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Do people perceive you the way you actually are?

I think it's cool how my first perception of someone differs from how I view them after I get to know them. It shows you how your first assumptions really can be wrong. You can't help but size someone up when you first see/talk to them. It's human nature. That's what makes getting to know people so much fun. They are often nothing like what they portray on the outside.
 
I like to think that people see me for who I really am at first glance, because that is the way I try to portray myself. i.e. I'm genuine and I don't try to be anyone else but myself.
 
n3ophy7e said:
I like to think that people see me for who I really am at first glance, because that is the way I try to portray myself. i.e. I'm genuine and I don't try to be anyone else but myself.
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Who else would you be?

That strikes me as odd. Even disingenuous people are being themselves.

:)

I like that you do not seem jaded. I wish I could go back to that time in my life.
 
Noodle said:
Even disingenuous people are being themselves.
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I disagree :)

And yes, I am not jaded at all. I don't think I ever will be? I hope not anyway. I am endlessly inqusitive and positive by nature so if I ever become jaded that will be a sad and strange day! :D
 
n3ophy7e said:
I like to think that people see me for who I really am at first glance, because that is the way I try to portray myself. i.e. I'm genuine and I don't try to be anyone else but myself.
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I totally understand what you mean n3o. :):) And yes...you are one of the most sincere, genuine people here on this board! (another one would be the awesome Xenocat...haha dunno why I just thought of both of you just right at this moment) <3<3
 
Awww thanks lovely one!! <3

I agree, xenokitty is a gorgeous, genuine, super cool chick who deserves much respect %) <3
 
Ahhh true. I'm thinking of less extreme cases, say for example the fake bitch who acts a certain way in front of the executives in the office and a completely different way with her friends, and then a completely different way again around cute boys etc etc.

Sorry that wasn't very articulate, I haven't had any coffee yet :| :D
 
Sometimes people take my (light-hearted=D)smartassness too personal when I just like trying to make people laugh, therefore thinking I'm mean-spirited. Especially on BL when it's hard to read someone's attitude/mood from written words, even with the little emoticons LOL

Then again, maybe I'm just not that funny:\ I've thought about that too:p:p

Oh and someone mentioned the whole jock stereotype. Not everyone who works out is completely self-absorded and vain! I've met quite a few people who figure that I'm into fitness and whatnot, and automatically think I'm just sitting around looking at myself in a mirror 5 hours a day.:X
 
Then again, maybe I'm just not that funny
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It might take a while for those of us that do not understand your humor to catch on. Or you may be right.

:)

I can think of a few Bluelighters that should probably try to keep themselves busy in the more serious forums, as their idea of humor is alien to me.

Benefit is not one of those people. Although a little too much Benefit tastes a bit like a not so fresh lemon.
 
People's perception of you can only be drawn from the the image that you show them.

You may not intentionally be untrue, but we adapt to our environments and among different company different parts of your personality will shine through; where others are suppressed, consciously or not.

Different friends of mine have different perceptions of me, nearly all of them are true.
 
How well do you know yourself? personality is completely malleable, quite judgemental to assume you "know some one" at all in my opinion honestly...everyone does it though haha
 
For the most part, people have no idea who I am. But I like it more this way. In answer to the question, no.
 
I'd have to say yes and no. People who see me at my worst think of me as bad. People who see me at my... well... I wouldn't say best... because I admit that rarely comes out... but some people seem to see me as very good.

Nobody seems to see me as both of these... as an embodiment of seemingly dark and light at constant struggle with each other...

I'm too burnt out these days to really care anymore...
 
I'm not sure how much I perceive me as I am. I'm sure others get some glimpses of my essential nature that I'd rather they didn't. Everybody's view of everybody is a bit incomplete. A lot of people regard themselves and certain others as incapable of treachery or cruelty. Reality is that a lot of good people possess their goodness by having had and continuing to have a good life.

There are so many ways I haven't had my character tested, and I really don't want my character tested. Anyways I think every human just about could be as great as the greatest or as horrible as the most horrible if circumstances were different. We are all known within a social context in a particular state. We get glimpses of self and each other. The glimpses are all probably true enough but change things around a person profoundly enough for long enough and we will be glimpsing something very different.
 
Its hard to tell because even when we try to interpret others feelings or perceptions of yourself, you are looking through skewed goggles. You mind is filled with barriers that can alter or miss read what is actually taking place in front of you. Not to mention interaction with people can always be potentially superficial.

Also, the way you project yourself can potentially range for your interactions (maybe some of you act the same no matter where, but I act differently at work, school, and around different friends with varying interests and personalities).
 
capital said:
^^mydoorsareopen, yeah I guess it can be a good thing.

Also I have pretty bad social phobia. When I don't have my klonopin and I talk to someone I don't know, I always feel like I come off as a really pissed off asshole, when I'm just really shy.
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woah. i have that exact same thing. i dont know what to do about it. its like a mask that i cant take off. i find that running, eating healthy and fighting help immensely with social phobia.
 
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