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Advice Does sexual interest drop after 40 or what?

I'm in my early 50's and my libido seems the same as it was 20+ years ago. This is probably too much information, but I masturbated 3 times yesterday.

Maybe I'm not as much of a horndog as when I was a teenager, but since my late 20's it hasn't really changed very much. I think that it depends on your testosterone levels, and everybody's different. Living a healthy lifestyle by doing things like exercising and taking certain supplements (zinc, etc.) helps a lot.
 
Dreamflyer said:
I'm in my early 50's and my libido seems the same as it was 20+ years ago. This is probably too much information, but I masturbated 3 times yesterday.

Maybe I'm not as much of a horndog as when I was a teenager, but since my late 20's it hasn't really changed very much. I think that it depends on your testosterone levels, and everybody's different. Living a healthy lifestyle by doing things like exercising and taking certain supplements (zinc, etc.) helps a lot.
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That's very healthy. Can I ask you if you need stimulation to get going in the form of adult movies
 
MountainTrails said:
Sex-after-60 crowd checking in.

tl;dr: Yes.

Anyway, age happens. You'll find yourself looking in the mirror and wondering at the disconnect between how you feel and what you see. I wish you all grace in dealing with it.

I am fortunate that my wife has aged gracefully, and in many ways she is more beautiful than she was when we met. Is there more gray in her hair every year, can I see the changes in skin? Sure can. She can see those changes in me also.

But we have a history. We've gone through very good and very bad times, we've consoled each other, we've had children and grandchildren, and I see all of that when I see her. My eyes see more deeply than the surface.

She's at the store now; she was in the mood for a salad. We'll have a nice chefs salad and some wine for dinner.

And then, kids, it all shifts. There's a new outfit from intimisa.com she's wanting to model, and I'm wanting to see it. The music will get louder, maybe the UV lights will go on. We're gonna dance, we're gonna get busy, in a way that people who know each other well can. I'm gonna push her buttons ... and I'm gonna hope for the same in response.

We ain't dead. Eyerolling youngsters don't have a clue.
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This almost made me cry. I love this!! I’m so happy for y’all and I hope it just continues to become more then y’all could have ever expected. You appreciate her. I can tell. And I’m sure she does you as well cause it has to be a given from both sides. Thank you for sharing this with us!
 
All the oldest people I know who stayed active told me variation on the same thing -
"it doesn’t happen often as it used to but when it does it’s more special"
 
SpiralusSancti said:
All the oldest people I know who stayed active told me variation on the same thing -
"it doesn’t happen often as it used to but when it does it’s more special"
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Well, I imagine not! I don’t think I could keep up this “sex every single day, often multiple times” schedule that we have now 😜
 
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Just turned 50, grateful for this thread: I've been having the best (quality) sex of my life in recent years due to an awesome partner, but recently my erection has left something to be desired. I attribute this to the fact that I have been taking opiates daily for almost 2 years. If I wait to take my next dose, I might not feel so well but the ol blue vein throbber comes back. It's a trade off. Appreciate the confirmation I got here of what I had already expected. My biggest concern is that my partner never thinks it's her causing the so so erections. I try to abstain from my meds weekly just to show her she's still the most attractive thing in the world to me ;)
 
HumanityIsTheDevil said:
Closing in on 40 and i sure hope so. My relationships always fail, i'm not into hookups and jerking off has gotten boring.
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All of my relationships have failed at some point, but luckily jerking off has NEVER gotten boring to me. Maybe I'm just really good at it! :ROFLMAO:
 
Aaron_Bambi_Baltimore said:
Just turned 50, grateful for this thread: I've been having the best (quality) sex of my life in recent years due to an awesome partner, but recently my erection has left something to be desired. I attribute this to the fact that I have been taking opiates daily for almost 2 years. If I wait to take my next dose, I might not feel so well but the ol blue vein throbber comes back. It's a trade off. Appreciate the confirmation I got here of what I had already expected. My biggest concern is that my partner never thinks it's her causing the so so erections. I try to abstain from my meds weekly just to show her she's still the most attractive thing in the world to me ;)
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Opioids are the one thing that can totally kill my sex drive and/or ability to perform. I've had better sex dead-drunk than I've had on painkillers. That's most likely the cause, and I would reassure your awesome partner that it has nothing to do with her.

Happy Humping!
Dreamflyer
 
I'm 43 and I haven't noticed my libido change at all although my energy level like easy tasks walking up flights of stairs tires me..
 
Markomarkh said:
Hi all,

I’ve noticed my sexual urges have dropped in recent years at 40 or over, when I jerk off it doesn’t feel good as it used too, feels weak and is no more exciting than a rich tea biscuit. I find women not that attractive anymore and modern porn is all the same and nothing new anymore, is it that I’m getting old now and I’ve worn my penis out and got Erectile dysfunction now? But if I got a real woman now I wouldn’t really perform. Have you over 40 guys noticed this or is it just me?

Mark
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i will be 40 in a month and i went on an ssri for depression which put a much bigger hurt then i expected and it finally returned and at very high level for a couple weeks
ive noticed around 35 or so i have longer periods of disinterest and lower frequency when im wanting to get off
The intensity hasnt took a noticable hit and could even say ive had more toe curls in recent years. Ive seen some decline though for sure.
 
No. But it becomes less important or you get so busy with life you focus on other things.

Maybe I am just super horny? Or it is because I was depressed as a teen and in my early 20s? I am in grief now, but not majorly depressed or having other issues that go with depression.

I have only known one person who had a sex drive higher than me, but he is 21 years older than me, manic, we dated, and he wanted sex all the time when in mania/psychosis and I need my sleep. Yes we had safe sex together and I made him my bitch sexually as a submissive.
 
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