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Do you ever worry about offending people?

reb38

reb38

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Long story short, I was at a backyard bbq and sitting next to me is someone who is very skinny almost medically underweight. It doesn't matter whatsoever to me. But I think he saw me glance at his plate as if I'm judging him about how much he eats. I was just kinda scanning and ended up on his plate. I'm not worried whatsoever about this guy. Not my business but to me looks like I'm judging him and how underweight he may be. My dx is schizoaffective disorder fwiw.
 
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Not often. I kind of do if I'm somewhere with people I don't know well and some topic comes up where I know my opinion probably won't be agreed with, so I just don't mention it, not because I'm worried about offending someone but because I don't want to deal with someone getting offended and demanding I apologize for having an opinion/view, when I'm not going to apologize
 
reb38 said:
Long story short, I was at a backyard bbq and sitting next to me is someone who is very skinny almost medically underweight. It doesn't matter whatsoever to me. But I think he saw me glance at his plate as if I'm judging him about how much he eats. I was just kinda scanning and ended up on his plate. I'm not worried whatsoever about this guy. Not my business but to me looks like I'm judging him and how underweight he may be.
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Bro you're overthinking this.

Personally in the same situation I WOULD be judging him as I'm obsessed with food, fine cuisine, fitness, obesity, aesthetic appearance, etc

I couldn't give a single fuck if anybody thinks I'm judging them.

Only an insecure individual may think "oh he's looking at my food and thinks I'm fat/obese/skinny/hungry, etc , etc

If people actually say to me "bro I see you looking at my plate and I know it's unhealthy but today's a cheat day"

I'd reply saying do whatever the fuck you wanna do and don't be concerned about my judgements unless of course your a significant person in my life and given my level of care for you I'd rather not see you devour an entire plate of fried chicken wings but perhaps eat a lean steak and some vegetables instead.

So ya get me?

Nobody gives a flying fuck and if they do I personally couldn't give a fuck.

I'm thinking your a nice open accepting kinda guy who doesnt wanna cause hurt or offense to anybody which I deem admirable.

Your kinda soft for this world but dont lose that part of yourself.

If everybody was like you there'd be no wars ;)
 
Often times yes, but only after I've already said it. It's also situational. I have no problem offending certain people. I also dislike people who are easily offended.

I have some contradictory thought processes.
 
Electrum1 said:
Not often. I kind of do if I'm somewhere with people I don't know well and some topic comes up where I know my opinion probably won't be agreed with, so I just don't mention it, not because I'm worried about offending someone but because I don't want to deal with someone getting offended and demanding I apologize for having an opinion/view, when I'm not going to apologize
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Where is the fun in that? I believe in speaking my mind, and that always used too( before I was sick) make things interesting. Demanding an apology, when did rednecks get offended and demand an apology?🤣
 
Jnowhere said:
Where is the fun in that? I believe in speaking my mind, and that always used too( before I was sick) make things interesting. Demanding an apology, when did rednecks get offended and demand an apology?🤣
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It's only with people I don't know well in groups. Just a waste of time to have to deal with someone getting offended, and changing the hangout vibe when I refuse to apologize. Easier to just avoid
 
Quasimoto said:
Often times yes, but only after I've already said it. It's also situational. I have no problem offending certain people. I also dislike people who are easily offended.

I have some contradictory thought processes.
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No, not you. Say it ain't so.
 
Hey were are getting off topic, whatever it was.
Anyways Electrum 1 did your liver enzymes come back ok, seriously bro.
 
We live in such a highly polarised and politicised time where you will offend people, whether you feel like you risk it or not.

If my well intentioned or genuine statement offends someone, I cannot invest the energy to care nor do I think coddling people from offence in situations where none was meant is good for anyone.
 
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