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Drugs and Family

We're definitely both on the same page...no doubt about it. But the page is certainly getting old & ridiculous, isn't it? I'm also on Methadone for the rest of my life [due to spinal-stenosis] & people immediately assume 'scumbag'.
Light-up a doob? Drug-infested, braindead stoner that can't remember what they had for dinner last night [what did I have again?=D]. Plus now everyone who wants a job has to piss-test. Luckily, my 30 yrs of working were before that was implemented. They see cannabis in your system? No fuckin job for your stoned-ass. They see booze in your system? "You got the job & let's hit the bar to celebrate!!"
I'm 56 yrs old & cannot believe we're still dealing with this nonsense!! I'll go to my grave before we see any repeal of Prohibition of Weed.
 
I'm a mother to my seven year old daugher, Cora Lyric Harmony Rae. I had her when I was 16, before I stated using heavy drugs. At the time I only smoked weed.

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My dad knows I do drugs. He doesn't approve, but doesn't beg me to stop either. I haven't spoken to my mother in two years, she has no idea.

If my daughter grew up to use drugs I would tell her to be careful. I would want her to keep it under control, because my family has a long history of addiction problems and she is susceptible to addiction. I wouldn't tell her to never do them, because I'm not a fan of that kind of hypocrisy. As long as she kept it under control and was open and honest with me, I'd be fine. But I will never do drugs with my child.

I was sober the entire time I was pregnant and for about a year after. I never have and never will use in front of my child, but I have used in the same house while she was asleep. Nowadays I try to use while she's in school so I don't have to while she's home.

I've been so lucky to not lose custody of my angel. I don't know what I would do, and I know I'm ruining her life by being on drugs but I also am not in the right spot to quit. I've cut down to around three times a week, but I'm not at a point to be at zero.

Before I was a drug user I always said I would tell my kids to never do drugs. But now that I'm an addict, I have changed that view because I am no longer blinded by the stigma society places on drugs.
 
my parents - know about my drug use, not the full extent (full extent being weekly or less frequent user of stims..recreational) but they knew i used to smoke weed and know i currently take harder stuff at raves. they dont really like it but tend to turn a blind eye. they dont mention it often.

my children - i dont condone taking drugs around children. i have, in the past taken drugs with them in the house but always when they are in bed and i have always been in control, if need be i am able to snap out of my high and be a responsible parent as far as being a responsible parent goes as a drug taker anyway.
i dont do this so often these days, maybe once in a blue moon, mainly only at raves when my children are being looked after by grandparents.
since trying for a baby i have stopped taking all drugs. I dont agree with taking drugs whilst pregnant. i had a friend who would drink countless amounts of cider and take speed or coke whilst 30 weeks gone. that to me is selfish and dangerous.
 
My mom can't sleep without taking pills, so naturally my career in drugs started with stealing her stuff. Whenever I have trouble sleeping, she lends me some (usually benzodiazepines of some type). My first time smoking pot was with her, my sister and her boyfriend. I don't think she'd react well to knowing I've used other things, though.
My dad doesn't know a thing about it and I think he'd really kill me if he did, as he used to be a coke addict. It must not feel well knowing your son is following in your steps like that, especially because he warned me so much as a kid.
 
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I very nearly got kicked out once my family found out I smoked weed on occasion. They asked one time and I just admitted to it since I thought we could talk about it if they really wanted. There was no talking, a lot of yelling (from them) and I had to drop smoking weed from my list of things to do. I had done it probably 10 times when that had happened, obviously it was horrible living there for the next two years or so.
 
I live with my mom, and a long time ago she used to make a big deal about me smoking green and drinking (especially hard alcohol) for the first few years that I was doing drugs...but then I tried heroin and coke for the first time on the exact same night, and began becoming addicted to heroin. That started to change things up...
It's funny how I and just about every other kid I talk to who's addicted to heroin says "well, at least one good thing came out of being addicted to heroin; my parents don't care about me smoking weed or drinking anymore" which is how it is for me. My mom is glad when I'm smoking weed or drinking rather than doing heroin and is willing to buy alcohol and lend me money for green. She really hates that I do heroin though and although she doesn't really have a lot of money she's willing to do everything she possibly can to help me get clean. It makes me feel terrible that I let her down by using because she just tries so damn hard to help me and encourage me to get out and have fun and feel good so that I can quit dope and still feel good...I love my mom, and I need to tell her that more often.

Really though she really wishes that I wouldn't do anything at all and talks to me about it on a regular basis. She only ever smoked weed and messed with amphetamines when she was about 18, so she always is trying to support me when it comes to getting clean off everything and dealing with my various psychological issues.


How I would deal with my kid's drug use? For me it would end up being a situation probably a lot like how my mom deals with it. Even though it would put me in a situation where I could get in trouble, I would probably encourage my kid to do whatever they felt the need to do in our house so that he/she wouldn't be put at as much risk of being caught or getting hurt somehow, especially if I had a girl. In general I would promote honesty from them in return for me being somewhat lenient with them, because I would rather try to hold back my judgments and bite my tongue so that I could intervene if anything serious started happening rather than always try to persecute them and have them feel like they need to lie to me all the time. Plus then they would feel close enough and safe enough talking about it that hopefully if they started developing an issue of some sort that they could come talk to me about it right away without feeling like I would yell at them or become irrational.
On top of it I have enough drug experience under my belt that I would be able to understand what would be going on in their life with it, so I would have a much better vantage point on the whole issue than many parents that don't have much experience would, so my kid could come to me in a pinch if they were concerned about the effects of a certain drug or if they were scared that something was going wrong, or if they were too drunk and needed a ride rather than trying to go it alone and having something happen to them.

I would also try to remember how it is and refrain from getting angry or frustrated with them if they did develop an issue, because all that does is drive them away and doesn't help anyways. I would encourage development of alternate activities and support any other lifestyle decisions even if I didn't particularly like them as long as it meant that it would help them heal. I'd also be somewhat like my mom in the fact that even if I was struggling somewhat I'd make getting my kid help a high priority on my list.


And how do I feel about parents using with kids at home? Well that depends strongly on how their using, what their using, and how responsible they are about keeping it away from their kids. I feel like especially if a kid has a problem with drug use, having a parent that is actively using just isn't fair and would cause a lot of problems. Also at least in my situation I feel like if my parents were using drugs I would have a lot of problems with it and would feel somewhat ashamed; parents are supposed to serve as a pinnacle in their kids life; as an example and a strong anchor for the kids to turn to if they're having problems and as something that's always there no matter what and isn't going to be too drunk or stoned or nodding too hard to make decisions or help out. I feel like parents that actively use in front of their kids are making a very bad decision. Keep that shit away from your kids at least. Also I think that any parents that are using hard drugs when they have kids is making a very bad decision, because everyone knows how they can take over someone's life and that isn't fair to someone's kid that would have to fend for themselves if their parent got caught or is sick or strung out...I just think that drug use when you have kids is bad in general, cause like lacey k said, you never know when some fluke is going to happen, and a kid getting caught is one thing since you can at least be there for them, but if you get caught that's going to hurt the rest of the family very badly, which I couldn't let happen if I had a family.


Using drugs has swayed my judgments on the topic because I've seen how each one affects people and it has allowed me to have some perspective that someone who has never used couldn't have. Although I've regretted some of the things I've done in the past I wouldn't take it back for anything, because I've had experiences that will help me out in life and have made me stronger in ways that I never would have known had I never experienced some of the darker sides of drug use. My experiences have also earned me a new found respect for people who have psychological issues or addiction issues, and has made me far more compassionate when it comes to being tolerant with other people's problems. I feel that intolerance is one of the main things wrong with this world, and being addicted to drugs certainly can teach you some strong things about tolerance for others.

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How liberal were/are your Parents ?

Sorry If there is a thread on this but I find this a very interesting thing to talk about.

My Parents are very liberal with me. I can pretty much do what I want as long as it pertains to these rules:

1: No opiates, Meth or Crack (Never had a fancy for them anyway)
2: For Easter term of school, only once in a while and for final term no at all (This is fair as well, don't want to fuck with my education, especially at the last hurdle before a years of freedom before uni)

My mum even stores my drugs for me in the freezer for when I want to save them for a later date.
 
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My parents are politically liberal but won't let me do anything in the house. Pot can be smoked in the garage; I convinced them of that recently (I'm 22). If only they knew the sort of things I snoot on the kitchen island when they're in bed, they'd kill me. Or send me to rehab.
 
my dad is a strong christian conservative but when it comes to drugs hes pretty liberal, he knows i smoke smoke weed daily and that i got into MDMA. he gets mad but just tells me its not worth it, i think its cuz he grew up in the hippie era and had some fun too, thats why hes christian now haha
 
My parents were very liberal, pretty much on point with the OP here.
My mom knew about my drug use, we openly talked/joked about it, and she even let me store drugs in the fridge/freezer.

My parents were both drug users in their time, and still talk about the possibility of them getting medical cards and smoking again, though the social stigma of it all puts them off of it.

I created a thread about this which was on the second page, so hopefully a mod merges the two threads :)

Here's a link though: http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?t=481599

Cheers
 
i've assessed and reassessed having kids. i think they're destined to be congenital addicts much like me:| that's my shitty outlook for this afternoon. i'll set guidelines for my household but i'm not going to be as barbaric parental as mine, more my father, were (only because i was dipping into his grow:P).

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i've meant to comment here before but haven't. thanks for reporting, ole thizz:)
 
I lived with my mom (she's an R.N.) and she's your average mom, not too extreme but then again not too liberal. When I was young, (15), she would flip out over the thought of me and drugs. Five years later (and realization that I'm gonna get high, but also stay on top of my priorities) she gives me money to buy her some lortab/percs at least once a week and lets me keep half of what i get for her (lol go figure). Overall, real relaxed but she let me knew when I crossed the line.

I can't answer on how I would feel about my kids & drugs lol. If they chosed to do get high, I would make sure it wouldn't go past weed.

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home? : Depends on the drug, how good they hide it, and how close they act to as if they were sober.
 
Well, seeing as how my mum is in a government service when my mum finally figured out she went batshit insane, even just for smoking weed! Nope, she don't tolerate no drugs at all. As to when I have kids, If I found out my kid was smoking weed even at a young age say 13 (I was 13 when I started) I would do my best to educate him/her about cannabis use and I would discourage it and tell him the same mistakes I made when I was his/her age, but I wouldn't punish him but I certainly wouldn't encourage them. If they were taking benzos or harder drugs or anything really apart from weed and booze I would certainly punish them for it, explain the dangers and risks associated with drug abuse and also explain that they are far far to young to be risking there lifes, and also try to help them as much as possible with issues such addiction/self harm ect. Like I said if it was booze or weed I would educate them as much as possible, but I would try my best to discourage them from it and wouldn't allow it in the family home ect. I know thats hypocrital of me as I take most drugs but I obviously wouldn't want them to grow up like me. As to parents taking drugs infront of kids I think is utterly despicable, even rolling a joint. Kids I think should not see there parents taking drugs as it obviously will encourage them.

Just my take :)
 
What were your parents' views on drug use?

Just as the title says, what was your parents view on drug use while you were growing up/what is their view now if you're still a minor and living with them? Were they hardcore against drugs, and didn't understand why you'd want to do them? Were they sympathetic and tried to help you out/more relaxed about things, or something in between maybe? If you didn't grow up living with your parents, just substitute your guardian for parent here.

My parents are mostly understanding. Growing up they let me have a drink or two, utilizing the philosophy that it was safer to let me experiment inside the safety of my own house, rather than doing it behind their back. I must say, this was very effective, as I never had the motivation to go sneak out and drink etc. Once I could drive, as long as I was honest, they didn't mind me drinking at a friend's house. The rule was always no driving, and have a place to stay, or call them for a ride if I didn't have a place to stay and was intoxicated. I wound up never really being a drinker though, and very rarely drank, and still don't. They aren't against weed either, and understand the media portrays it wrong, however nobody in my family enjoys smoking weed either. Both of my parents haven't really done any drugs in their lives, but when I had an opiate addiction problem, were VERY understanding. I was living with my dad when I was kicking my opiate addiction, and he was very understanding, and constantly asked if there was anything he could do to help. He allowed me not to work for the months where I was really struggling, which was a huge blessing. I know many people have parents that are like "quit being a baby, get over it," which I think would have created an impossible situation for me. He was very sympathetic to what I was going through, and never once got angry, or judged me for getting myself into that position.

So what was/is your parent's view on drug use, any issues you've had with drugs, etc?
 
Lol
My dad was a Meth and Speed addicted truck driver in the 70s and 80s, and my mom helped him deal "diet pills"
Guess they can't really say much about anything now
 
This is better suited for the Drug Culture forum so I'll send it over there :)


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My parents believe in moderation. My mom told me once that she doesn't mind me taking pills as long as it's like 3, and at night to relax...... instead of 6 or 7 every few hrs.
 
SodaCanIBS48 said:
My parents believe in moderation. My mom told me once that she doesn't mind me taking pills as long as it's like 3, and at night to relax...... instead of 6 or 7 every few hrs.
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Oddly enough, it's like reverse psychology. Many kids who can experiment wind up moderating very well, while those who are watched like a hawk end up in the worst predicament. Many kids are watched so closely and never allowed to do anything, that once they go off to College and such and can get away with it, go absolutely apeshit.
 
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