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Deleting Me Off This and That

mikumiku said:
But I need to know if him and I are alright, and I want to be sure he's alright but yet he keeps refusing to talk to me. Here's an update on our chat

From that point, I called him yesturday and he unblocked me from the phone but wouldn't accept my calls or video calls, so I made a 2 minute video, crying and asking to talk to him and how sorry I was etc. He didn't talk to me until hours later through Facebook by telling me "We've been together for more than a year and nothing has changed I do love you vary much.".


I replied by saying "I love you" and then asked him "When can we talk on the phone again?" No reply. And he won't re-add me on Skype messenger either.

I tried calling him on the phone but he still has me on blocked. Our chat continued on Facebook briefly though,


Natalie: Can you please talk to me like the way we use to talk, I am calling this break off. I want to talk to you like before, I really miss and love you so much and want us to talk to each other again. Please.


Brian: I think I got food poisoning


Natalie: I am sorry, I still want us to talk


Natalie: Brian please, what do I have to do to get you to talk to me, I will do anything


Natalie: I know I hurt you by doing this break, I am sorry and feel hurt and pain too. I want to make things better and want things to go back to the way they were or for us to just have a fresj start. I just want to talk to you again. Please give me another chance and forgive me. I love you so much and care for you as well. I want us to be happy please let me back into your life.


Natalie: You don't have to be afraid of me. I am better now, I am going to start going to see a new therapist real soon, as well as going to group therarpy and get anger management, take meditation or yoga classes, exercise, really make myself a better person and treat you better. I am a whole new person and love and care for you so much and want you to let me talk to you again.


Natalie Perez: Everything that you want and need is what matters to me. We will do whatever you want from here on out. You don't have to worry about me and my wants and needs. I want to focus on you and want whats best for you and what makes you happy. What do you say?


Brian: After you go to your therapist


Natalie: Why?


Natalie: Can't I talk to you for 5 minutes? I want to make sure your ok and we are ok, please.


Natalie: Brian, your really hurting me more by not wanting to talk to me. Please let me be happy and talk to you. I really need this right now. Its all I want, please I love you and care for you, I am begging you. Please.


Natalie: I can't go to therapy without getting to talk to you first. Not talking to you is killing me inside and hurting me so much. Please let me talk to you.


He has not replied. I am really stressing out here and I hate that he is treating me like this. I want us to talk again and yet he won't do that.
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Good god that was cringe worthy.
 
Be sure that you have addressed the problems in length and that you have done what you can to 'fix' the problems (makes it easier on you knowing that you tried to save the relationship).

After you have broken up, do not start digging up all the old stuff that has led to this decision (you have tried this before) talking about old problems your partner will more than likely promise to fix them now (they probably wont). Tell them that it is over, that you no longer want to be with them and your not going back.

I know that circumstances don't always allow a clean break but try and be civil and get any legal matters sorted as quickly as possible (will be cheaper for everyone in the long run). If you have children do not use them as a pawn, or to hurt the other parent and remember that both of you should have equal rights and that a visitation is not an excuse for you to use for your own advantage.

Do it when both (or all) parties are sober, do it face to face and try not to let things get too heated. If thing spiral out of control, leave and give it a few days to calm down and then suggest meeting up again to discuss things with clear heads.
 
This is sad and terribly unhealthy. Almost as bad as the chick who only wants to wear what the bf wants her to wear. "Doesn't want to talk to me until Fri" means "leave me alone ffs so I'll tell you Friday so I can have some peace." Not looking too promising.

Time to accept that it's done and focus on you for a while. You'll be surprised what you can do when you focus on you even during bad heartbreak or something bad happening. Turn the negative energy into something positive.
 
Going off of your other thread, if you think it should be in person just so you can see that person again, bad idea.

I think phone is fine. Text is terrible. If it's in person and a total blind side, mannn that would suck. lol But I suppose you know it's coming or you know you're going to do it at some point.

Someone always gets hurt in the process. You just have to hope it isn't you! Breakups seem to never happen as planned though.

As terrible as it feels, time does heal and you'll move on sooner or later.
 
jammin83 said:
Sounds like a slow death to me.
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Aw, :/ Well, I don't think so. And I mean, it was sad, but controlled. The situation didn't get out of hand. All my exes talked good about me, and so have I, so I believe this method to be pretty effective.
 
TEXT IS THE WORST! I had a guy break up with me that way before. So basically that told me all our years together was over with a text. Like it meant nothing. He was a pussy too because when I tried to call him to break up properly, he didn't answer. But texted instead. Everyone deserves better than that. I just want to forget his bitch ass every existed. I've been single for 8 months and dated since then. I'm not trying to find anyone else anymore. Not worth it.
 
Did he break up with me?

This past Wednesday evening was the last time I heard from my Boyfriend, him and I had another chat on Facebook only, which went as follows;

Brian: How are you


Natalie: I am alright, been thinking about cutting and coloring my hair but the price is going to be high if I go to the right punk rock places lol


Brian: Lol you will look hot. What style


Natalie PHOTO SENT


Brian: Are we going to warp tour? I looking at gettin tykets soon


Natalie: Brian you tell me, you aren't even talking to much really, so again we really need to talk about this relationship once and for all and I want us to do it in person.


Brian: So no to warp tour?


Natalie: Brian can you take this relationship seriously PLEASE


Brian: I like to see the same. Show me your serious


Brian: Any ways escape the fate is coming up


Brian: I need a serious answer are you going to scape the fate with me otherwise I need to sell my tickets


Natalie: Sure let's go

He did not talk to me AT ALL YESTURDAY THURSDAY. And it's now FRIDAY, the day the break is over with, and the day of the concert, I agreed to go with him too. But it's going on 12PM and no word from him at all, my parents are thinking MAYBE he broke up with me, and by ignoring me like this, its his way of saying we are done? But the thing is I don't know if that really is the case or not. He told me about this concert happening tonight, and that we were going to go, and I need to know is he showing up or talking to me or whats up. I really don't want to just break up without telling him but then again I do not know what to think right now.

What do you think?
 
Why are you putting yourself through all this pain?
For god sake, dump the guy and move on!
 
He has a drug problem and is busy out scoring drugs for the concert but can't find any. He doesn't want to tell you in case you look down on him for it.

In reality he cares about you a lot, but he has been spending increasing amounts of time lately scoring drugs to feed his habit.

Unfortunately, as he dips further into addiction, the time he gets to spend feeling the confidence to speak with you is diminishing.

That's my guess.
 
Vagina Lover said:
He has a drug problem and is busy out scoring drugs for the concert but can't find any. He doesn't want to tell you in case you look down on him for it.

In reality he cares about you a lot, but he has been spending increasing amounts of time lately scoring drugs to feed his habit.

Unfortunately, as he dips further into addiction, the time he gets to spend feeling the confidence to speak with you is diminishing.

That's my guess.
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He is NOT a druggie, drug dealer, or smokes or drinks. He probably got busy and can't bring himself to tell me he can't go.
 
wow, isn't this that dude who had no interest in contacting you cos you fight too much and his friends wouldn't pass on messages?

just move on
 
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