staregiver
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and if you don't tell him your job do you tell him it later? but will he breakup with you because you lied? thanks for replying if you did
only my employer knows my job so i've had no practice telling it to people, so i was too scared to tell him each time i tried.Um why wouldn't you bring it up when you first meet?
i don't know how to say it without it sounding low - but its only for one client and it pays really well so i can't leave it. but i really want a steady bf and a husband.Where do you work and why is it bad?
my client has a busy job and long office hours so i have free time to have a life stillSo you're kept? Yeah I wouldn't tell either. Not really acceptable when in a relationship with someone. Doesn't that break the rules of your "job?" Part of the job is to be exclusive with employer isn't it? Maybe I am thinking the wrong thing!
just to be available when we get the call, and he either asks us to do tasks with each other or with him. some days he's at work a lot anyway but we are still paid the same amount no matter what, so i can still have time for a bfSo what is it that you actually do?
yes but its not like bed, its like watching tv with him or in the pool lounge or tub or shower and random things happening during all those places. its a lot of money and i can buy anything i want even a car, its so hard to refuse this jobSo do you have sex with your client? If yes thats not fair to the new boyfriend. Just bc you get paid doesn't mean its not cheating. Think how devastating that would be for someone. Finding out the woman you married is some guy's whore? That would be such a betrayal and so emasculating for your boyfriend/husband. A lot of men don't share! You might find a man that likes the money and is able to get past it, but you should atleast be truthful. You must be ashamed If u want to keep it secret. How about looking for a new job?
thanks, its an interesting insightHonestly, if I were a guy a wouldn't date you. I don't believe in sharing and am not materialistic. I would rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable! Some people are materialistic and wont mind, especially if you foot all the bills. A lot of men out there are also looking for a free ride! So it depends on what type if guy you are going for I guess.
he might be susspicious anyway, i came straight from work and he was kissing me privately and my knicks were not on so i'm not sure what he must think. but some people don't wear them anyway so its ok i guess and it helped us be more intimate. so maybe we are so close now he might be ok with my secret!Hm, yeah, it's tough to tell the truth so I feel your pain; however, it's not fair to your bf. How would you feel if you knew that he was secretly getting paid to have sex with other people? If he truely loves you, he would accept you for you... however, that's really tough to do. You don't want to quit so you'll need to find a guy who would accept you for you, your job and all. & it might not be this guy. Up to you whether or not to tell him, but it's kind of wrong to keep it a secret...
i wish i was normal and free. i guess i could say i'm not an exclusive. i wish i never got this job kind of. its really unlucky/lucky the way i got it too, i almost got a reduction surgery and i wimped out of it and then met HIM literally the day after. so weird.It doesn't sound like you are available, at least not for a normal relationship. If I were the bf, I'd be jealous. Maybe it is better to explain it as being in a troubled marriage. That way he knows you have another commitment, but you won't have to get into details.
thanks i think i'll tell him thenJust tell him. I slept with a girl, then she told me she used to be an escort. I had no qualms about her having done that. I did take issue with her being a dishonest person when she started trying use me.
I think he'd dig that. This girl showed me a photo of her and a girl she used to have a lesbian relationship with through her work. It was hot thinking about them doing stuff. In retrospect, I should've asked if she could join us.thanks i think i'll tell him thenand first i'm gonna ask my boss to only do lesbian stuff.
its really eassy, even showering or sunblock lotioning is lesbian to himI think he'd dig that. This girl showed me a photo of her and a girl she used to have a lesbian relationship with through her work. It was hot thinking about them doing stuff. In retrospect, I should've asked if she could join us.