even sapphires instead of more diamonds, although it would be a tough decision.
jaymie
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this thread is exciting. it makes me want to get married!
miss starry
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Congrats, Perpetual Indulgence; I got married in Vegas last May and it was a blast! I always wanted to get married, but I never wanted a big wedding (too stressful and I just didn't want to deal with it). So, we decided to go to Vegas, told our immediate family they could come (most of them did, we had 11guests) and had a small wedding at our hotel. It was a lot nicer than I thought, not too cheesy. We were there for a long weekend and everyone just kind of did their own thing--there is no need to entertain family in Vegas!
My husband really didn't have too much money for a ring either, but I still got a really beautiful (I think) ring. The main diamond is from his grandmother's wedding ring, and I just picked out a new setting for it to make it my own. I think it makes it really special that the diamond used to belong to his grandma. Plus, my birthday is the same as hers was: July 14th. I just think that's kinda neat. Here's a pic of my ring:
I always wanted to get married, but I never wanted a big wedding (too stressful and I just didn't want to deal with it). So, we decided to go to Vegas, told our immediate family they could come (most of them did, we had 11guests) and had a small wedding at our hotel. It was a lot nicer than I thought, not too cheesy. We were there for a long weekend and everyone just kind of did their own thing--there is no need to entertain family in Vegas! My husband really didn't have too much money for a ring either, but I still got a really beautiful (I think
) ring. The main diamond is from his grandmother's wedding ring, and I just picked out a new setting for it to make it my own. I think it makes it really special that the diamond used to belong to his grandma. Plus, my birthday is the same as hers was: July 14th. I just think that's kinda neat. Here's a pic of my ring:
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