No, most definately NOT!
Each person expresses themselves throught their various levels, and also interacts and responds to a particular person from a different part of their personalities, which we call upon at will. What that particular person sees, is only part of that portion of a personality which we have many. We simly call upon that part, because that is what is required at that particular time.
People then judge you, as if that part of you is the whole of you. Totally wrong!
Various people, pull out different aspects of ouselves. The saying "She brings the best in me" goes on this!
If we are next to an agresssive judgemental individual, we pull a different aspect of ourselves to deal with such an individual. That is not who we are in our entirety. Yet that part of ourselves may get stashed away and not be used for a long time, until such situation reoccurs and yet, in another similar situation, we might choose to bring a different part of our personailty with a different character. So I will say that NO people do not have the capacity to know you as you are-wholistically.
Then you have the people who have not met you before, yet they dump their unconscious material onto you, and believe that it is who you are, all while it is them they are looking at, and use you as a mirror, because they have no information about you.
People wear colored glasses and see you according to their experiences, which are limited, and don't have the capacity to see you outside of that limitation due to that reason. Would you know what you are looking at is a tree, if you had no previous experience of what a tree looks like or does or behaves like? NO!
Also people look with generalities. You acted in a specific way at some stage, next time something similar occurs, they place their perception on the same idea. They like to know what they are seeing with some familiarity, since that gives them a sense of control. The unknown is unfamiliar and the mind wants to know and to make conclusions, though those conclusions have nothing to do with the present reality. We are different each moment, and each moment is different, yet people like to place others in characterization boxes where they feel they know and familiarize and feel safe.
Generalities, past experiences, ways we are able to deal with situations, all out of stereotypical behavior-projectrions-idealizations, our need to admire or hate or inability to empathize or understand others, differences in culture or background, different use of phrases or words to express ourselves, and thousand of other reasons, bring unfamiliarity and misconceptions and misunderstandings.
In the few moments we have, the brain likes to automatically make up some sort of conclusion. this has nothing to do with who the person we think we know actually is.
it takes a long time to know someone and a lot of intimate interactions over the years to come to some understanding=especially if that person is unique, especially if that person is deep and especially if that person has had far too many experiences in life, that does not even match ours to know where the are coming from. Their experiences may be very diverse and unlike ours, so there is no way we know them or are we in a position to do so from where we have been.
I will leave this here, for I could go on and on, how we cannot know someone, and their unique skills. Some people have an amazing uncanny quality and tools to understand others and where they are coming from, yet it does not display easily on the surface, and people like to characterize them by their stereotypic and limited ways-so they never get to know them, for they make up their minds too quickly-as to who the person may or may not be-which amounts to nothing!
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