• The Dark Side 💕 Welcome Guest 💕
    Posting Rules Bluelight Rules
    Notable Threads Urgent Hotlines
    Bereavement Mindfulness
    Suicide Support Anger Management
  • TDS Moderators: AlphaMethylPhenyl | paranoid android

Cutting v. 2

Status
Not open for further replies.
yeah, some one who cuts themselves need IMHO to be hospitalized to prevent them from hurting themselvs and their family further.

some one IMHO who wants a sex change needs sometime to think, a visit to a psych, and then to be who they feel they are.
 
Aldousage, I'm trying hard not to be offended, you seem to be saying that people who cut themselves are doing it to project some kind of image, that they are purely thinking about other people, doing it for other people's reaction.

In genuine self harm cases (which are most i would think) this is SO far wrong. And I know you say you are trying not to offend, but it is offensive. You seem to be ignoring the reasons within the person as to why they might harm themselves- Self hatred, severe depression, mania, etc etc. All genuine and debilitating experiences.
For myself, in reaction to a new medication, I was thrown into such a searing, black hatred of myself that I had to hurt this thing I so hated. It was a combination of the action of hurting this unbearably horrid thing (me), and feeling that electric pain. Cutting was just one way of harming myself, unfortunately it's the only one I can't hide/heal. Afterwards I covered up, and there's only one person who I've actually told.
 
Cutting is an addiction (in some and my case) to the chemicals released in the brain after the body has had an injury to dull pain and sometimes cause fight or flight response. People abuse painkillers or stimulants, which could be a similar feeling. People abuse drugs sometimes of deal with emotional issues, same can be true for cutters. As for the idea that cutters want attention, yes it can be a cry for help in some, but this general idea is usually held by those who do not cut. Many cutters go to great lengths to hide it. They often fear that they will be told that they are strange or crazy or otherwise "punished" for it. They will cover, and lie about cuts and scars often unless they are in a accepting enviornment such as this or with someone they trust to understand and not pass judgement on them.
 
Aldousage said:
Please understand that I refer to it as a fad because twenty years ago, cutting was practically unheard of. The main reason people are doing it is because they hear about other people doing it.
Click to expand...

Cutting, and other forms of self-injury, has been recognised as a feature of a number of different psychiatric disorders (as well as trauma and abuse) for quite a long time now. Certainly longer than the last 20 years.

I don't doubt that there are people out there who are attracted to the 'tortured soul' persona, but that's not really who this thread is aimed at.....
 
zombiesarepeaceful said:
That comparison to transsexuals really burns.
Cutting and having sex reassignment surgery have nothing to do with eachother.
Click to expand...
The comparison that I made was about my coming to the realization that I need to accept that I have little standing on which to have an opinion about what others do with their bodies. I am sorry to have offended.

Really, there is a relationship in that I need to shut up and listen before expressing opinions of what people have to do or shouldn't do. Please note that the opinion I had about sexual reassignment surgery was past tense.

Getting back to cutters, I have come to see it as a deeply personal matter that I need to stay out of unless directly asked for help. If it ever occurs that I am aware of cutting that has become life threatening I may have to reconsider, but I don't think most cutters ever get to that level.
 
No offense taken. As a transgendered cutter, I had to say something.

And you'd be surprised how far it can go. I thought I'd never need help but before I knew it I'd been in the ER 3 times for stitches, infections. The more you do it you have to go further and further to achieve that same release that just a scratch gave you before..thank god I quit. I still have urges to cut but my tattoos are an incentive not to.
 
zombiesarepeaceful said:
I still have urges to cut but my tattoos are an incentive not to.
Click to expand...
That's really really cool ZRP. I want to get tattoos over all my scars one day :)

I already got this one a few years ago over the stars I cut into my foot when I was about 12:
Photo04003.jpg
 
I have thought of covering up old scars with tattoos myself, but I heard tattooing over scar tissue is more difficult and painful and sometimes the skin won't accept the colour pigment. What's your experience n3ophy7e? Or anyone else who's had it done? I love the star tattoos!
 
HPIM0790.jpg


I had ^this^ tattoo done over some scars on my upper arm. The ink took and healed well, looks great. You just have to go to an artist who has experience with scars, who can judge if the scar is progressed enough to bother inking over, cause if its in a certain stage of healing, the ink won't hold or something like that. It didn't hurt more than the rest of the tattoo. Both my arms are scarred up and down and I plan on getting them tattooed over as well.
 
Alice in floodland said:
What's your experience n3ophy7e? Or anyone else who's had it done? I love the star tattoos!
Click to expand...
Thanks! I love it too :)
Since the scars were so old (about 10 years old) and the cuts were thin to begin with, it wasn't too much of an issue to tattoo over them. There are parts of the tatt where the colour isn't as good as it should be but hey, like DW said, you can't tell they used to be scars!

zombiesarepeaceful said:
HPIM0790.jpg
Click to expand...
That looks great ZAP! Good job.
 
Last edited:
well...

its a cool tat.

and a bit different then open wounds, stitches, fresh scares, or even older ones. i really had to look to notice in those pics.

i just dont want any trigger pix or some people feeling the need to show off. not that any of our regs would but just in case.

Life Love & Laughter

Edit: !
 
I sometimes cut my genitals because I'm ashamed of my sexuality and don't want myself to be sexually appealing to others with whom I might have a relationship with. Is this common? Do I need to seek professional help?
 
^im no expert on cutting (any part of ur body) but if ur ashamed of ur sexuality and going to such drastic measures it does sound like u cud benefit from seeing a professional
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top