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engagement rings

Mine is only costing $899. Over 6 months, that's only $37 a week. I think even a McDonald's worker could afford that ;)

And seriously - if he had that much trouble affording it, I would be only too happy to pay half. Still, shit, considering I'm paying half of everything else (the wedding, honeymoon etc) and probably buying my own dress I would think that is at least ONE tradition that would be nice to uphold, having an engagement ring bought for you :\
 
For Keystroke: I think in this day and age, with weddings so expensive, things have changed a little.

Now, often, the brides parents pay half and the grooms parents pay half. Or alternatively, it goes three ways inc. the bride and groom throwing in for their own wedding. Fortunately my mum hates that idea - so if the grooms parents refuse to help pay at all, mine will cover the lot.. :D

Edit: In saying that, my parents had a massive italian style wedding all paid for them, so it's no surprise that "what goes around, comes around" ;)
 
I'm actually surprised people's parents (brides or grooms) still pay for anything at all!

It seems a little unfair to me... I mean, mostly their children are independant working people by the time they get married, it's not like the old days where the father is palming off his 17 year old daughter onto someone, and she can't be expected to pay.

I don't know anyone whose parents have paid for their wedding out of my friends (apart from the odd 'chip in' here and there out of goodwill). Then again none of my friends' families are very well off, but certainly not poor.... just like mine, average middle class families.

It never even occurred to me to ask mine! I mean it's *my* wedding, it's my choice.

Then again - hey - if they offered, and if I knew they could easily afford it, I certainly wouldn't say no :D
 
well i paid in full for the ring i got....

SLM, becareful for the 50% off things, make sure you get 18K gold, and the diamonds specifications right... i went to places offering huge discounts, but the actual diamond wasnt as good as the one i found...

i was traditional and went by the 2 months salary, plus a bit, coz the one i liked was more.. but i am a poorly uni student... haha

as seen above, i got a white gold, 32c diamond, vvs1-2, e colour, when any light, even the most minute amount, hits it it shimmers adn shines amazingly... basically perfect... like my love... ohhh....
 
^ that would be .32 carats my love. A 32 carat diamond would be six times the size of the rock Paris Hilton's currently got dragging her finger down ;)

I think mine should be right. It's a .30 carat diamond, 18 carat white gold, and the ring was originally worth $1500 - it's a major retailer, not a dodgy backyard place or anything. It's stunning. I will post pics when I get it!:)
 
yes yes, i meant 32 point, but then i wrote c.. oh well... blah blah blah... you win this round... hahaha...

you will have a beautiful diamond... what style is it? solitaire?

cant wait to see it SLM... cant wait at all.. and it comes in a box!!!
 
Out here in New Mexico there are a lot of jewlers who specialize in inlay-style rings which I love. We looked when we were living in philadelphia but I can't help but feel like 90% of the engagement rings I see nowadays all look the same. I wouldn't show up at a party with the same dress as all of the engaged girls, why would I want a ring that looks the same?

These are some examples of some of the inlay stuff that I've seen up here and liked:

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There is actually a lot prettier stuff in shops here but e-commerce has not hit Santa Fe yet... shocking.
 
I've been searching for rings all day but the only good ones I can find are crap, they are either the totally wrong size (with no option of resizing) or wayyyyyyyyyy too expensive (3000 dollars or more)

so I guess I have to keep looking!

hopefully this girl appreciates it as much as I appreciate her :P
 
Tradition doesn't dictate the the bride's parents pay for everything. If you look into older ettiquette books you'll see that there are tons of guidelines, with bride's side paying for things like the actual wedding ceremony, groom's side paying for rehearsal dinner, etc. If you look into actual amounts for a lot of the stuff as it was laid out back then it came to generally an equal amount.

Bride's Family

* Groom's ring
* bridesmaid luncheon
* the first engagement party
* invitations, announcements, enclosures, personal stationery, wedding programs, thank-you notes
* bride€s dress, veil, accessories, trousseau
* mother of the bride€s dress, father of the bride€s formalwear
* floral arrangements for ceremony and reception sites, bouquets for bridesmaids and flower girls
* fees for ceremony site, sexton, organist, soloist, rental of aisle carpet, marquee, or huppah
* engagement and wedding photos and video
* transportation of bridal party to ceremony and reception site
* all professional reception services, food, drinks, decorations, music, etc.

Bride buys wedding gifts for her attendants and the groom.

Groom's Family

* Bride€s engagement and wedding ring
* engagement party (it should follow any festivities hosted by the bride€s family)
* a rehearsal dinner
* groom€s thank-you notes
* personal stationery
* groom€s formalwear
* his mother€s dress, his father€s formalwear
* bride€s bouquet, corsages for both mothers and grandmothers, boutonnieres for best man and ushers
* marriage license, clergy member or judge€s fee
* limousine to airport, complete honeymoon

Groom buys wedding gifts for attendants and the bride.
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Honestly, I don't know anyone that has done things according to that list. Most people I know just divide things up according to what's wanted and how much money each family can afford to spend on it.

My mom's a wedding florist/works with a caterer she's friends with, so I'm gonna luck out ;)
 
kandyraverchick, that ring is gorgeous!

My first engagement ring was a .5 car, round stone, with 4 channel set diamonds on each side. Yellow gold.. i liked it at the time. but it's not my style. (i dont have it anymore)

My 2nd engagement ring, was a .25 marque cut with a white gold band. Very plain.. more my style. the quality was kinda crappy tho.. and it had a large carbon spot and a crack in the side (you could see if you looked, but wasn't visable on my finger) i loved it of course.

Since then i have upgraded that stone to a better quality and a bigger diamond (.5 car.), and added it to a setting that i had inherreted (that used to have an emerald in it) which is a staircase setting of marque diamonds (5 on each side). It's a total BLING RING now.. lmao. It was my gift to myself for the heartache i recieved having to break off the engagement.. and gave me something to do with one of the 5 emerald rings in inherrited last year. I love it, i will have to get a picture to show.

(if anyone is curious.. i gave another away to my best friend, and have the other 3 for myself)
 
If my boyfriend bought me a ring that was worth more than one weeks pay then I'd make him take it back. Jewellery means nothing to me, give me a cheap ring and the we can put the rest of our money towards a better honeymoon.
 
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