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my mom only drinks, never tried anything else
my dad said he took a puff off a joint once and didn't like it, nothing else
they go to al-anon and families anonymous and insist that I stay absolutely clean, even though they drink 4-5 drinks a night
 
dad: i don't care as long as i don't know about it
mom: what the fuck !?! drugs you say!
 
Mom: Started out horrible, freaked out and cried every time she caught me with ANYTHING (which unfortunately happened a lot for a while...) but has since come to realize that I'm going to make my own decisions and that I'm informed enough to do so when it comes to this stuff. She still doesn't want to know about it though.

Dad: Came down on me HARD the first time he caught me with weed but a year later he tells me about his prior drug use in the 60's (weed, lsd, mesaline, shrooms) and told me he really doesn't care if I smoke weed or do psychadelics. He's also decided he's fine with me rolling after I showed him all of the research I had done. Once he even helped calm me down during a really horrifying shroom trip... I love my Dad <3=D
 
When I lived with my parents they were daily pot smokers and I was "aware" but didn't understand that they used painkillers from time to time too.

Since moving out I've come to find out that they were also occasionally using cocaine and ecstasy.



Seeing the effects of adults on any type of drugs turned me WAY OFF drugs in high school. Straight-EDGE. As I got older, I grew out of that. Drank. Tried new stuff.



Now. I've never discussed my (heavy at times) drug use with my mother, but I'm pretty sure she knows about it. Kind of a ... "don't ask don't tell" thing going on with her.
 
Will you let your children do drugs??

Okay.

So its obvious we all use drug's , but does that mean we advocate our kids using them?? where do we mark the line?? or do we even mark a line??

I personally dont have children but i can imagine if my 16 yr old son come home to tell me him and hes mates tried ice , i would be shocked.. (i had ice when i was 18 years old)
and judging how drug use is going in teen's these day's its only going to get worse , however if my 16 yr old son come home to tell me him and hes friends smoked weed on the weekend
i would probably just give him the whole "safe drug use" speech so its in hes head incase he decides to take harder drugs in the future , hell i would probably even give him this website haha
so he could talk to people who share hes interest and at least have knowledge about all these drug's before approaching them in an unsafe manor.

But regardless , whats everyone's opinion on this??
 
Not while they're under 18. But on the other hand, I'd be aware enough that I wouldn't really be able to do much about it if they're 16 or 17 and they want to. I'd just make sure they were properly and thoroughly educated on the matter, so they knew what they were doing.

I'd certainly be alarmed if my kids were on hard drugs. Psychedelics, not so much, but I'd still want to know they're doing it safely and for the right reasons.

Anyway it's a moot point, because I'll probably never have kids.
 
Yeaaa its all about harm reduction.

I think most kids are just dumb and think "O man this feels goood i should do this all the time im invincibleeee!" Then there is the parents that dont say anything about using safely and just get pissed, yell at them, and discipline them with whatever they feel is necessary....which doesnt do anything other than make the child more drawn to drugs (obviously this isnt all cases but many kids, especially during adolescents,take on the "rebel" type identity.)

Let the child know about addiction and how fucked up people lives get because of it, show them this or another harm reduction website and most importantly let them know that they can come to you at any time.

Like what was said above you are not going to be able to control what your child does and this way atleast they have the tools to use as safely as possible and understand the consequences if their use gets out of control.
 
Coming from a very strict non-drug family I can honestly say that is the absolute worst thing to do. All it did was distance myself from them and forced me to lie.
then you have a full blown alcoholic and heroin addict.

I will tell my children from a young age (13-14) that I was an alcoholic and heroin addict, and as these things are genetic, to have a very discerning attitude towards them. I would want to let them know that they are free to live their lives as they please, weed isn't bad if you don't totally abuse it, and if they feel they are getting in a little over their heads they can tell me without me flipping my shit. If I find out they are using harder drugs, I will let them know the risks, tell them the facts of addiction, show them proper drug use for harm reduction safe, and show them there is a way out.

Also, if they are smoking or drinking, I'd prefer for them to do it in my home. That way I can accurately judge if they are getting out of hand

edit: damn, highooked got my points in before I could. stuff I believe in either way
 
I like to think I'd call at my kids like they were adults. Tell them the facts and the issues as best I can and be a hardass when it seems absolutely necessary. They're just people with limited experience and knowledge. Maybe I'm being a little idealistic when I say I believe kids would make informed decisions if given the proper guidance and honest information.
 
I think as long as my kids were at what i consider an appropriate age to do such things yes. I wouldnt want my kids to smoke weed until they were 16 or do things like acid or shrooms until they were also 16. drinking, maybe 16 as well just as long as they were being safe and honest and i knew who they were with and where they were when they were doing these activities. Other than that i dont really approve of the newer drugs like ecstasy/molly or anything else in a pill. I also wouldnt let them do harsh drugs either.
 
No. I will not "let" my children do drugs. In fact, I will do absolutely everything in my power to prevent them from going anywhere near drugs or people that use.

If I do find out that they are indulging, I will then head down the harm reduction and education path..
 
I wouldnt not that I didnt try any drugs until I was 18 & in college but because the brain & body develop up to the ages of like 22 or something like that so there isnt any reason to screw with it. On the other hand, I can only teach my kids the best of my abilities & the rest is they will have to deal with.

Obviously me or my girl wont be there to tell them to put down the joint if they are lighting up behind the school so we as parents can only hope everything goes smooth.
 
As a friend of mine once said- "I didn't have to put up with this shit when I was your age- but you do". That's pretty much my line when it comes to drugs- I don't advocate them, but to be perfectly honest I can't say that I'd really object to my offspring, if they come upon it themselves (as I did) then I'm not gonna take a particularly hardline, to a point.

It depends on what it going on- in New Zealand alcoholism is so socially acceptable and binge-drinking is almost national policy so I'd be far more concerned with the development of problematic drinking practices than if my kid smoked a joint on a friday night and spent 6 hours watching some really, really shit-fucking-house movies and rotting the fuck out of their teeth with candy and mountain dew.

I think that I'd probably be a lot less cool with them taking pills, I'm an educated adult who makes an informed decision to take research chemicals- they're fuckwits who think they're taking 'ecstascy'.

It's hard to say until you're in that situation and it depends on what the situation is- catching your kid smoking dope is different from finding some weed in their washing which is different from finding pointbags, lightbulb pipes or burnt spoons. Having been in their shoes I'd like to think I wouldn't go apeshit and that I'd give them the best guidance possible and hope that they make the right decisions, but having children is (your not allowed to laugh) really difficult and you catch yourself being an ass all the time- so who's to say?

Looking at them.....yup, I'm probably gonna find out :\
 
Mel22 said:
No. I will not "let" my children do drugs. In fact, I will do absolutely everything in my power to prevent them from going anywhere near drugs or people that use.

If I do find out that they are indulging, I will then head down the harm reduction and education path..
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Completely agree.
 
I'd help my kids (if i have any that is) avoid the mistakes I ran into. Teach them moderate drinking, how being the life of a party isn't important, not to use drugs to climb social ladders, not to mix your downers. As a kid I was extremely reckless, I wouldn't want my kids to take risks like that but I'm not really sure how to prevent it, maybe creating a nice loving environment that they do not want to lose. If only that teenage feeling of invincibility could be removed with reason and logic. lol.
 
Delsyd said:
im going to force my kids to do drugs and theyre going like whether they like it or not :X
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hahaha "You wont be getting dessert until you finish your DMT! and thats final!!"
(Oh c'mon peep's have a sense of humor :P)

Mel22 & adillonm , if thats the case will either of you be telling your kids about your history with drug's or will you be keeping it from them??
 
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