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Deleting Me Off This and That

Girls have broken up with me before and I've remained cool with them afterwards (one girl in particular, who I was a casual friend/acquaintance, then a sexual partner, then back to casual friend acquaintance again). So there's definitely a "right way" to do it, I think...just be resolute in your intentions but be respectful and straight-up with the other individual. And, if you're on the receiving end of the break up, respect the other person's decision & move on, find someone new...freedom of association is a great thing but it's also painful sometimes.

Wrong way to break up? Hysterics, drama, acting like you're in junior high school instead of acting like a grown-ass adult.
 
My Boyfriend is needy, clingy, and insecure as well as sensitive so he isn't a pretty picture either. But I too have my flaws ans we just have to accept them if we want to be with that person and thats what I am doing.
 
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mikumiku said:
For those of you who DO NOT live with your partner, but you are in a relationship, engagement or marriage, and yes there are some couples who are married and not living together, how much do you and your partner talk? Do you guys talk everyday, or even other day, or once a week, etc. I always thought it would have been nice if my partner, when waking up in the morning, send me a text, saying "Good morning sweetie, hope you have a great day!" or something along those lines, like ya know put me first, showing me that they were thinking of me as soon as they got up etc.

What do you think of people and their partners doing little things like this everyday?
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We lived apart for a few years and often have to travel without each other so I know the feeling of waking up alone. We try to speak or be in contact on a daily basis and I can't remember the last time we were apart and we didn't speak, video chat or at least txt on a daily basis.

I have said this a few time but - if you are apart for a long time, try not to use SKYPE etc as a phone call. Don't just log on and talk about the highlights of your days - log on when you doing nothing, or when your getting ready to go out or when your chilling watching TV etc. (we have been in different countries and sat down to watch the football together :D).
 
When we lived 1200km away from each other we would call as soon as we woke up, at lunch and the fall asleep while skying

We have lived together for 8 years now and we phone everyday during out lunch breaks and usually always fall asleep holding hands
 
Bearlove said:
We lived apart for a few years and often have to travel without each other so I know the feeling of waking up alone. We try to speak or be in contact on a daily basis and I can't remember the last time we were apart and we didn't speak, video chat or at least txt on a daily basis.

I have said this a few time but - if you are apart for a long time, try not to use SKYPE etc as a phone call. Don't just log on and talk about the highlights of your days - log on when you doing nothing, or when your getting ready to go out or when your chilling watching TV etc. (we have been in different countries and sat down to watch the football together :D).
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Him and I have tried watching TV programs or movies over Skype but it doesn't work really. Him and I do talk everyday which is nice, but lately we haven't had much to really talk about. OR he does want to talk to me about a certain topic but knows it won't interest me so he rather not bring it up.
 
One Thousand Words said:
When we lived 1200km away from each other we would call as soon as we woke up, at lunch and the fall asleep while skying

We have lived together for 8 years now and we phone everyday during out lunch breaks and usually always fall asleep holding hands
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Ha nice. I wish I had something like that with my Boyfriend.
 
One Thousand Words said:
When we lived 1200km away from each other we would call as soon as we woke up, at lunch and the fall asleep while skying

We have lived together for 8 years now and we phone everyday during out lunch breaks and usually always fall asleep holding hands
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Skype gets a work out from us.

When we're apart, like we have been on opposite sides of the world for 8 months, we would always find a way to talk. When we were not in an active couple relationship, our "off periods", and we were hating on one another, we would still talk or send each other a message each day - sometimes it was a "fuck you", but we would still talk.

It feels strange to have a day where we have not spoken, I think for both of us. When I haven't spoken to her all day, which had always been a hard thing for me to do, especially now, I would oftentimes get a sad face.

When we have been doing our own thing, and even out with other people, we would still be talking to one another. I had been on a date (every one of these dates when we had been in an "off period" I regret, mind you) and still wanted to talk to her, and I think she had been doing the same thing for me.

I think when you have found the right person, it will feel wrong to not be talking to one another, while still knowing you can get by with your day without needing to know what the other person is doing at all times.
 
One Thousand Words said:
When we lived 1200km away from each other we would call as soon as we woke up, at lunch and the fall asleep while skying

We have lived together for 8 years now and we phone everyday during out lunch breaks and usually always fall asleep holding hands
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Well it's plainly obvious he's not committed to this err 'relationship' as you are. Funnily enough my instincts immediately had concurred with what I later read in Vagina Lovers post. Hmmm funny that.
 
I like to be the fly in the ointment. I've never ended a relationship myself. when I wanted out I just kinda piss them off. drink too much, be a flirty fuck, anything so they dump you. everyone is happy that way.
 
Haha I relate to that so much! When you really want out, you become very self-destructive and make them push you away. There's still a shitty way for the other person to break up with you: as mentioned, text.
 
mikumiku said:
Him and I got together, talked things over and are going to try it again. Wish us luck!
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Good luck; but based on your other threads and the long text/IM conversation you posted don't be surprised if it doesn't work out, or if you break up for good this time as you both seem to fight a lot and one or both of you will move on?
 
mikumiku said:
My Boyfriend and I, who have been on a break since March 9th through March 25th of next week, haven't talked at all. He's posted on and off his feelings online, and did text me once but I did not reply to it. Then I started seeing things to happen, he deleted me from Skype messenger, and then deleted the photos of me, and the photos of him and I on his Facebook page. It still says we are friends on Facebook as well as it saying we are in a relationship. But he's already deleted these things, what if he continues to jump the gun, and do more, when him and I aren't breaking up, and we are going to talk again and make things work, but yet he is doing this, what to do?
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You are taking a two week break, not communicating with him - ofc he thinks it's over, what the fuck do you expect? If you both cant get your shit together, TOGETHER... if I were him, that would tell me you arent ready for a relationship, or that I am fucking up, or things are so wrong a break is just a prelude to a break up.

Not busting your chops here, it comes from personal experience; my last gf and I were together for four years. The last year was TOXIC. Well, I wound up going to jail for 3 months and realized just how toxic it was when I realized that I WAS HAPPIER IN JAIL than with her. Despite that, I continued to try to make it work, but a week after I got home, she threatened to move out again. This time, I called her on it and threw her out.

Move on, this relationship is done.
 
You don't here from someone for a day and you freak.

Dude seemed fucked up mentally, intoxicated, or is just a prick.

There is really no context here to give solid advice. If someone treats you like shit, well I consider that a liability. I would chillax and just wait. If your money is invested in tickets handle that and get your shit in order.

I have no problem cutting someone loose. I dunno why people get so bent out of shape and worry. Just see what he does, I don't like to talk relationship stuff via text and really hate using a phone to discuss serious matters. Sadly phones have become a neccessary evil.

Anyways just go fucking speak to him in person like an adult.
 
Him and I did talk things through, but the same things keep happening. Not sure what to do.
 
This relationship is not done, him and I are just dealing with a lot of issues. He wants me to focus on me, and for me to love myself before I can love someone else. But I do love myself and I am fine and so is he. We just need to work on our communication.
 
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