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Drugs and Family

Some amazing stuff in here

All I want to add is that my parents were very strict about drugs/alcohol so when I started experimenting I had to hide it from them.

My sister is 3 years older than me and was a party girl, but never too into drugs. One night when I was 14 she woke me up at 3am and took me to a party. I didn't drink but had a blast watching everyone go crazy. Seeing how stupid some of the people were acting made me think twice about if I wanted to drink or not. Then another time when I was 16 she came home from college for the weekend and had some friends over. I came upstairs to get something and noticed they were drinking. My sister invited me to hang out and let me drink a responsible amount. I felt so cool. The next morning she told me that I can drink with her, and she knew how strict my parents are, but I could always come to her. We would drink together, responsibly, in the comfort of our home and I really valued those times. She made me feel comfortable so I confided in her, as well as helping me find which drugs to avoid and which ones were ok to try in moderation.
 
comatoserct said:
Some amazing stuff in here

All I want to add is that my parents were very strict about drugs/alcohol so when I started experimenting I had to hide it from them.

My sister is 3 years older than me and was a party girl, but never too into drugs. One night when I was 14 she woke me up at 3am and took me to a party. I didn't drink but had a blast watching everyone go crazy. Seeing how stupid some of the people were acting made me think twice about if I wanted to drink or not. Then another time when I was 16 she came home from college for the weekend and had some friends over. I came upstairs to get something and noticed they were drinking. My sister invited me to hang out and let me drink a responsible amount. I felt so cool. The next morning she told me that I can drink with her, and she knew how strict my parents are, but I could always come to her. We would drink together, responsibly, in the comfort of our home and I really valued those times. She made me feel

comfortable so I confided in her, as well as helping me find which drugs to avoid and which ones were ok to try in moderation.
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That's cool!
 
If my younger sister or older brother were into drugs I'd be more than happy to help them out with getting drugs or hanging out intoxicated with them. However only my oldest brother drinks and he's five years older as well lives across the country from where I currently live
 
Dad, a alcoholic
super silly, but always pissing my mom off. he would come home and strip in the kitchen
and then try to cook something, he was emotional he would cry i'm sorry i'm a drunk,
for give me blah blah and then do it again.

Mom, a coke head, lines only not crack or anything no iv
she thought i didn't know and i didn't for a long time, then i found some a took it,
and she started to spiral out of control after the divorce from dad.
she started dealing and got busted, but she took her time and got clean and now
is a very respectible person.

i was open to use because my parents used.

i may or may not have kids but i don't think i would make drug use to them sound good
i would warn the against it and make the out to be strong leaders, but if the did develop a
problem, i would help and stand by them.

as for using while parenting, i may or may not do this
so it would be unnoticable by the kids. the would never know sneaky sneaky.
 
my parents were 18 at the rise of the hippie movement but my mom never did any drugs and my dad took one puff off a joint and said he didn't like it.

growing up they were completely against drugs and I learned from a young age that lying was the best way to avoid conflict.
and when conflict happened, I would just keep eye contact as they yelled, saying "I understand," "I'm sorry," "yes ma'am/sir"
I never meant it but if I tried to tell them my side of the story, they would just keep yelling

this is a terrible family dynamic and if I ever have children, I would rather them use drugs/alcohol in the comfort of my home. I would let them know that they can confide in me, and as the above poster said, no subject is taboo.

that being said, they found out I was an alcoholic and heroin addict 2 years ago. they both go to families anonymous meetings twice a week and every time I visit them, they search my clothes/backpack for drugs/alcohol.

I can be honest with them now, but if I came to them saying "hey, I have a pretty big heroin habit and need to detox. I know going to a facility is super expensive, so I was wondering if you would let me stay at your place and taper off" they would definitely say no. they would search my bag, take my needles/dope/subs/benzos/etc, and either tell me to gtfo or send me to a detox facility.

If I have kids and they came to me with a question like that I would do everything in my power to support their decision to come to me with the problem, be understanding, and trust they wont steal my things or abuse my facilities while I'm at work.

But knowing I was born with the addict gene, I would raise them to be very wary of the consequences of drug use, as being the child of an addict raises your chances of becoming one yourself very high
 
Weve made some slight changes to the thread, to allow discussion about how our relationship with our families (and not just parental figures) are in relation to drugs.

Bomboclat said:
ITT: talk about family in relation to drugs.

How did your parents deal with your drug use?

How would you deal with your kids drug use?

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:
How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all?

How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?

Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

Also, feel free to just say what's on your mind when it comes to family and drug use.
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How did your parents deal with your drug use?

Mom caught me super stoned a few times, she don't do that and if you do don't come home high. so i did not come home. and just ignored her.

How would you deal with your kids drug use?

I would beat the shit outta them, not let me do it, be exteamly proactive. i don't want them to do the things i've done. i think i would have been alot smarter
if i would never had started using drugs.

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

Its sending the wrong message, kids don't need to see that shit. come on people.

For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:

How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all?

totally swayed my judgement, i don't want them to do any of the drug related things i have done ever ever ever, i want them to have a better life than that. drugs kill
brain cells and make people stupid, and once you start the changes of you controling it are slim to none.

How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?

my siblings are so much younger than me, i kinda feel like a parent to them, same as kids but not as nice,
beat the shit outta them, take them to a crack house, and point see see is that what you want???

Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

I am the oldest, but my parents decision to use when i saw that, i was like hell ya man now i can do it too.
 
ChemicalFeelings said:
How did your parents deal with your drug use?

Mom caught me super stoned a few times, she don't do that and if you do don't come home high. so i did not come home. and just ignored her.

How would you deal with your kids drug use?

I would beat the shit outta them, not let me do it, be exteamly proactive. i don't want them to do the things i've done. i think i would have been alot smarter
if i would never had started using drugs.

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

Its sending the wrong message, kids don't need to see that shit. come on people.

For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:

How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all?

totally swayed my judgement, i don't want them to do any of the drug related things i have done ever ever ever, i want them to have a better life than that. drugs kill
brain cells and make people stupid, and once you start the changes of you controling it are slim to none.

How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?

my siblings are so much younger than me, i kinda feel like a parent to them, same as kids but not as nice,
beat the shit outta them, take them to a crack house, and point see see is that what you want???

Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

I am the oldest, but my parents decision to use when i saw that, i was like hell ya man now i can do it too.
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It sounds like you just have a deep rooted desire to punch all your relatives in the face

*edit decided this was a better way to word it*
 
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How did your parents deal with your drug use?

Oh wow my parents have got no idea whatsoever that I use...I can just imagine that conversation. I mean they'd already probably stop paying for my uni if they learned I smoke so heroin...hahaha

How would you deal with your kids drug use?

Well I don't have any but I don't know. Obviously I'd be really scared for them but I wouldn't necessarily freak out either I think, because (for the moment) I've managed to keep my use under control and not hurt myself too much so I'd like to believe they're just experimenting and doing the same. I'd probably have a talk with them opening up about my own use and explaining why it's therefore important for them to stop, from personal experience etc etc

How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

I think that's awful, irresponsible and they shouldn't be parents. I really think it's messed up and has got a huge potential to mess the kids up forever.
 
1. My parents sent me off to rehab more times than I can count. Then I was put into a sober living several times.

2. I don't have kids, but if I did I'd educate them about drugs, then let them make their own choice about whether or not to use.

3. If some parents want to use when they have kids at home, that's their business.
 
First smoked weed with my cousin... although I took mushrooms once, acid twice, and ecstasy once (in that order) over the course of a semester before that.

My cousin and I used to get stoned together a lot, as well as our grandpa. No one else in the family really smokes though.

However, some BAD drug-family experiences were me eating dinner at the table on my second trip on LSD, which was the weirdest experience: Everyone was acting crazy around me (my dad and younger brother and sister) and my mother was looking at talking about how crazy they were... It was so fucking weird, all I could do was nod as my family was doing some fucking weird shit, like playing with legos ON their food, into their drinks, and then on each other's heads... I was starting to wonder if it was all just a hallucination. I later found out that they all had really bad allergies and had taken extra strength benadryl, but like an idiot, my dad took 3 (150mg), because, in his words, "I took one, and I kept sneezing 10 minutes later, so i took a few more to make the allergies go away faster". My brother and sister took two each, but they were small skinny kids, so they still got a little nuts. Not completely nuts though, cause my mom thought they were just being really playful and silly.
 
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How did your parents deal with your drug use?

It breaks my mother's heart and convinces my dad I am evil. I explain, from a factual standpoint, the effects of these drugs and why I feel safe to use them. However lately I have grown to love my parents enough to abstain from using, as I have watched many a child tear an entire family apart.
How would you deal with your kids drug use?

I will not tolerate drug use until the child is old enough to explain the difference between having fun and medicinal use. Once the child is old enough, he or she will inherit my experiences.
How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?

I have met a lot of parents. I have met a lot of drug using parents. As people become older, hard drugs seem to become "harder" on their minds. The only decent parents of whom I met, that used illegal drugs, were total pot-head musicians (Awesome bunch. Completely high on life from breakfast to dusk.)
For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:

How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all?

Yes. However my use has only provided me with the knowledge of good and evil, while in the past I would have hidden from both and my child could have used without me knowing.
How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?

I have none. I am the baby. I watched a young girl get raised using meth every day. Her older siblings encouraged it. I tried as hard as I could to save her. At this point, harm reduction, drug knowledge and life itself mean nothing. I think anyone who encourages a hard drug addiction to a young family member deserves no less than a slow and painful death.
Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?

No. My curiosity of the unknown brought me here.


Also, feel free to just say what's on your mind when it comes to family and drug use.

It is okay to use drugs to reward life achievements. It is okay to use drugs as tools to cure mental illnesses and conditions. But where do you draw the line? Isn't that the ultimate question? Where the HELL is the line drawn?

Do you watch your sister smoke grams of meth and sell herself to powerful men (Despite having a boyfriend) as you stand a pointless opposition to a helpless cause? Do you watch your brother and father conspire to steal electronics from a store to afford just another smile on their face when they cannot even stop fighting?

Anti-drug? No. Pro-drug? No.
I don't feel a need to dictate how others want to raise their families or live their lives. I want to help people avoid pain. But when a daughter is brought up into drug addiction and knows no different, then dies of an overdose one day at the ripe age of 19, her drug addict parents have no business giving a canned anti-drug speech at her funeral. Especially if they had to shoot up to ease the pain of their daughter's death.
 
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How did your parents deal with your drug use?
My mother accepted me smoking pot after a single conversation, ending her asking my motives and me answering being tired of drinking and causing havok. Later when I started using hard drugs I was already 18, so she didn't have much to say. She still thinks opiates are really, really dangerous whereas stimulants are fine, as they get you up and going. But her being a responsible drug (ab)user she didnt have much to say.


How would you deal with your kids drug use?
Definitely wouldn't accept it until they're +18, as I feel then it's legally their decision. Of course I would, if needed, explain them my view of the situation and discuss with them about their use ( eg. pot casually would be ok by my standards but hell, if they'd be getting into slamming dope I most definitely would take actions.)


How do you feel about parents who use when they have kids at home?
I'd say I'm against it. Hell, I've played with my sisters son while high a few years back when visiting her. But speaking of parents, case is different in my opinion.

For those who arent a parent yet but someday will be:
How has using drugs swayed your judgement as to how you would view your childs use if they were to start using? Or has your use swayed your judgement at all? Answered above, oops.

How would/do you feel about younger siblings drug use?
Im the youngest one. My two sisters don't use drugs. Have experimented in their teenage years but thats the case.
Did your older siblings influence your decision to begin using drugs?
 Not really, they aided me into the world of drinking, though.
 
I don't really plan on having kids, and if I did,I would weight till i have a really long time clean. If I knew they were smoking weed I would set standards for grades, behavior, and work. If those started failing then I would discipline.
 
How Would You Talk To Ur Kids About Drugs?

I currently have two kids, a boy who is 2yrs old(will b 3 July 13 ^.^,and a girl who is 9 months(1 yr old on April 16 ^.^).I know this issue wont come up for a good while,but its one of those talks I know I will have 2 give.So after much thought,these are a few things I would do myself.

1. Explain that natural "drugs" from the Earth are likely to cause less harm than synthetic ones.And explain the consequences of using addictive drugs(though a handful of synthetic ones have their place)

2. Tell them if they ever want to try a drug,ask and I will let them under my strict supervision and guidance(no younger than 14 though),this would b their one pass with that drug and if they were 2 start using it habitually and I find out,their wud b strict and dire consequences(excluding marijuana of course,lol).

3. At the age of 13,allow them to experience a natural psychedelic such as mushrooms under my guidance. I feel that during this age of change that with the proper guide,they cud understand and deal with the change of teenage issues,thereby decreasing the chance of falling to issues that often lead 2 drug use.

How would yall talk 2 ur kids about drugs? Wud u continue the prohibitive rhetoric of current times? Ride the fence on the issue? Or try an approach that is new,liberal,and visionary?

Pariahprose
 
dude 13 is way too young for someone to use psychedelics properly imho, if a kid is especially mature for his age then 16+ is the go in my books

I would neither encourage nor intervene in their drug use, I would educate them with the facts in a gentle manner if I thought they were going astray

most importantly I'd try to teach them moderation and self control before they experiment
 
walk them into a trap, let them see junkies shoot and crackheads smoke rock.
"so who wants to go home?"
 
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