All your posts in this thread have been spot on. Especially the one about women knowingg what/who the guy is and trying to change and mould him. So many women do this and i've already lost 3 friends due to this. My best mate's last girl actually did it the opposite way around and after 8 months, she left him penniless with a new addiction to tobacco, drinking more and taking stimulants conastantly (which he never did before). The point being: Women, dont try and change a man!
But back on topic, at the tender age of 20, I am more fascinated by what the "old timers" have to say on this topic than anyone else, regardless of neurological science. Anecdotal evidence speaks volumes for me. Personal, real experience. And I am of the science/fact-based persuasion usually, with an interest in cognitive function, neuropharmacodynamics and suchlikes but in this instant, I prefer to hear stories like yours.
I smoked daily from 13/14 until 19. The days I would have off it were fucking unreal, but its hard to tell if i coped so badly because i was young and immature. But really, it was only boredom that got me, but that isn't to say it's a minor quality to w/d's, because it leaves ytou thinking that nothing is worth it unless you take x substance.
I have recently swapped an opiate/kratom addiction with cannabis after a year long break off puff. I can safely say I am happier being 'addicted' to cannabis and as long as I can remain busy when I run out (not hard) then everything is hunkey dorey. It's subjective, really. Personal experience. Some may suffer acute w/d's, but me personally, its just about otherwise occupying yourself and making yourself believe that life isn't better whilst high.